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 Posted: Thu Jun 18, 2009 12:38 am
I have 2 forster brothers not of my faith in my home, a nephew who is of my faith a brother and my parents. i'm truing to trust them all but it's keeps getting harder as things devlop and go along. I'm only stating this issue now due to the fact that i discovered a insignifigant item was stolen from my room. As insignifigant as it was it was still mine i bought it.
How can i trust people if they have stolen from me?
Anyway how would you handle the situation?
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Posted: Fri Jun 19, 2009 3:13 pm
Are you sure it's been stolen and not borrowed? It is the habit of siblings of every stripe to borrow your stuff without asking. Have you spoken with your parents? If they're fosters, keep in mind they've not had the most stable life before and try to approach this in a way that will help build their trust in you. Don't be accusatory or aggressive. Stay calm. State facts. And pray for the help you need to see this through in a way that will be good for all of you. I'll pray for you too. smile
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Posted: Sat Jun 20, 2009 12:52 am
Tell them you can't find it and ask for help looking for it. if it was borrowed, then they'll confess and return it. if you actually misplaced it (common occurance for me and sometimes i falsely accused people), they;ll help you find it. Since it's insignificant, if you can't find it in a few hours time, shrug it od and say oh well. If it's really an important common use item, make a fuss, but if it's really nothing, brush it off. Just show them that you know when your things are missing and that you care. if they're any good, they'll realize this was only a warning.
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Posted: Fri Aug 07, 2009 5:22 am
I think trust is not just trusting others won't hurt you but understanding why they do. People are bound to hurt other people but it's not as hurtful if you understand why. Then you can work through the problem and grow. If you listen to them and learn what they're going through you'll better be able to resolve the problem. Of course while some people will open up others will take more time. If you confront them about it do so in a way that shows you are concerned for them and not angry at them. Anger keeps you from understanding each other.
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Posted: Sun Sep 20, 2009 12:33 am
Ask if they had seen it, or just say that something is missing and that if it is returned, you won't ask questions
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