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Ever since I told this guy (we'll call him Hubert) that I liked him, his friends won't leave me alone. They're all very nice to me, but once I step into that classroom... Oh boy. The one day, (we'll call this one Pete) Pete was throwing paper balls at me, missing every time. I know he didn't do it in a mean way, and I didn't think anything of it then. A few days ago, Pete "accidently" dropped Hubert's phone number on my desk. Hubert wasn't around that period... (I don't know what to make of that, but figured it would help.) My friend keeps telling me they do it because Hubert likes me, but I'm not sure. Do guys do this...? I have no idea, I'm usually the last one to make a move. Any ideas?
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Well that's one way to look at it, he's just a pretty shy dude.

Captain, you are speaking a bit too closed-minded. Some feminine guys make good boyfriends. It all depends on the guy/girl.

In my defense, if I had not used the word p***y, I'm sure the Captain would have said something, so I lose either way.

ask him out or call him

Unless in reference to a cat.

But the sexual connotations are still there. In it's root it is a sexual word. And a de-masculanized man still comes out a woman in this two gender world.

If we're going to remove the ability of the word because it's derogatory, we should remove all potentially offensive content from the guild, and prohibit anyone from posting it. Therefore anything negative said about Christians, Republicans, Democrats, Atheists, etc, should not be said as it could be taken in an offensive manner to each of these large groups of people.

Also, I think it is an appropriate way of describing a man who has feminine traits. Look at it this way; most females tend to be extremely reactionary. Most females more easily emotionally provoked. From experience, I can tell you that they are generally shyer, and tend to have less confidence than men. They also expect men to ask them out, and to be chivalrous. A goodly deal want men to take care of them. A great deal want to be mothers, and raise children. A lot of them don't care about the monetary aspect of things, and only look at the emotional value of an action. These are traits that women are more likely to possess then men.
A woman should be the caregiver of the family. The person who you run to when you need emotional support and advice.


A traditional male role should be one of emotional stability who always keeps his head on his shoulders. He is also supposed to be confident. A caretaker and protector of his family. The head of his house, and the person a woman can run to when she needs that kind of emotional support. He is supposed to be less emotional and more rational.

Now, these gender roles are set up for a reason. Not out of ignorance, as you may like to argue, but rather based on the fact that the fit the bill for a large amount of people.

Now, this is all personal opinion but I think that when a man decides to become a woman in his actions, it is not a positive thing. And I am not going to support his actions. When he cries about being shy, it is because he is acting like a the 'stereotypical woman.' Now, I could just call people 'women' but that would elicit even more hate from you guys, as you would argue that I'm using "woman" in a negative way. Therefore I use the word "p***y" to describe such a man. No woman could ever be a p***y, as she already lacks physical testicles. "p***y" is a word reserved entirely for men who chose to give into the 'weaker' feminine traits.
And quite frankly, I don't like women who fit the stereotype either. They are generally insufferable twits. And I don't make bones about telling them either.

When a woman starts being manly, we often have negative words for those too, like tomboy. And this is a stereotypical way of viewing men, as it lumps them together as being a bunch of ruffians. But that word is generally accepted.

To make this completely fair we would have to totally remove any words that contain any kind of connotation what so ever as well. This involves removing words like "masculine" and "feminine" as both males and females can have these traits, and it could be offensive to someone. We also have to only describe gender in terms of what a person's physical status. Actually, that wouldn't be accurate either, as some transexuals and transvestities like to be called the other gender despite they have the genitiles of the other gender. Do we call the woman who wants to be a man, a woman or man? By calling her a man, we can potentially offend men who don't embody any of the traits she does. Do we call her a woman and offend her sense of what she is? It's impossible to tell these days.

The word describes something in a negative way. And I think you guys are all playing far too much into it.

Who told?! stressed

But you do pose a very good point. By overusing a word I detract from the overall potency of it. I'll have to keep that in mind.