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 Posted: Fri Nov 27, 2009 12:06 pm
I have space in my life for a special someone.
The problem is that I have my heart set on this one specific person.
I cannot accept anyone else (I've tried).
The problem is that they're a total a**, and although they like me, they don't want a relationship.
This doesn't make me feel very good about myself, even though they have tried to convince me that it's not me...
This thing has gone on for a whole year.
That's a pretty long time to me.
I hate him right now. He makes me feel so worthless. I just had to tell someone. D: Sorry for bothering you...
Anyone else had something like this happen?
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Posted: Fri Nov 27, 2009 2:37 pm
Well, I've had something similar happen to me. But that is a story for another day. I understand what you're going through, in a way.
He's an idiot to not want something with you. I can say that you're not worthless, and if he doesn't get over himself, he'll realize what he has.
And don't worry about posting this. You should come to us more. We'll definitely help you out if you need it! ^_^
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Posted: Fri Nov 27, 2009 6:18 pm
sweatdrop I do actually. It's not great for your self confidence, or your interest in relationships.
*huggles* :/
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Posted: Fri Nov 27, 2009 7:02 pm
I know how that feels...
And don't worry about posting this here. We're here for you. whee
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Posted: Fri Nov 27, 2009 8:10 pm
Yep this has happened to me as well...cruel, ain't it?
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Posted: Wed Dec 02, 2009 11:28 am
I guess it happens to everyone. Doesn't feel very good, though.
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Posted: Wed Dec 23, 2009 8:49 am
i know exactly how u feel i think what u need to do is open ur eyes and point out every flaw this guy has to ur self i mean u even said he was an a** right just try to get over him ^.^ i know its hard trust me i know but it needs to be done hell maby if he sees u happy enough with some one els he just might get jelous wink
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Posted: Wed Dec 23, 2009 1:14 pm
Z3R013 i know exactly how u feel i think what u need to do is open ur eyes and point out every flaw this guy has to ur self i mean u even said he was an a** right just try to get over him ^.^ i know its hard trust me i know but it needs to be done hell maby if he sees u happy enough with some one els he just might get jelous wink I like that idea. Do you think listing out all his faults and reading them alond every day would help?
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Posted: Wed Dec 23, 2009 4:10 pm
Nobody said life was going to be easy. But if he's clearly told you he doesn't want a relationship with you, and you're STILL thinking about this guy, the only person that has a problem is you. Plain and simple. What if it was the other way around? Somebody you didn't like begging you to be in a relationship? I doubt you'd gladly agree, especially if you had no interest in the guy. Get over him, it's not the end of the world. There are wayyyy more people out there, and don't give me that "But he's the one!!!1!" bs, because 1. If he was he'd probably want to be with you, or wouldn't be as much of an a**, and 2. There are MILLIONS of other people out there for you to meet. Time wasted sulking on this guy could be used to find an even better one. Not to be an a**, but the truth hurts. Oh, and... Dysfunctional Underwear I cannot accept anyone else (I've tried). That made me laugh.
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Posted: Sat Dec 26, 2009 7:05 pm
It really sucks when that happens... I have been through that before.
But if it's been a year, you should try and move on! There are lots of other guys out there, you just have to find out how to get over this guy.
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Posted: Sat Dec 26, 2009 7:25 pm
I was on the other side of this situation at one point. In my case, it was because the person I was with at the time was manipulative, had family problems... not good. What made me realize I was with the wrong person was someone else, someone that I wanted to be (and now have a good chance of being) with even more.
It's possible that you're chasing the wrong person. Take a step back, and seriously ask yourself why you want who you're chasing after.
If, after a week of serious consideration, you still want to be with the person in question, ask them what it is about them that they don't want you to be damaged by.
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Posted: Sat Dec 26, 2009 9:49 pm
Shin Maikaru Nobody said life was going to be easy. But if he's clearly told you he doesn't want a relationship with you, and you're STILL thinking about this guy, the only person that has a problem is you. Plain and simple. What if it was the other way around? Somebody you didn't like begging you to be in a relationship? I doubt you'd gladly agree, especially if you had no interest in the guy. Get over him, it's not the end of the world. There are wayyyy more people out there, and don't give me that "But he's the one!!!1!" bs, because 1. If he was he'd probably want to be with you, or wouldn't be as much of an a**, and 2. There are MILLIONS of other people out there for you to meet. Time wasted sulking on this guy could be used to find an even better one. Not to be an a**, but the truth hurts. Oh, and... Dysfunctional Underwear I cannot accept anyone else (I've tried). That made me laugh. Thought I can some-what agree with you, you're being way to blunt in the situation presented and you should try to understand her feelings.
Although, I understand what she's going through. and you could of been a little nicer then what you previously said.
She's in it with some guy that is nothing but an a** hole, she feels like she cant leave him due to not being able to accept anyone else. Althgouth she tried, but.
She can come to realize that there are indeed more people out there willing to accept HER for who SHE is other then trying to make other people like her.
Pretty much, Be yourself.
you can fine someone else.
Nothing is lost.
Possibilities are indeed open. you just have to open your eyes fully.
Everything will be fine, promise.
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Posted: Sat Dec 26, 2009 9:52 pm
People should realize that being completely blunt without a sense of passion or anything of that matter can seriously change someone for good. Being completely blunt, can be really bad at times. Don't get me wrong, a little bluntness is good. but. Being TOO blunt, like I said.. can change the person for good, so when you go and do so remember your actions affect everyone around you.
-face palm-
Come to realize emotion matters.
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Posted: Sun Dec 27, 2009 1:13 am
Shin Maikaru Nobody said life was going to be easy. But if he's clearly told you he doesn't want a relationship with you, and you're STILL thinking about this guy, the only person that has a problem is you. Plain and simple. What if it was the other way around? Somebody you didn't like begging you to be in a relationship? I doubt you'd gladly agree, especially if you had no interest in the guy. Get over him, it's not the end of the world. There are wayyyy more people out there, and don't give me that "But he's the one!!!1!" bs, because 1. If he was he'd probably want to be with you, or wouldn't be as much of an a**, and 2. There are MILLIONS of other people out there for you to meet. Time wasted sulking on this guy could be used to find an even better one. Not to be an a**, but the truth hurts. Oh, and... Dysfunctional Underwear I cannot accept anyone else (I've tried). That made me laugh. I wasn't expecting life to be easy, but sometimes it just gets to be rather annoying... Well, he's clearly told me that he doesn't want a relationship with ANYONE right now. And he is clearly interested in me. I won't go listing the ways I can tell, because you don't seem to care anyways. And actually, I've recently noticed that I am interested in other people, but they're all in relationships. Or I find out that they don't want a relationship. :/ But don't women seem to have the habit of deciding they want a specific guy, and even if he turns out to be total a**, they usually continue liking him anyways? Or something...
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Posted: Sun Dec 27, 2009 1:17 am
Yeah, they do. Whether they realize it or not, they tend to do at times. Now, that's not true for everybody, of course, but it can be the general consensus on it.
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