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 Posted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 3:31 pm
I feel like I make a lot of these kind of threads... ._.; And, I feel like I'm acting really stupid, but...
I met this guy in my May session class. I noticed him pretty much right away, but it ended up he was the one who talked to me first. We didn't really talk a lot though, just a couple times. I don't even think he told me his name when we talked... I think he's pretty shy.
Well, about a month later, on a whim I added him on facebook. To be honest I was a bit surprised he accepted the request, haha... I mean, we hadn't exchanged names, and when I saw him downtown one day he didn't wave or anything. So anyway, I was looking at his page, and we started talking more, and it seems like we have a lot in common... Interest-wise anyway, we're almost identical. So, in light of this, I casually threw in, "Wanna hang out sometime?" into the conversation.
He continued with the conversation while conveniently ignoring that part entirely. I mean, I'll admit that we barely know each other, but... I'm kind of wondering, why would he ignore it entirely? Wouldn't you at least make up an excuse or something?
So I was wondering about that... I still am... Then he told me not too long after that he was leaving the country for the rest of summer. He didn't go online or anything while he was away, so there was no way for me to keep talking to him.
He just recently got back to the States... And now I'm wondering, what should I do? I don't want to seem desperate or bother him or anything, but I do want to talk to him again... Should I send a message his way? Should I just wait until I see him around campus (which, with 50,000 people, might not happen...)
Really, just in general, what should I do? I'm interested, what do the guys around here think he's thinking? Why would he ignore something like that entirely? Is it because he has no interest, or what? It's driving me just a little crazy...
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Posted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 4:01 pm
Awwwwww!!! *hugs tight*
I remember something like that when I was in high school.
We had one class together, art class. We'd talk alot during
class but afterward he'd kinda ignore me. Then I tried asking
him out and he shot me down saying he didn't know me
well enough. I remember thinking maybe it was just an excuse
because I was weird... like talking to me was a guilty pleasure
he couldn't let others know about. So we went back to just
talking in class but nothing more. He signed my yearbook.
I don't know if that is what your friend is thinking and I hope its not.
If it is, well, you don't need someone who'd be embarrassed to even
be seen with you outside of the normal standards. It's just mean.
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Posted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 4:06 pm
How long has he been back? I would say give it about 3 days then comment "hey welcome back" or something. If he replies and convo goes back to normal. try sneaking that "we should hang out sometime" in there but wait till conversation is back to normal or it'll feel kinda creepy. If he doesn't reply then you're better off without him.
As far as ignoring the we should hang out. I can only think of:
1. He didn't hear you.
2. He only wants to be friends and doesn't want to mess up what he feels is a good thing.
3. He has a gf that he hasn't mentioned
4. (not to sound harsh or rude) he's not interested and trying not to be rude or hurt your feelings.
5. When he left the country maybe he didn't know how long he was going to be out of the states. or if he was even going to be back. and didn't want to get to close to someone he may not see again
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Posted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 6:01 pm
Hmm, thanks guys ^.^
I don't think he's embarrassed or anything, because it was in class when we talked that he was with the "cool" people. (Haha, are there still "cool" people in college?) And, I can narrow down a few of those reasons... Hmm...
Anyway, yeah, he just got back, so maybe I'll wait and see if I see him around. All the classes for his major are by mine. Guess I'll just see what happens.
I still feel silly about this whole thing x.x
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Posted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 8:39 pm
Don't feel silly at all! I would honestly be in the same boat as you are now if I ever was in a situation like yours. There is nothing to feel silly about.
D pretty much took away what I would of posted about what his reasons may be, but yeah just wait a few days before messaging him, or even talking to him at the college. 3nodding
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