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Love you, too Mom... ((WTF?????))

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Posted: Tue Oct 20, 2009 4:14 pm

I'm not going to say the names of cities or family, but this is basically what happens about twice a day:

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Me: Hey, Mom, can I-
Brother(Bro): (walks in, not realizing I was just talking) Hey, Mama! Can you take me to that music store in ____________? I know it's, like, thirty minutes away, but...?
Mom: Oh, sure, _____!
Me: Um, I was talking...
Mom: (ignoring me) What did you want from the music store?
Bro: Just some guitar strings.
Me: (a little louder) I was talking...
Mom: (a little louder) Oh, that's fine, then! Did your strings break?
Bro: (looks at me, but wants to stay on Mom's good side) No, but they're getting close.
Me: (is shouting) I was talking!
Mom: Wishy, that was really rude! Your brother was talking before you! Ugh! Why are you so rude?
Bro: Mom, actually-
Mom: No, _____! You were talking first!
Me: Love you, too, Mom! (walks off) Love you, too.

I love her, but I never feel like she does me. What do I do? She's awesome, but it's like I'm never good enough! It's like my brother's oh-so much better than me and however hard I try, he always gets what he want and I don't! I'm absolutely sick of it! What do I do?

Edit: When she does bother to talk to me, it's usually either to bash me (You never try!) or say something in baby-talk (Aww, I'm sawwy, baybay! -pouty lip-), or she'll have this fake laugh ("hmm-hmm!" with a fake smile or "kekeke!" ugh...)

Posted: Tue Oct 27, 2009 2:34 pm

I have a very close friend in a similar situation.

Unfortunately, any advice I have won't do you good unless you are willing to try it.

Despite your mom's attempts to ignore you or change the subject, I really think you should talk to her. Let her know how you feel. That is very important.

If after that, she continues to treat you the same way, maybe try doing the same thing to her. Talk to her like she's a baby! Put her down all the time. Maybe if you show her how she's been treating you, she will realize how hurtful she is being. [[Of course, this can always backfire and get you into more trouble so if your mom is one with a temper, this might not be such a good idea. Just throwin' it out there.]]

Not that I am on your mother's side, but she might not even know how much her actions are hurting you.

If after you talk to her, she doesn't change, you could always talk to a counselor at your school. I know some people don't think it helps, but most counselors do want to help and can do some good if you let them.

Have your counselor call your mom in so all three of you can have a chat.

I really hope you can work through this! If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me.

Good luck!

-Mel-

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Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:55 am

wow... thats a bat situation...

I'd give her the silent treatment.

Anything you have to say to her I'd write it down before you want to say it and then just hand it to her... that way you cannot be interupted. If she asks "whats this all about" Write down on paper that you are tired of always being interupted and since you cannot get a word in edgewise with out her yelling at you about something that from now on you will submit all of your thoughts, comments, suggestions, and questions in writing.

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