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 Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2005 1:18 pm
Just when my life takes a turn for the better, my mom doesn't want to kick me out, I'm looking into colleges that I know I can't afford but want to attend anyways, I'm not depressed..
I realize I might have had another(count it: TWO.) miscarriage.
The first one happened in september. It would have been user Kage No Oni's child. We all know that story though.
I was put on birth control after that.
So in a nutshell, I met up with another gaia user and we had sex. I was a RETARD and decided to skip my period week on the perscription, but I bled through anyways. It didn't bother him, so we went ahead and had sex anyways.
After he left, I bled for a month. A really long, painful, heavy month. We're talking bleeding through superpluses and maxis every 2 hours heavy, unable to move from cramps painful. For the first 2 1/2 weeks, anyways. It slowly got better, and three days ago, finally stopped. I righted my perscription, got back on track, and didn't think anything of it.
But could I have conceived and killed another potential baby by continuing to take my birth control pills? Does any of that sound like it could have been another miscarriage?
I looked it up today, just to check it out, and I cried for three hours.
I never mourned the first one, and now that I could have had another one..
My moms taking me in for a D&C, but shes waiting until I turn 18, which is in 9 days. I've been dizzy, having back pains.
I didn't tell her that I had sex with the second guy. She just thinks my body is retarded.
I dunno what to do. What to think. I just want to sit here and cry.
(Crossposted in a couple of guilds.)
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2005 4:16 pm
Why are you upset that you aren't having a baby? Seriously.
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2005 9:10 pm
crying *hugs Katie*
No more unprotected sex, please.
Laurel is worried.
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2005 9:21 pm
Cathl Peabody Why are you upset that you aren't having a baby? Seriously. Because like most stupid pregnant teenagers, I WANTED THE CHILD.
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2005 9:23 pm
xLaurelX crying *hugs Katie*
No more unprotected sex, please.
Laurel is worried. It's not unprotected. I'm on birth control.
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2005 10:03 pm
Under normal circumstances I'd flame and troll you to high hell, but as we're in this guild together, and I'm an officer in this guild, and I don't dislike you, I'm going to refrain.
I understand that losing a child is probably very hard, especially for someone as young as yourself. And in that you have my condolences.
I think though, that you should consider yourself lucky in some, perhaps even minor respect. You still have a greater future available now. You can still go to college, and get a career without having to worry about a child holding you back. (And trust me, having children does ruin lives in this respect.) Also, if you ever do get into a serious relationship and end up married, you will be more appealing to your prospective spouse as you won't have the extra baggage that a child entails. Many men are unwilling to date single mothers as a rule of thumb. (Reason [among others]: You'll never love him as much as you love your child. A prospective husband would not want this kind of treatment from his prospective wife).
Though this single opportunity has been lost to you, you should realize that you have more opportunities available to you now. Though a child may have enriched your life immediately, you should consider how much better it will be in the future when you won't have to worry about the monetary aspect, and all that.
So yes, you have my condolences, I'm sorry for your loss, anyhow.
Oh, on a completely joking side note:
Stop mating with people on Gaia. We both spend time in Life Issues and know exactly the kind of people who dwell in there. Really now, lets not get ridiculous here.
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2005 11:03 pm
Leviticus can shove it xLaurelX crying *hugs Katie*
No more unprotected sex, please.
Laurel is worried. It's not unprotected. I'm on birth control. You went off the birth control and got pregnant.
Katie.
Don't do that.
You're too young.
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Posted: Sat Dec 10, 2005 1:31 pm
Honey you have got to go and see a doctor right now. I know it's painful and embarrasing (there is a post in Nikolita's guild that you can reference) but you need to know if something is going wrong down there. Your future fertility could be at state and if it's something bad, you life could be too!
Now the second thing is, why are you meeting up with random gaia guys for sex? I can't understand Mike, but at least you knew each other and there was some sort of relationship there. But why random guys? For one, you don't even know if they have diseases. Do you really want to put yourself through that? And even if you used a condom it's still risky.
I know you are loney and want to feel loved hun but this is not the way. Do you really want a guy to 'love' you just because you put out? I doubt it. I expect that you want the same thing that almost everyone else does, a normal healthy reltionship. You can't get that by meeting up and having sex. It's just not going to happen. If you want to talk about it more you know you can always pm me.
But please for your health and safety go and see a doctor.
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Posted: Sat Dec 10, 2005 5:37 pm
Leviticus can shove it But could I have conceived and killed another potential baby by continuing to take my birth control pills? Does any of that sound like it could have been another miscarriage? Taking birth control pills won't cause a miscarriage. The symptoms might indicate a miscarriage, but pills usually either prevent an egg from being released, or prevent it from implanting. It won't harm an already implanted egg.
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Posted: Sat Dec 10, 2005 11:47 pm
Chalda Honey you have got to go and see a doctor right now. I know it's painful and embarrasing (there is a post in Nikolita's guild that you can reference) but you need to know if something is going wrong down there. Your future fertility could be at state and if it's something bad, you life could be too!
Now the second thing is, why are you meeting up with random gaia guys for sex? I can't understand Mike, but at least you knew each other and there was some sort of relationship there. But why random guys? For one, you don't even know if they have diseases. Do you really want to put yourself through that? And even if you used a condom it's still risky.
I know you are loney and want to feel loved hun but this is not the way. Do you really want a guy to 'love' you just because you put out? I doubt it. I expect that you want the same thing that almost everyone else does, a normal healthy reltionship. You can't get that by meeting up and having sex. It's just not going to happen. If you want to talk about it more you know you can always pm me.
But please for your health and safety go and see a doctor. I'm not meeting up with random guys for sex! D: Good lord, no. And I didn't put out for him. I am going to a doctor, but I have to wait til after friday.
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Posted: Sat Dec 10, 2005 11:51 pm
Captain_Sipid_Peabody Under normal circumstances I'd flame and troll you to high hell, but as we're in this guild together, and I'm an officer in this guild, and I don't dislike you, I'm going to refrain. I understand that losing a child is probably very hard, especially for someone as young as yourself. And in that you have my condolences. I think though, that you should consider yourself lucky in some, perhaps even minor respect. You still have a greater future available now. You can still go to college, and get a career without having to worry about a child holding you back. (And trust me, having children does ruin lives in this respect.) Also, if you ever do get into a serious relationship and end up married, you will be more appealing to your prospective spouse as you won't have the extra baggage that a child entails. Many men are unwilling to date single mothers as a rule of thumb. (Reason [among others]: You'll never love him as much as you love your child. A prospective husband would not want this kind of treatment from his prospective wife). Though this single opportunity has been lost to you, you should realize that you have more opportunities available to you now. Though a child may have enriched your life immediately, you should consider how much better it will be in the future when you won't have to worry about the monetary aspect, and all that. So yes, you have my condolences, I'm sorry for your loss, anyhow. Oh, on a completely joking side note: Stop mating with people on Gaia. We both spend time in Life Issues and know exactly the kind of people who dwell in there. Really now, lets not get ridiculous here. Of course I'm torn about it, but I know I'd be better off without the child. In time I will get over it. I'm just angsty about it now because.. well. That was half me spewing out of my v****a. I should get my own memorable thread just for this. Two gaia users in under 2 months. It's almost as bad as that other pregnant girl who got an AFK cause she aborted or something? And Chiharu. God, I fail at internets.
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Posted: Sun Dec 11, 2005 9:31 am
She miscarried. And that account was a mule, I believe it might've been her main account that organized the AFK.
And you should get a memorable thread. xd
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Posted: Sun Dec 11, 2005 10:47 am
xLaurelX She miscarried. And that account was a mule, I believe it might've been her main account that organized the AFK.
And you should get a memorable thread. xd
And Lev, I'm happy you are going to the doctor. *big hugs* I'm worried about you hun and you know I just want you to be safe and happy.
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Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 6:28 pm
Leviticus can shove it Cathl Peabody Why are you upset that you aren't having a baby? Seriously. Because like most stupid pregnant teenagers, I WANTED THE CHILD. I hope you realize that irrationallity tends to create problems that might go beyond this. You should consider making decisions on a cost/benifit analysis only, and completely disregard your emotions because they are terminally wrong.
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Posted: Mon Dec 12, 2005 7:27 pm
Cathl Peabody Leviticus can shove it Cathl Peabody Why are you upset that you aren't having a baby? Seriously. Because like most stupid pregnant teenagers, I WANTED THE CHILD. I hope you realize that irrationallity tends to create problems that might go beyond this. You should consider making decisions on a cost/benifit analysis only, and completely disregard your emotions because they are terminally wrong.
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