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I read this on another forum. Why not have a journal entry explaining how you feel about the situation and that ur a lesbian, and are scared to tell them. Leave it openly on a place they will most certainly see it and hope that they will say they accept you and love you no matter what.

btw, I havent told my parents yet. I'll probably do the journal entry.

it's hard, yes.
But I mean, the best way to go about it be completely straight forward with them rather then have them find out and wait for them to say something...
that's no better than them basically waiting for you to say something, though they don't know what they are waiting for at this point.

My mom had suspicions about me when I was 14 because my best friend and I started hanging out a lot more once we started dating. but she didn't say anything.. she waited for me to say something.
Like, I came out when i was 14 years old. To my friends first than my family.

But it usually doesn't go as well when they are the ones confronting you about what they found out... because they had to find out not really from your mouth. It's easier for them to get over it if they hear and see you mouth it yourself.

I mean this is only how I felt when I came out.. but then again I've seen my other friends come out and their parents had a better time accepting them because their kids told them face to face.

Ihave one friend who I met last year who still hasn't come out to his mom, not like it's not hard to tell he's gay though.. but the way his mom treats him you can tell she knows, but she's waiting for him to tell her and not the other way around.

So my best advice, tell them, get it done and over with because in the long run things will be better, even if they freak out at first.. my parents did and my mom now loves me and my gf.

lol that could work... lol =]

glad to be of help. It helps giving advice when 98% of your friends in real life are also gay.
My gf and I made it a lot easier for a lot of them to come out because her and I were the first ones out of our littler group of friends to come out as being gay.
Many of my gay guys friends had trouble just coming out to us much less their parents.

My one friend from high school still has problems with his mom though, he's made it very, very clear that he likes men and his mom just refuses to believe he could be like that... not that it isn't funny cause of how she goes about talking to him about it rofl *his mom is c-r-a-zy.. I mean the poor guy calls his mom by her first time 70% of the time lol*

i'm 19 and still haven't come out to my parents. they're very conservative religious ppl, so they'd surely disown me if i told them. but i hav to tell them soon.. i can't keep hiding it. i just don't know how to tell them.

They should accept it, if it isnt against religion or something.
Its not like theres anything wrong with it.
People just dont like what their used too.
Things that are new/out of the ordinary scare people and they dont want those new things.
They have to get used to it.
Every one does.

And when I told my friends and girlfriend that I was bi, it felt great. it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders.

So think of how great its going to be when you tell you family, when you can be completely open to everyone

Coming out to your parents is different for everyone. I was only 15 when I staright out told my mom that I was a lesbian. She smiled at me and said that she kinda always knew. I told her that she had to tell dad because there was no way I was going to do it. Personally I was just plain ready to finally say it. You have to figure out if you are ready to tell them, I wish you luck. PM me if you need any more advice.