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Posted: Fri May 08, 2009 10:23 pm
theres someone ive known since i was 5 and ive hated him since i was 8 and no matter what i do , ( pray a/b it , try to get along ) the hatred i have for him grows - theres no way to avoid him ( i live with him , i have no choice hes my step dad ) and i try to ignore everything he says and does and i cant i dont know how to stop this , hate is a sin and i know that its commiting murder and idk i just cant get rid of it it gets stronger and stronger and i hate feeling this way , i feel like it consumes me , and whats more oy a/b this is , i dont believe hes a believer by what he says what he does what he even says he believes and honestly i want him to go to hell i dont even want to help him i used to , but now i just cant what should i do ? i cant have this hate in my heart
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Posted: Sat May 09, 2009 10:31 am
Congratulations, you truly know what it is to hate. you don't have many options. as you can't kill him (well, you could but it's messy and general hard to get away with.) iwould recomend finding a way to purge the hatred. a satanist would just curse him and be done with it and i don't know many constructive ways to purge hatred besides that one. but i must bring up two questions. Firstly, having seen your oppinion on sin i'm not sure why you wory about it's effects maybe you could enlighten me. and secondly why do you hate him? if you examine the problem you may be able to find a way around it.
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Posted: Sat May 09, 2009 4:40 pm
id rather my heart not be consumed with hatred- there are alot of reasons , things hes said to me , things hes done to me , how he treats other ppl , where do i begin ?
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Posted: Sat May 09, 2009 7:18 pm
i'm not sure where you should begin either just know that it is healthy to hate. i'm surprised to hear that you have hated him since 8 years old. i didn't realyknow hatred until i was 20. although i did try to stab my own step father five years before that, but that was simple anger.
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Posted: Sun May 10, 2009 12:30 pm
I've struggled with this too. Just know that the power of the Holy Spirit and love and forgiveness is so much stronger than hatred.
It's understandable if this person has said or done hurtful things. I used to struggle with anger problems, sometimes I still do though it's a heck of a lot better than how I used to be.
Ask God for patience, and if you just can't deal with your stepdad, simply distance yourself from him as often as possible. Go to a separate corner and pray. It's easier said than done, believe me, I know. But nothing is impossible.
Trust that God will take this out of your heart. Perhaps your stepdad needs help? Someone can say that they believe, and deep down still need God.
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Posted: Sun May 10, 2009 3:27 pm
I've always found a little wrath here and ther to be quite healthy. also i've never understood trying to love somone who is truly desreving of your hatred. loving your enemies never made sence to me.
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Posted: Sun May 10, 2009 4:52 pm
Zora Darkblade I've struggled with this too. Just know that the power of the Holy Spirit and love and forgiveness is so much stronger than hatred. It's understandable if this person has said or done hurtful things. I used to struggle with anger problems, sometimes I still do though it's a heck of a lot better than how I used to be. Ask God for patience, and if you just can't deal with your stepdad, simply distance yourself from him as often as possible. Go to a separate corner and pray. It's easier said than done, believe me, I know. But nothing is impossible. Trust that God will take this out of your heart. Perhaps your stepdad needs help? Someone can say that they believe, and deep down still need God. thx , im deffinately going to pray for patience he does , but he doesnt think so and its really really hard for me to pray for him ><
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Posted: Tue May 12, 2009 2:38 pm
Lazarus The Resurected I've always found a little wrath here and ther to be quite healthy. also i've never understood trying to love somone who is truly desreving of your hatred. loving your enemies never made sence to me. I've always wondered about that too. In a sense, loving your enemies really doesn't make much sense, and it goes against our very nature. I struggled with this for a really long time Then I figured, I have God's love, yet I don't think I deserve it. To me that was an example I needed to follow, even though it was REALLY hard to achieve. For years and years all I ever felt was anger and hatred towards people who hurt me. I held a grudge against everyone, and it only made me sick - physically, spiritually and mentally. I realized that I had to try to let go because it wasn't healthy, at least not for me. In all that time cursing everyone and harboring hatred, I was only hurting myself. I knew I had to do something, so I just decided to forgive and forget... and it was not easy. Now I can honestly say I have forgiven and I don't even remember the past anymore. When I do remember, it just doesn't hurt as much as before. I've prayed and prayed for years for God to make me forget and to put love in my heart. I'm really not a loving person, so in a sense I feel like it's a miracle that I even care for those people today.
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Posted: Thu May 14, 2009 11:17 am
so you deny your own nature in trying to live up to a being that does not have the same nature? you deny yourself to try and be more like god. this is pretty much the problem the satanist has with the christian mentality.
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Posted: Sun May 17, 2009 5:08 pm
Lazarus The Resurected so you deny your own nature in trying to live up to a being that does not have the same nature? you deny yourself to try and be more like god. this is pretty much the problem the satanist has with the christian mentality. I don't try to deny myself, but I simply try to control my emotions. If I hadn't done this, I would still be angry. It is in my nature to be rash, quick-tempered and stubborn, but if I don't learn to control that, then my emotions control me rather than the other way around. In the New Testament, it says "I can do all things, but I will not be mastered by anything." I am trying to control my own emotions to be self-disciplined and that's something that I do need a little help with.
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Posted: Fri Sep 04, 2009 1:19 pm
cupcake-xxxxx theres someone ive known since i was 5 and ive hated him since i was 8 and no matter what i do , ( pray a/b it , try to get along ) the hatred i have for him grows - theres no way to avoid him ( i live with him , i have no choice hes my step dad ) and i try to ignore everything he says and does and i cant i dont know how to stop this , hate is a sin and i know that its commiting murder and idk i just cant get rid of it it gets stronger and stronger and i hate feeling this way , i feel like it consumes me , and whats more oy a/b this is , i dont believe hes a believer by what he says what he does what he even says he believes and honestly i want him to go to hell i dont even want to help him i used to , but now i just cant what should i do ? i cant have this hate in my heart I am a strong believer that we should hate what God hates. God hates Sin, and Divorce. Therefore, we should hate those two things with all our hearts and a lil' more.
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 11:00 am
Phanari cupcake-xxxxx theres someone ive known since i was 5 and ive hated him since i was 8 and no matter what i do , ( pray a/b it , try to get along ) the hatred i have for him grows - theres no way to avoid him ( i live with him , i have no choice hes my step dad ) and i try to ignore everything he says and does and i cant i dont know how to stop this , hate is a sin and i know that its commiting murder and idk i just cant get rid of it it gets stronger and stronger and i hate feeling this way , i feel like it consumes me , and whats more oy a/b this is , i dont believe hes a believer by what he says what he does what he even says he believes and honestly i want him to go to hell i dont even want to help him i used to , but now i just cant what should i do ? i cant have this hate in my heart I am a strong believer that we should hate what God hates. God hates Sin, and Divorce. Therefore, we should hate those two things with all our hearts and a lil' more. You God also hates sex (not just pre-marital but pretty much all sex.), women, gays, eating of animals with cloven hooves (like pigs and goats) and anyone who dosen't show abject, mindless devotion. I thought that Jesus said to love. i can't remember a single time in he NT when christ himself call you to hate anyone.
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 11:21 am
Lazarus The Resurected Phanari cupcake-xxxxx theres someone ive known since i was 5 and ive hated him since i was 8 and no matter what i do , ( pray a/b it , try to get along ) the hatred i have for him grows - theres no way to avoid him ( i live with him , i have no choice hes my step dad ) and i try to ignore everything he says and does and i cant i dont know how to stop this , hate is a sin and i know that its commiting murder and idk i just cant get rid of it it gets stronger and stronger and i hate feeling this way , i feel like it consumes me , and whats more oy a/b this is , i dont believe hes a believer by what he says what he does what he even says he believes and honestly i want him to go to hell i dont even want to help him i used to , but now i just cant what should i do ? i cant have this hate in my heart I am a strong believer that we should hate what God hates. God hates Sin, and Divorce. Therefore, we should hate those two things with all our hearts and a lil' more. You God also hates sex (not just pre-marital but pretty much all sex.), women, gays, eating of animals with cloven hooves (like pigs and goats) and anyone who dosen't show abject, mindless devotion. I thought that Jesus said to love. i can't remember a single time in he NT when christ himself call you to hate anyone. 1. "Thus God made all foods clean" it's in the New Testament. Check BibleGateway.com 2. And God is all for sex, actually. Within the confines of marriage. 3. He gave us a Free Will (to an extent) you know... 4. He says He hates sin, and divorce. Well, doesn't say the words, "hate divorce" but He makes it very clear that He does. That's what bugs me so much about a lot of Christians, these days. They see God as a Lamb. But He's not JUST the Lamb. He's also a Lion. A very fierce lion at that. And yes. He never says to hate anyONE. But He doesn't tell us to not hate anyTHING.
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 11:40 am
Phanari Lazarus The Resurected Phanari cupcake-xxxxx theres someone ive known since i was 5 and ive hated him since i was 8 and no matter what i do , ( pray a/b it , try to get along ) the hatred i have for him grows - theres no way to avoid him ( i live with him , i have no choice hes my step dad ) and i try to ignore everything he says and does and i cant i dont know how to stop this , hate is a sin and i know that its commiting murder and idk i just cant get rid of it it gets stronger and stronger and i hate feeling this way , i feel like it consumes me , and whats more oy a/b this is , i dont believe hes a believer by what he says what he does what he even says he believes and honestly i want him to go to hell i dont even want to help him i used to , but now i just cant what should i do ? i cant have this hate in my heart I am a strong believer that we should hate what God hates. God hates Sin, and Divorce. Therefore, we should hate those two things with all our hearts and a lil' more. You God also hates sex (not just pre-marital but pretty much all sex.), women, gays, eating of animals with cloven hooves (like pigs and goats) and anyone who dosen't show abject, mindless devotion. I thought that Jesus said to love. i can't remember a single time in he NT when christ himself call you to hate anyone. 1. "Thus God made all foods clean" it's in the New Testament. Check BibleGateway.com 2. And God is all for sex, actually. Within the confines of marriage. 3. He gave us a Free Will (to an extent) you know... 4. He says He hates sin, and divorce. Well, doesn't say the words, "hate divorce" but He makes it very clear that He does. That's what bugs me so much about a lot of Christians, these days. They see God as a Lamb. But He's not JUST the Lamb. He's also a Lion. A very fierce lion at that. And yes. He never says to hate anyONE. But He doesn't tell us to not hate anyTHING. 1. Give me the exact verse and I'll lookit up in one of my bibles. but what does it have to with anything? 2. no. the only reason God allows sex at all is to keep the population of His worshipers up. No Oral sex between married couples because it only feels good and doesn't potentialy create life. Same with a**l sex between a married couple (and yes there are people of both genders who enjoy it.) 3.No. Free will has absolutely no limits unless we impose them on ourselves. 4. God can hate sin all he wants but hat dosen't mean he ever had the intent for humanity to mirror him. probably why all the people who did mirror him in the old days were sent Jesus with his new message.
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 12:06 pm
Lazarus The Resurected Phanari Lazarus The Resurected Phanari cupcake-xxxxx theres someone ive known since i was 5 and ive hated him since i was 8 and no matter what i do , ( pray a/b it , try to get along ) the hatred i have for him grows - theres no way to avoid him ( i live with him , i have no choice hes my step dad ) and i try to ignore everything he says and does and i cant i dont know how to stop this , hate is a sin and i know that its commiting murder and idk i just cant get rid of it it gets stronger and stronger and i hate feeling this way , i feel like it consumes me , and whats more oy a/b this is , i dont believe hes a believer by what he says what he does what he even says he believes and honestly i want him to go to hell i dont even want to help him i used to , but now i just cant what should i do ? i cant have this hate in my heart I am a strong believer that we should hate what God hates. God hates Sin, and Divorce. Therefore, we should hate those two things with all our hearts and a lil' more. You God also hates sex (not just pre-marital but pretty much all sex.), women, gays, eating of animals with cloven hooves (like pigs and goats) and anyone who dosen't show abject, mindless devotion. I thought that Jesus said to love. i can't remember a single time in he NT when christ himself call you to hate anyone. 1. "Thus God made all foods clean" it's in the New Testament. Check BibleGateway.com 2. And God is all for sex, actually. Within the confines of marriage. 3. He gave us a Free Will (to an extent) you know... 4. He says He hates sin, and divorce. Well, doesn't say the words, "hate divorce" but He makes it very clear that He does. That's what bugs me so much about a lot of Christians, these days. They see God as a Lamb. But He's not JUST the Lamb. He's also a Lion. A very fierce lion at that. And yes. He never says to hate anyONE. But He doesn't tell us to not hate anyTHING. 1. Give me the exact verse and I'll lookit up in one of my bibles. but what does it have to with anything? 2. no. the only reason God allows sex at all is to keep the population of His worshipers up. No Oral sex between married couples because it only feels good and doesn't potentialy create life. Same with a**l sex between a married couple (and yes there are people of both genders who enjoy it.) 3.No. Free will has absolutely no limits unless we impose them on ourselves. 4. God can hate sin all he wants but hat dosen't mean he ever had the intent for humanity to mirror him. probably why all the people who did mirror him in the old days were sent Jesus with his new message. 1. I'll do better. I'll give the verse. Mark 7:19 (New International Version) 19For it doesn't go into his heart but into his stomach, and then out of his body." (In saying this, Jesus declared all foods "clean.") [Yes, there are ()s but the context of what was said BEFORE still applies] 2. But as long as sex (as in the reproductive act) exisits within the confines of marriage, it's God's all for it. 3. Look up Calvinism. 4. What?
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