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Ok, so I'm a big girl about....size 18 to 20 ish! I cant actually remember!
My problem has been around for a long time and to be honest I hate my body.

Always have and probably always will.

You see, I have this massive birthmark on my left thigh, covers the whole thing, (as my friend says it looks like a map which it kinda does.) So there is that problem.

Problem number 2: I have no lap, my thighs are so big they just.....slump down.

Problem 3:
I'm fat, lets face it, I have some big belly and big arms. always have been like that.

But the biggest problem I have is my boobs, I used to be 40D but am now 38E. Not a massive difference, but big enough. And I have the most common thing when it comes to boobs, which is one bigger than the other, but my right one is like....two cup sizes smaller than my left and it makes me so insecure.

Any advice? Sounds like I have that body dismophica thing.

We're usually far more critical of our own bodies than other people are. The birthmark doesn't actually do anything. It doesn't matter, and no decent person is going to turn you down because of it. So why bother worrying? Accept it as part of your body. Same goes for the uneven breasts. None of us are perfect.

My aunt burned her leg as a child. I'm talking a foot to thigh burn. I'm talking the kind of burn where they had to take skin from her back to cover it up. I'm talking about the kind of burn that leaves scars you can see from a long ways away. But oh well. What is she going to do? No one around her sees it as a big deal. She still wears her shorts and her bathing suits. She still drips confidence. She has four children and a husband who still adores her after all these years. That burn could have run her life. It could have made her wear sweatpants and avoid men. But she did not let it. Because the burn was only as big a deal as she made it.

Big girls sure as hell can be sexy too. But being big is usually a sign that your diet is bad or that you're not getting enough exercise. And that's an issue because then you're at a greater risk for things like diabetes, heart disease, stroke, even cancer.

So don't worry so much about your weight, your size, or looks. But do examine your diet. Are you eating a lot of whole grains? Fruits? Vegetables? Did you know that three large meals aren't recommended anymore? Six small meals are actually recommended now. Because eating frequently keeps your metabolism running fast, which means you burn fat easier!

Also be aware that your brain doesn't realize that your stomach is full right away. It actually takes most people's stomach 20 minutes to send the "I'm full" message to the brain. And that means people who eat fast are much more likely to overeat. So make sure you eat slowly. Put a small amount on your plate to start out with. You can always go back for more later.

Make sure you are getting some exercise too. Even just walking around the block helps.

If you want more information on nutrition, you can talk to a doctor. If you can't shake these insecure feelings, you might want to talk to a counselor.