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O.o Umm yeah sounds like lies to me... Some of them could be true and some obviously could not but when someone throws them all out it's more likely that they are lie. Chances are she is actually really scared about the pregnancy and looking for support but doesn't know any other way to get the attention. You could tell her that you are having trouble believing some of the things she is saying and that you want to support her but it's hard to do when you don't feel like you can trust what she is saying. Granted that will probably make her very angry whether she is lying or not. No one likes to get called a liar even if it's true so probably the best thing to do would be ignore the stories and continue on best you can. It's only a few more months.

lol Sorry, that last one she told is pretty amusing. She's not even making milk yet.

I can understand why you're getting annoyed by this though. I don't worry about stepping on people's feelings too much usually, so I guess if it were me in this situation, I'd just try as best I could to correct the parts of her story that you know can't be true in the kindest way possible: ie, pull out a book or something on pregnancy and how things develop rather then just telling her point-blank that she's full of it. From the sounds of it, she doesn't really understand anything that is going on or when it should be happening, almost like she's trying to fake her way through it based on what she imagines is normal? Which as the others have pointed out, sounds like a ploy for attention and sympathy.

Maybe you could get her a good pregnancy book and she'll shut up long enough to read it? mrgreen

sound to me like she's just looking for attention for some stupid reason or another. Be there for her but tell her her lies need to stop and that you will not put up with all the dramatic exaggerations. There is no need to stop the world because she's pregnant.
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I totally agree. I hate when people do this, too. As if being pregnant isn't exciting enough?
This may sound bad... but are you sure she's pregnant? I'm assuming since you mentioned something about her at 5 months, that you can see that she is.
Maybe suggest you go with her to another doctor's appointment? For support, or because you have some questions you want to ask, about stuff "you've read"?
If she is heavily opposed, then it's probably very likely (as if it's not already obvious) that she's lying.
I don't really have any advice... for someone lying that much, it's hard for me to believe they're really pregnant. Lying about a kid's health is so immature that maybe she shouldn't be HAVING the baby, or she's on a route already to Munchausen syndrome!

Um, no. That can't happen.
And since she did say she had something that happened to YOU, it's quite likely she forgot that you're the one who said it to her, and she just remembered hearing some problem so decided to claim it was her own.
It's very sad. This girl needs help, and I already feel bad for her child.
Maybe you could just gently say, "I just want to know... are all these things you're saying true? Being pregnant is exciting enough that you don't need to make up complications to get attention. People love pregnancies no matter what. If you're not lying, I'm sorry, but some of the things you've told me just don't sound realistic. Is it possible your doctor just doesn't explain things well do you, or maybe you misunderstand?"

Oof, sounds to me like this is a girl who loves attention. A lot of girls are really happy to be pregnant because suddenly they are getting all the focus. The fact that she is going so far as to invent or exagerate problems to get more attention is a huge warning sign.

I think you need to keep an eye on her and the baby (once it's born, obviously). This could turn into an ugly situation. The first possibility that comes to mind is that she may have really bad depression after the baby's birth. There's the hormones, obviously, but then there's the fact that the attention is entirely shifted from the mother to the newborn. It can be even worse than older sibling syndrom because just a week prior she was getting all the attention. There's a possibility that she might harm herself or the baby.

The second possibility that comes to mind is Munchausen Biproxy. Basically, it's like hypochondria. The difference is that the patient doesn't pretend to have a sickness for attention, but rather inflicts sickness on others. Some women will slowly poison their husbands or other family members to keep them "sick." Others will actually physically beat family members. The idea is that they can play the role of the "suffering mother/wife." They can, just as your friend is doing now, come to friends and talk in desperation about how they haven't slept in a week because their child keeps throwing up, or how hard it is to care for an invalid, etc...

Of course, there's the possibility that she will just get over it with the birth. All I am saying is that you should keep an eye out.