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 Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2009 4:42 pm
Just out of curiosity, since I haven't seen a topic on this yet, what do you guys think of polyamory and open relationships? Do you have something against them morally? Think they'll never work? Ever been in one?
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Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2009 5:23 pm
I think its ridiculous that polygamy isn't recognized or often allowed in the world today and think if all partners are happy and consenting it should not matter, and I am all for polyamory.
I do not however see the logic in an open relationship, I feel that the relationship between those in an open one cant be significant or close, I personally don't understand things like this that well but it just seems uncaring to me.
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Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2009 6:32 pm
I've never heard of one working.
But whatever floats your boat.
BTW, this should probably be in the extended discussions forum.
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Posted: Wed Apr 15, 2009 5:30 am
I think that as long as everyone involved is happy with it, there's no problem. I don't think it would work for me, though.
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Posted: Wed Apr 15, 2009 1:14 pm
"'Cause I love you, and you, and you, and..... well, maybe you...." xd
No, not really.
Anyway. As long as all parties concerned are consenting to a polyamorous relationship, I don't see a big issue with it. Same goes for an open relationship, though in the latter I don't see an intense sense of closeness actually forming. However, having not been in one, all I can do is speculate.
The interesting thing about the dichotomy of being morally against it and supportive of it is the roots of these two views: humans, for as long as can be determined, have had two completely opposing, yet somehow coexistant instincts. First, we share the same instinct with penguins that is the foundation for love, the instinct that commands we have but one partner in all our life. However, we also share another, completely contradictory instinct, being the premise of promiscuity. Apparently it is believed that when humans were a hunter-gatherer society, this second instinct arose when it became necessary for the women to birth more children, and the men to assist in this endeavor. It's all quite interesting.
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Posted: Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:10 am
I think the couple have to, in a way, have some connection that they don't have with anyone else to keep them sane in that situation - cause I've been in an open relationship and personally it didn't work. Cause we all want to be wanted but even though we were both very open minded people there was still something wrong in my mind. Like on one hand it took away the whole pressure of commitment that at the time I couldn't handle, but on the other it also told me "Well he doesn't really want me and I don't really want him". Cause we were also both very destructive in some ways, me at that time anyway as far as I know he hasn't changed, and if there wasn't some sort of sick emotional kick out of it and we weren't hurting each other - like if there just wasn't a score to settle - then why weren't we content to be with each other? I really think open relationships are for those that can handle the pressure and don't have that mentality of wanting and want. Humans - made contradictory creatures just to keep ourselves entertained.
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little_evil_goth Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Apr 16, 2009 6:25 am
If all of the people are willing, then I don't see why not.
Personally it's something that I would never do.
Also, imagine how many people would be killing someone else over jealousy. XD
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Posted: Thu Apr 16, 2009 8:15 am
I'm not sure if I entirely get the definition of an open relationship. You mean like having side joints? [slight confusion] Yeah, totally. I have one right now, if that's what you mean, but the whole sorta relationship thing is based almost completely on mutual physical attraction- there's very little personal connection.
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little_evil_goth Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Apr 17, 2009 2:50 am
That's pretty much the gist of it Nyz. And that's true there isn't a personal connection in the side hookups.
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Posted: Fri Apr 17, 2009 4:11 am
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little_evil_goth Vice Captain
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Posted: Sat Apr 18, 2009 12:09 am
As I always say, I'll try anything once. Tried it, its not that great. But everyone's different.
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Posted: Sat Apr 18, 2009 7:01 am
Well the deal is that if we hung out a lot and got to know each other really well we'd probably get sick of each other really quickly- but by knowing each other this way with limited contact we still have fun and retain mutual respect.
=]
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little_evil_goth Vice Captain
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Posted: Sat Apr 18, 2009 10:06 am
Maybe so, maybe not. You can know someone years without really knowing them.
I can see that, and agree, but it's not for me.
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Posted: Sat Apr 18, 2009 1:21 pm
Yer personally I like to really know my partner, as is I know Lux inside and out... well mentally anyway and I find it easier to bond with him that way, there are certain unknowns about him such as his age and birthday (that's only because he changes them every year though), but whatever floats your Norse rowboat really.
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