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 Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 1:45 pm
So I decided to start a conversation thread because I really just wanted to complain about a beef I keep having with my hubby and wanted to know if anyone else had a beef with someone close to them too.
1st beef. (We can't go canoeing together)
2nd beef (he hates Tattoos and I want one) well he still hates tattoos but likes mine and only will allow one (for now mwahaha)
3rd beef (mentioning things that are impossible like dangling a bone in front of a dog behind a fence 50 feet high and saying here you go boy)
Tell me what you think.
Here is what happened. A little Bio
My twin sister and I were going to get tattoos together for our 22 birthday (we will soon be 2 cool She and I decided on a big sister little sister Kanji tattoo (I was going to get the little sister tattoo) We had been talking about it for years and planning it for a birthday present to each other. Well my husband drove us to the place and we discussed it and at the last moment he wouldn't let me get it. So I sat watching my sister get our tattoo. Now I have told him I only want that one and won't get more but he has fought me tooth and nail saying he didn't marry me with tattoos so he doesn't want me to get any now. He likes my body the way it is. I just think he has an irrational misconception of body art. I hate belly button piercings yet he loves them and wants me to have that but god forbid I get a tattoo. I had given up talking about it because I was tired of hearing his whining about it when just last week he watched a program about the evolution of tattooing and they mentioned a new fad (uv light tattoo ink) The white can barely be seen in sunlight but under black light it glows. (the 3rd beef) Yes it's true but I don't trust it so basically he says "here is something that she will never do so it's ok if I say she can get a tattoo out of this."
It really pisses me off.
And the first canoe trip thing. We fight because he can't sit back and relax. Drink a beer and let the river take us.
It really...really pisses me off.
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Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 1:47 pm
Update on page 2
I got my Tattoo, so One for me
So More beef on page 2! Keep adding yours. It makes me feel better about my relationship. Just kidding. I know I am not the only one out there though.
Reserved for more beefs in the future.I will try and add some more stuff as often as I can. I know sometimes people need to vent. I know I do.
I am 28 Btw.
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Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 1:53 pm
Please write your beefs here. I'd love to here them and get some feed back on mine as well. Let the Beef stew begin.
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Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 2:06 pm
Well I have something to say about the getting no tattoo and the fact that he says "he didn't marry me with tattoos so he doesn't want me to get any now." Your words... I would ask "What did you marry me for? My mind or my body?" It's your body you can do what you want (Unless for some reason you can't like medical or religion).
Now my Beefs with my hubby:
1 ) He doesn't seem to listen to me
2 ) I ask him important questions and he just tries to avoid the situation.
3 ) We have two kids and he's accusing me for the condition of our apartment when it seems all I'm doing is cleaning up after the kids... AND WE HAVE A THIRD ON THE WAY!!!
Background info: My husband and I are married for two years and the main reason we were married was because he got me pregnant while we were engaged to begin with I don't think either of us are happy because I prefer talking to my friends then talking to him or even doing anything with him. And at the insistence of our religious leader we are going into marriage counseling.
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Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 3:05 pm
Wow. That's rough Natsu. I'm a single parent because of crap like that too.
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Posted: Tue Aug 25, 2009 10:19 pm
that is rough. My Hubby and I don't have kids yet but we have discussed the cleaning issue and then best thing to do is list out what you do all day... hand it to him when you bring him his beer and dinner and then say "This is what I do all day and this is how much I think I should be paid for my services."
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Posted: Tue Aug 25, 2009 10:22 pm
After 5 years I finally win! I'm getting my tattoo next week. YES!
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Posted: Thu Aug 27, 2009 11:05 pm
Good for you. You're married, not owned. I'm not married yet, and may never be. But if I ever do, I don't want my wife to feel like she has to get permission from me over a tattoo or anything else. I would expect we would discuss decisions and come to a compromise. Maybe a small one that isn't covering up half your body or something. You don't want the piercing, well, he didn't marry you with one, he can't expect you to get one now. It's the same theory.
From what you've said and I could be reading it wrong, but that kinda reminds me of my brother-in-law. She complains that he tells her what clothes he likes to see her wear and what he doesn't like she should just throw out. If he don't like it, she "looks like someone he don't know." Now he's telling her they need to have a baby. She doesn't really want one right now, but she's supposed to go along with it. "You'll be happy after we bring it home." I'd like to pop the guy, but my sister hasn't seen through him and he'd just turn in to a fight every time she wanted to visit us.
I guess that's my beef, but it ain't with my spouse. sweatdrop
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Posted: Thu Aug 27, 2009 11:46 pm
TequilaRose that is rough. My Hubby and I don't have kids yet but we have discussed the cleaning issue and then best thing to do is list out what you do all day... hand it to him when you bring him his beer and dinner and then say "This is what I do all day and this is how much I think I should be paid for my services." Yeah I should do that for dinner cause he doesn't drink and I don't either. Keep tally of diapers changed, messes cleaned up that they made, loads of dishwashers run. TequilaRose After 5 years I finally win! I'm getting my tattoo next week. YES! That's great to hear did my advice help? or was it something else that finally got him to agree to it? Wretched Soul From what you've said and I could be reading it wrong, but that kinda reminds me of my brother-in-law. She complains that he tells her what clothes he likes to see her wear and what he doesn't like she should just throw out. If he don't like it, she "looks like someone he don't know." Now he's telling her they need to have a baby. She doesn't really want one right now, but she's supposed to go along with it. "You'll be happy after we bring it home." I'd like to pop the guy, but my sister hasn't seen through him and he'd just turn in to a fight every time she wanted to visit us. Well he sounds like he can become abusive to her, I would suggest that you talk to her point out the fact that he is controlling what she is allowed to do, that he's forcing her to do something she doesn't want to do, another thing is that he's making her say away from her family that she has every right to see. And that it could escalate to him hitting her and even possibly her death or if she does become pregnant the risk that he will hurt the child. So in short SHE NEEDS TO GET OUT NOW!!!!
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Posted: Fri Aug 28, 2009 8:52 am
My exhusband forbid me from ever getting my ears - or anything - pierced. I had my ears pierced when I was a kid, so he tolerated that.
When I left him, I ended up with 14 piercings 2 years later.
I'm happy he decided to let you do it. It obviously means a lot to you. smile
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Posted: Sat Aug 29, 2009 11:27 pm
He hadn't stopped her from seeing us. He's just very controlling and talks everybody she knows down. I know the signs. So now she comes to complain about him and we let her. The more irritated he makes her and the more we just support her, the better chances we can get her to realize the guy's a jerk and she'll leave. Before they have kids.
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Posted: Mon Aug 31, 2009 5:25 pm
Well he doesn't go that far as to tell me how to dress or what I can and can't buy. just the tattoo thing. We had a talk about it and he finally said that if it's important to me that he will support it. he was just afraid that I'd go overboard with it. Like a sleeve or something. I might put a pic up after I get it on Wednesday.
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Posted: Tue Sep 01, 2009 7:45 pm
Tattoo tomorrow. I am drawing it out right now.
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Posted: Tue Sep 01, 2009 8:00 pm
TequilaRose Tattoo tomorrow. I am drawing it out right now. Are you nervous? I got mine back in April & it only took about an hour (pic on my profile) I'm newly single & in a new relationship w/a wonderful guy smile Sooo, no beefs right now.... xd
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Posted: Tue Sep 01, 2009 8:13 pm
Good luck with your tattoo ~ and Bratty is very happily unmarried.
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