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I'm a first time mum to my 4 week old son, and I've noticed that he doesn't always like to settle the same way.
Sometimes he falls asleep while feeding.
Sometimes he falls asleep in his pram (and then he'll be zonked for hours and wake up hungry).
Sometimes he's grizzle a bit in his Moses basket after I've changed, fed and winded him, then eventually after much dummy dropping, mini tantrums, and me replacing his dummy, he'll nod off by himself.
Other times he'll scream and wail til I rock him in my arms and he falls asleep on me.

My partner says I shouldn't let him fall asleep in my arms because he'll start only wanting to fall asleep that way. I feel like I can't win in that situation because he complains that it's annoying when our son cries, then when I do the only thing that consoles him (holding and rocking him to sleep) he still complains.
Surely there's nothing wrong with giving my baby affection when it's what he wants?

Husband is probably feeling a little neglected, abused, and ignored with all the attention that a new baby needs - I think I read somewhere that those parents who weren't averaging about 50% of the care feel that way - and he needs to adjust if just for YOUR sake. Most pediatricians I asked said that you really can't spoil a baby until they are between 2 and 3 years old and that the more attention and bonding time the babies get early the less trouble they are when they are older - the more relaxed and content with themselves!
But don't forget hubby's ego either!

i got amazingly lucky with tavi, for the first couple of monthes she slept next to me in her bouncer, but when i start putting her in her crib she wont sleep anywhere else