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 Posted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 2:53 pm
Today I broke up with my ever-loving boyfriend. He loved me so much, he was amazing. I feel horrible because it wasn't his fault. I didn't even get the chance to explain to him why I did it...
Here's what happened;
Everything was fine yesterday. All day until around 9 pm everything was great. I loved Zach, Zach loved me, no doubts. Then my best friend and ex-boyfriend called after me not hearing from him since Saturday.
He told me that he had been in a car accident, and he broke his collar bone. We talked for a few hours (like normal, actually shorter than normal) and I decided that he was more important to me than anything. He has saved my life, I tell him everything, and I genuinely love him. He told me for the first time in a long time that he loved me too. (I don't know if that Impacted my decision, but it probably did)
I decided to break up with Zach because I don't feel GENUINELY in love with him the way I do with Shawn. The problems are that Zach is a huge part of my life and whatever my actions were, I'm still not ready to loose him from my life. I didn't get to explain why I did it, and he was really pissed. He's avoiding me. Also, Shawn won't go back out with me ( ...yet). He says that I deserve way better than him and that I need to find someone closer to me. (At the moment his mom kicked him out of the house and is living with his dad in the "asscrack of the middle of no where.")
Did I make the right choice? I will always and forever hold out for the man I love (yes he's turning 19 and I'm 15). Will that be enough?
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Posted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 2:57 pm
Question for you first, why was your ex, your ex?
Edit: I feel cheated now. I got to 300 gold on your aquarium, 6 seconds, left, and it quit. Gold bonus just activated.
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Posted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 3:12 pm
I'm sorry!
He was my ex because he was turning 18 and his mom wouldn't let us be together. Since it would be illegal and all for us to actually do anything.
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Posted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 3:12 pm
To me, it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. You broke up with your man to be with the one you love more. However, do you think that?
What I think doesn't matter here. Whether you made the right decision or not is for you to decide. Just think about who it is you love more.
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Heavy_m3tal_hippy Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 3:14 pm
Well right now you have 3 years to wait until you can be with him as a bf/gf thing then. If you plan on that, then being with the other guy until then would be wrong, which makes your choice a good one to prevent hurting him.
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Posted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 3:33 pm
He doesn't live with his mom anymore, and we would hold ourselves back. We can control ourselves. Its only illegal to have sexual contact.
Also, I love Shawn more. Shawn is ... Amazing.
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Heavy_m3tal_hippy Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 5:05 pm
Shaky Truths Untold He doesn't live with his mom anymore, and we would hold ourselves back. We can control ourselves. Its only illegal to have sexual contact. Also, I love Shawn more. Shawn is ... Amazing. Then you made the right choice, don't you think?
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Posted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 5:17 pm
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Posted: Fri Nov 20, 2009 3:45 pm
Well to add to the story of what happened, I shall tell you what happened today. Zach didn't take it too well. He was mad. But only because I didn't talk to him. He wanted me back and I decided it couldn't hurt, seeing that I still like him just I love Shawn more, and now we're going back out again.
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Posted: Fri Nov 20, 2009 5:37 pm
But honestly.. as fair as you're trying to be to said bf, it's not fair to him if you're not in it the same way he is.
And if I was in this situation and I was the bf I'd get really pissed off that you dumped me for someone else, I'd ask why you even bothered dating me if you had such strong feelings for your ex still. I'd probably even tell you to wait for a while to really get over it and if you didn't then it wasn't worth a relationship or my time.
This being said from many years of talking about a very touchy subject with my own girlfriend and I. Not that we ever dumped each other for someone else, but we've said that it would be awful and stupid if one of us ended the relationship for someone else and we wouldn't blame the other for being totally pissed off and hurt.
I know everyone else said that it was really fair and stuff but I don't feel they are putting themselves in your boyfriends point of view or really the situation at all, no offense.
I don't mean this to be offensive or anything, just I'm putting myself into the situation and telling you how I'd have reacted. I think your bf is a lot nicer than me. But I'm also female
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Posted: Fri Nov 20, 2009 5:49 pm
I get your point. I can't wrap my head around the idea that he still wants me.
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Posted: Fri Nov 20, 2009 5:52 pm
men can be such simple creatures some times sweatdrop lol
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Posted: Fri Nov 20, 2009 8:00 pm
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Posted: Mon Nov 30, 2009 9:04 pm
well I find straight men to be much simpler than gay men... living with one is basically living with a huge drama queen. >___<
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Posted: Sun Jan 10, 2010 3:12 pm
Another addition to this story. Shawn has now told me that he doesn't love me like I love him. He loves me as a friend. He told me that he loves this girl named Vaughn in my school.
I had to pry it out of him, and after he told me I almost went suicidal again. I guess I'm content to be just friends if that's what he wants. I just want him to be happy. I get really jealous of any girl he even hangs out with... He doesn't know though.
Sooo... yeah.
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