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 Posted: Wed Nov 11, 2009 2:53 pm
So yeah,as a child,I was abused pretty badly. :/ Would get hurt if I tried standing up to my older siblings or my mom. >.>;
Anyways,what exactly do you think of it?How much do you think it would affect the person emotionally or in personality?
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Posted: Fri Nov 13, 2009 11:11 pm
In short, it varies from person to person. There are three types of ways to abuse, physically, emotionally, and sexually, which all have different effects, and each individual type of abuse has a variety of effects it may or may not have on the child based on his or her temperment, intelligence, levels of introspection, and other life experience. The topic is so broad that I would think you're better off on buying a book on child psychology.
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 2:05 am
People who are abused as children are more likely to seek abusive relationships when they grow up. Essentially, child abuse may discipline your children, but it means when they grow up, they'll seek relationships where they're constantly fighting, engage in masochistic/sadistic rituals (romantic or otherwise), and associate violence with love. Thus no hitting=no love. Bleh too lazy to make this a TL;DR post so I'm gonna cut this off here.
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 11:25 am
Teaches the children not to be weak!
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No.
It's wrong, and any being lowly enough to call upon it's perverseness should be sentenced to death. Don't think anyone would much mind if someone so lowly was killed.....
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Posted: Mon Dec 14, 2009 4:03 pm
Divine_Malevolence Teaches the children not to be weak! ...... No. It's wrong, and any being lowly enough to call upon it's perverseness should be sentenced to death. Don't think anyone would much mind if someone so lowly was killed..... It's not severe at all. It's just the media and all of that crap tricking us into thinking that it is. Verbal/emotional abuse can be 50 times more devastating than physical abuse and yet there is no law that says that you can't tell your child "You're gonna grow up to be a worthless f*****t who does nothing with his life but sit on his a** and play WoW all day". The reason for "abuse" is positive punishment in which when a negative is added to a situation when an action takes place, the child is less likely to engage in that behavior in the future. There is also negative punishment in which you take positive things away from the child in order to make them not engage in the behavior. They are both equally effective but in order to get the best results, you need to employ the use of both in some way.
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Posted: Mon Dec 14, 2009 4:07 pm
It is kind of a way to discipline kids, but it will hurt them, kind of like spanking, and they might grow up spanking their kids.Like mahi poi no ka oi said...
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Posted: Mon Dec 14, 2009 4:32 pm
maui boy no ka oi Divine_Malevolence Teaches the children not to be weak! ...... No. It's wrong, and any being lowly enough to call upon it's perverseness should be sentenced to death. Don't think anyone would much mind if someone so lowly was killed..... It's not severe at all. It's just the media and all of that crap tricking us into thinking that it is. Verbal/emotional abuse can be 50 times more devastating than physical abuse and yet there is no law that says that you can't tell your child "You're gonna grow up to be a worthless f*****t who does nothing with his life but sit on his a** and play WoW all day". The reason for "abuse" is positive punishment in which when a negative is added to a situation when an action takes place, the child is less likely to engage in that behavior in the future. There is also negative punishment in which you take positive things away from the child in order to make them not engage in the behavior. They are both equally effective but in order to get the best results, you need to employ the use of both in some way. There's a difference between punishment and abuse.
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 3:36 pm
Your not the only one who went through child abuse as a kid~
Through elementary school I had to face physical and emotional child abuse from my peers based on skin color ( lolwhiteboyintheghetto ) and the unspoken law of dominance between rock-head-smasher and rock-head-smash-ie.
I suppose my social disorder "Asperger Syndrome" didn't help out with friends in that bloody department either.
I wouldn't recommend child abuse as a form of teaching children not to be weak: I still have PTSD from those old years and a mild form of sociopathism.
However if you want to teach them to be persnickety little shits that do what they're told and follow the path of society-drones then that's the perfect way to go.
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:03 pm
My heart goes out to you, althought that might not be much of a help. It is proven that positive reinforcement is always better than punishment, so I don't buy into most of the arguements justifying it.
I am a person fully aware of the terrible things that are out of a person's control and how that shapes them, but I also know that much of it is on you for the future.
I don't know how old you are, and whether or not you are still in the abusive relationship. There is the chance that your family does not think nor mean to hurt you, but thinks it is neccessary. An attempt at open dialogue is needed immediately. HOWEVER, in situations like this you must be careful what you say. If you say they are intentionally hurting you, they will dismiss you. If you say that you are hurt by how they treat you, there is a better chance of success. This is if you do have a chance to work things out.
If you DO NOT have the ability, get outside help. The damage they might accuse you of doing would be much less than the damage caused by a family that accepts abuse.
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Posted: Sat Jan 16, 2010 9:33 pm
This is a sucky conversation but abuse is different from punishment and I don't think spanking is wrong but beating a child until hes black and blue thats wrong
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Posted: Thu Aug 12, 2010 5:36 pm
the-fluffy-angel This is a sucky conversation but abuse is different from punishment and I don't think spanking is wrong but beating a child until hes black and blue thats wrong I partially agree on this. Spanking a child maybe is OK, but only up to a certain age. For example, it wouldn't make sense for a parent to spank their 15 year-old. Spanking or slapping isn't always the best answer though, as at a young age, it can ruin their self-esteem or give them the idea that it's alright to physically hurt other people.
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Posted: Thu Aug 19, 2010 3:41 pm
I've seen child abuse. Through friends, and my everyday life. It's not pretty. I've seen kids who have anxiety issues, near suicidal depression, etc. etc. etc. I actually stopped an act of it in public while at Wal-Mart. o_o Lady was beating the s**t out of her kid just because he asked for some skittles. I almost broke her arm. >_> Alot of people ignore it in public as well too. Ignorance doesn't help either. I find it wrong. I was never abused as a child, and I don't think any child should be abused either. I mean, yea, me and my father duked it out when I was a teenager, but that's my fault. I picked the fight with him, I was immature and full of piss and vinegar. :
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