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 Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 4:51 pm
▷▷▷LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX!◁◁◁ RULES AND WHAT BELONGS HERE:☞ any and all conversation regarding sexual activity, regardless of sexual orientation☞ detailed sexual encounters (but no porn, please!)☞ talk about masturbation☞ discussion regarding body changes such as puberty (as well as periods, pubic hair, etc)☞ complaints about periods (you know you have 'em, women!)☞ talk about babies/pregnancy☞ anything you would deem inappropriate for the general public of the chat thread☞ don't read or post here if you aren't mature enough to handle perverse topics☞ understand that some people may be a lot kinkier in their sex discussions than you're comfortable with☞ REMEMBER TO ABIDE TO THE ToS YOU AGREED TO UPON JOINING GAIA! no porn or links to porn; keep conversation as pg-13 as humanly possible!
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Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 4:58 pm
FIRST! *takes thread virginity*
Yeah, I went there. cool
Anyway, so guys. Sex? It's pretty damn awesome.
So, first topic of discussion:
Vanilla or Kinky? And for those of you that enjoy kinky sex full of bondage and whatnot, do you also enjoy the occasional vanilla lovins?
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Posted: Fri Dec 18, 2009 4:22 pm
*Descends on the thread like a ***** on cake*
We all know I'm a kinky b***h. And that I like talking about it.
I occasionally prefer vanilla, depending on my comfort level. But I still like the "spice" of kink added to my vanilla - such as dirty talking, a bit of breath play, hands bound, etc.
I've really been in the mood for some blood play (being in the dominant position, naturally) with heavy knife play leading up to it, so I'm hoping on Sunday Kat and I'll have the time.
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Posted: Fri Dec 18, 2009 8:41 pm
Gimme some of that caek. <3 *grabby hands*
I know what you mean. Vanilla has its place, but I mean . . . once you go kink, it's kinda like . . . I mean it's awesome. o_o If Darrell and I are lucky enough to spend a whole day together, occasionally we'll do one vanilla thing and then really kinky s**t afterwords, like petplay, spanking, etc.
How'd you first get into blood play, by the way? I think Darrell and I both came to the agreement we wouldn't go there. We're kinda sissies.
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Posted: Fri Dec 18, 2009 9:35 pm
Pet play? Details, details!
It was after the first Dark Knight trailer was released. Kat was really into the Joker, and I'd constructed a complete character background for him loosely based on the original cartoon. She was Harley Quinn (still a doctor), and if I remember correctly we roleplayed him kidnapping her.. and ******** with her with a kitchen knife we bought. I sliced her up pretty good... carved "J" into her thigh, and you can still see the lingering scar almost a year later now. XD
I too thought I'd never go there. But we did. XD But we haven't gone that hardcore since then, due to the amount of time it took for her to heal.
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Posted: Sat Dec 19, 2009 4:38 am
Hehe, weeeell, I am totally into petplay. Darrell's my Master (in the bedroom, anyways-- he knows I have total emotional control over him XD) and I'm his ********. It took me a while to be able to actually admit to him that I was into it 'cause he was relatively vanilla before our relationship, but it turns out he was really eager to be a Dom so yeah.
Basically, it involves collaring (he bought me a standard leather dog collar) and leashing. Sometimes we'll do stuff like he'll walk me around (in the bedroom, since we REALLY don't want to get caught) and start ******** me right there on the floor. Or, you know, if I misbehave . . . bad kittens need punished. wink So then there's staying on all fours on the bed while he administers his punishment. There's usually a good amount of spanking involved, unless we're afraid someone will hear us. Aside from that, there's light bondage (we want to make sure we can get out of it easily in case we hear someone walk up to the room), forced blowjobs, and him making me lick his feet, among other things. All sorts of kinky stuff!
And whoa, that's intense. I guess it's a little easier for you guys to go past limits 'cause you get into character and stuff, instead of just roles. That's like, awesome. I'm not into it, but I can appreciate it. XD So now, when you do knifeplay, where do you make sure to stop in its . . . intensity, I suppose?
You do breathplay too, right? The idea kinda appeals to me but I'm claustrophobic so I'd yell that safeword so fast. XD Speaking of safewords, is that how you guys manage to keep limits on the play, or do you use some other system/no system at all? And if you use safewords, do you just have one STOP safeword, or like, levels? I've read some people have like "slow down", "go faster", and "stop" words. We have two--one for easing up ("tangerine") and one for stopping completely ("aquabib").
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Posted: Sat Dec 19, 2009 8:28 am
<3
Well, because we're in character, simply breaking character confirms we're uncomfortable. Actually, I'm pretty good at understanding Kat's limits - we roleplay rape a lot, so often she'll be struggling and insisting I stop IC, and I've got to cover her mouth and such at the same time, kind of preventing her from breaking character while keeping an eye on her response to tell good struggle from bad struggle. XD
But, generally, it's just breaking character and being honest. "Babe, slow down" and that sort of thing. I try to discuss what she wants ahead of time, but it annoys her because she likes spontaneity.
Roleplaying as characters has definitely allowed us to go further. Not to mention we learn a lot about the characters involved. Occasionally it's frustrating, because we ourselves are ready to get down and dirty, but the characters aren't and just won't. The safest route if we want to rush into the kink is "Petverse," which is an AU in which the Death Eaters won and now own other characters as sex pets, or the good ole fashioned "it's a SEX spell lololol" excuse. Not that we don't do other fandoms... but Harry Potter is kind of the center of our lives. XD
The best way to ease yourself into breath play is to experiment with it alone. Using your hand (between the thumb and index finger is best - often the "choke grip" of your whole hand doesn't work well) find an area on your neck that doesn't hurt when you press in, cutting off your breath. Masturbate a bit, and if you're sitting up, tilt your head back with your eyes closed. That's the safest way I've found, because you can get fairly dizzy, but when you start to fall back you know you need to let up a bit.
The first time you have Darrell take control again, try having him either use the same technique you did (showing him where it's comfortable to press), or pressing his hand flat over your mouth and nose. Handle getting off yourself instead of having him do it, so he can get a feel for your comfort level while you're fairly relaxed. When you need to breathe, grip his wrist - gently if it's not a big deal (so he can occasionally toy with making you wait to breathe) and clutching harder if you need to breathe right now. That way he'll get used to being in control and recognizing your limits so in the future, wrist-gripping won't be as necessary. It's quite erotic to have both the mouth and nose covered, because he can just shift his hand so you can breathe through your nose, but your mouth is still covered to prevent you from talking back if he decides to tell you how bad a girl you are. XP
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Posted: Sat Dec 19, 2009 8:44 am
Oh, that makes sense. It's probably a lot easier that way, too--a lot more straightforward. Sometimes I forget "tangerine" and just say "aquabib" so we end up stopping sooner than I would have liked. How difficult is it to tell good struggle from bad struggle? Sometimes I think I get a little too involved in the role part and struggle a little too, eh, realistically, and Darrell gets freaked out.
I can understand wanting spontaneity though. I guess since Dare hasn't been involved in BDSM as much as I have, he doesn't really think as creatively on that level, so I usually have to hint and/or blatantly say what I think he should do to me. But he's getting better at it.
I'll have to try that sometime. But masturbating is a little difficult for me now . . . Ever since I've had someone else make me come, I rarely ever come from masturbating. XD Which is sad, because I love masturbating! D:
I'll keep that in mind. He's held a hand over my mouth before while fingering/taking me from behind, and I reaaaaally liked that, so it wouldn't be that much of a change to move it to over my nose a little. I'll have to ask him if he's comfortable with it.
Edit: Also, I think the fact you guys RP HP-related sex is HELLA awesome. I also think it's awesome that you stick to character as much as you can and don't just cop out like bad fanfic writers.
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Posted: Tue Dec 29, 2009 4:40 pm
I can't bear swallowing Darrell's come and it makes me sad. emo
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Posted: Mon Jan 04, 2010 6:47 am
Sometimes it's a little difficult with Kat because she doesn't struggle like I do. When my struggle is 'good', it tends to be smoother with prettier positioning; 'bad' struggle is sporadic and violent. Kat tends to throw herself completely into the character and thrashes the same either way. The thing to keep in mind is sometimes -- and note, I do not condone non-consensual sexual violence -- bad struggle isn't grounds for immediate stopping; sometimes it only heightens the excitement, and as long as it's not prolonged, it brings your partner to the right mindset. It took time for Kat to trust me to that extent, and because I'm taller and stronger than her she can't fight me off and she has to trust me that it'll only last for a few more seconds.
I can't masturbate at all without a vibrator. :B
We roleplayed Lee Jordan and my Dolohov the other night, and that was interesting. XD Lee's cursed so he can't use his legs and Dolohov sliced his arm off, so Kat had to tuck hers into a sweatshirt. Now that I think back on it, the whole concept is really ******** weird and fetish-y. XD Oh my lord I have no shame.
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Posted: Mon Jan 04, 2010 7:28 am
Hmmm . . . that sounds difficult to differentiate, but I can understand. I think I tend to keep my eyes locked with Darrell when we do stuff like that (if I'm not blindfolded), so when I struggle he can usually tell the emotion I've got with it. It took him a while to be comfortable with not listening to me say "stop" or "no" since they weren't the safewords.
XD Wow . . . that is rather fetishy. I bet your bedroom activities are some of the most awesomely weird out there.
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Posted: Mon Jan 04, 2010 8:10 am
One of the most erotic instances of 'bad' struggle that I continued with was roleplaying as Maybel and Elliot (Snape's son); I had covered Kat's mouth and nose, but she wasn't in the mood for it and it genuinely terrified her. I was careful and in the end it only amplified everything.
I want to do some early Dolohov/Lee stuff with some bloodplay. Maybe if Kat's got two days in a row off this week and I'm light with it.
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Posted: Mon Jan 04, 2010 8:20 am
You guys must have a lot of trust between each other to do something like that and not freak out. That's really sweet, in a sexy sort of way. heart
I could never do bloodplay. x_x Mostly because I'm a wimp. I don't think Darrell could ever do it to me, either. I think once, when we were talking about hard limits, we said that we'd never want to do anything that legitimately could be dangerous (even if we were safe with it). Also, since I used to be a cutter, Darrell's always freaking out that when I get really upset/depressed/insane that I'll end up cutting myself, so I really doubt he'd want to do that to me. XD
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Posted: Thu Jan 28, 2010 9:54 pm
I really want to get Austin into more fetishes with me, but he's pretty straight-edge really, but at the same time if I ask him to do something he'll generally do it. I think mostly because at this point sex is still interesting enough on it's own we don't need added complications? Not sure what he really thinks about it.
If anyone has ever seen Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, or if you haven't... well either way, go watch it because it is the damned cutest movie ever. And there is this scene where they both take turns suffocating eachother with a pillow and then playing dead, and when you laugh you "lose" basically. It is so cute, and I love it.
I don't ever masturbate now. Maybe once every one or two months but really? Anyhow. :3 Just felt like posting.
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Johnny777Nny Vice Captain
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Posted: Wed Feb 03, 2010 7:44 am
Having a partner content with 'vanilla' sex can sometimes be frustrating. It's a slow process bringing them into kinky situations and having them adjust and enjoy it, which can be frustrating if you know you'd really enjoy it if they did such-and-such an action in bed for you but it'll take months to get to that point.
I want to see that movie, but no one ever has it. DX
God, I could not live like that. I remember back when I was too sheltered to know how to do it properly, and I'd try different things to ease the throb and need, but nothing worked.. I got the hang of it after Kat and I started messing around, and now I can't go three days without it affecting my ability to focus. XD
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