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The "False-Perfection" Simulation

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 22, 2009 12:07 am


"Nobody's Perfect."

A reduntantly proclaimed statement, and yet... We all have a prototype mindset in our minds of the perfect person. A perfect mimicry of all we human beings can never be...Flawless

There are many ways we mimic others, and each form teaches us something. Not every form is good, nor is every form bad.

We simulate our own version of perfection and try to reach it, but we can only fail to do so. You cannot ban your flaws, only camoflauge them.

Some good ways people mimic others:

+ A little girl learns to apply make-up by watching her parents or older sister.
+ A child learns to clean by watching their mother.
+ We watch what others wear and mimic what we see is "In Style" or that we like.
+ We learn to write by copying the forms of the letters others have written for us.

Some bad ways people mimic others:

+ A kid's older brother starts to snort cocaine, soon he's doing it too because he watched his brother do it.
+ A little girl starts popping pills because she saw her mother do it and feels it couldn't be too bad.
+ A little girl watches as one kid bullies another and joins in because she doesn't want to be picked on herself.
+ A little boy hits other kids because his father or mother beats him and he feels being helpless is a weakness and he tries to hurt others so he doesn't feel so weak.

And there's another way that's more noticed:

+ A teenage girl sees a model on tv. The model is beautiful and skinny. She feels like she isn't pretty because she's not skinny enough. She turns to bulimia or anorexia or something else to try and become something that is no more than a sham. Something that doesn't exist.

The girls on tv....

So beautiful...So skinny...

But are they really that skinny? No. They're portrayed as such by computer graghics. If they were really that skinny they'd be dead, don't you think?

The "False Perfection" simulation.

Be this way and you'll be accepted...be that way and you'll be perfect. Be beautiful, popular, and athletic or else you're not worth being around.

He won't want you because you're not skinny enough. You're not pretty enough.

We fall for that every day...We know we can't be that way, but we try anyways...because we all want to BE ACCEPTED and have friends who like us...

But being an individual is so much more interesting? Why be like everyone else? That's boring and no fun. Why just be another number in the system?

Stir up something...

Make waves...be somebody you want to be.

Be Yourself and no one else.

Because whether you like it or not...that's the only person worth being.

Discuss?
PostPosted: Sun Nov 22, 2009 4:56 am


The saying "Nobody's Perfect" in itself is more often used as an excuse for not trying hard enough rather than for attaining an individual's idea of perfection, but I see your point there.

Here's my thought on perfection: If you believe fully and truly that you are perfect, you will quickly turn into an arrogant, conceited person. If you go through life with the knowledge that there will always be greater and lesser persons than yourself, you leave yourself room for improvement. So I feel it's actually a very wholesome thing to regard oneself as being imperfect, and accepting the fact that true human perfection is an oxymoron. Now, that doesn't mean that people shouldn't try to make themselves better. I hold very strongly to the attitude that "Nobody's perfect, but it's my job to get damn close."

I don't feel that mimicry is a method of seeking perfection. There can be any number of possible explanations for mimicking someone. Perfection may very well be the explanation behind many individual cases, but it's not the underlying reason across the board. Curiosity plays a huge factor in small children, and we are programmed from birth to imitate our parents; that's how we learn things.

I actually don't feel a desire to be "socially perfect" nearly as much as I used to. I've carved out for myself a very strong and well-defined identity, I'm respected by just about everyone I know, and I think of myself as a beautiful person. I don't really care about the rest. If someone doesn't like me for being the person I have chosen to be, then their opinion doesn't matter to me. In other words, I've developed a powerful defense mechanism against those who would want to put me down, and the confidence that I have gained from it has given me a lot of strength. Confidence, now that's the key to feigning perfection.

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 22, 2009 4:51 pm


Thank you for replying xD

The imitation examples were just that, examples of imitation. They weren't all about the main idea.

I had a problem at one point with my own views on the subject. Even at the time I first wrote this, which was not at 3 a.m. this morning.

I had very extremely low amounts of self-esteem. I couldn't call myself beautiful, because I could see my own faults and only those. Now I know better.

I can finally look at myself and say..."I really don't want to change who I am, because this is me. There's only one of me, and that's not a bad thing."

I had a lot of help in that department...but mostly it was when someone said to me..."Wasting time on negative thoughts about yourself and the situations you go through...especially things that are in the past is worthless. That's time you've wasted that could have been spent on you being happy."

He was right.
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