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PostPosted: Fri Jan 23, 2009 7:32 pm


1. I might be pregnant again.. HA HA!!! I know my new years resolution was to wait.. But we kinda had a fight and then had make up sex and then 3 days later we both fussed about it because I had to stop birth control because it was weird and we lost insurance (getting it back now mind you). So I just need mental support till I find out for that because I cant tell my family at all just yet!

2. My husband is gonna join the military he isnt changing his mind.. I know i can handle it but seriously the only adult thing I have done was take care of the baby and work.. I dont know how I will do with paying bills why he is away for a few months im worried I will ruin everything.. He still has to talk to a recruiter and his parents but I told him dont do it because of me do it because of himself. But he said public affairs or anything the sounds good he will do it.... Ugh

3. And WHY can't my mom just let me do things.. Kaylee at almost a year old says words that sound like curse words and then today she said s**t when she dropped a bottle.. Omg I know but sometimes I get pissed and say things gonna stop that. But she keeps telling me im doing things wrong and dont know what im doing. She even tells me to Beat my kid when I think its good to give warnings then put them in time out and explain when they are done throwing a tantrum why they cant do that. it works with her.. Example she threw her sippy cup and lost it in the store we spent ten minutes looking for it.. Kaylee was screaming seeing as how its her favorite cup and im going insane from the screaming.. I calmy grab her hands in her stroller and tell her that I am looking as fast and hard as I can and if she can be patient I will get her a treat. She sucked up her tears and waited.. then my mom UGH OMG !! she walks up and goes POOR BABY CANT FIND YOUR CUP OH WELL!! and then it happened kaylee who had been talking while I looked burst into tears and my mom was all Oh shut up its just a bottle we have another one. Thank god I found it.. And then Omg she was wearing a sweater and its huge so she likes to pull her arm in and out of it and shake her arm. MY mom yelled at her and smacked her bum THEN told me what she was doing.. My response Is she hurting anyone my mom said no.. I said Maybe she is too hot or she is just playing she does that. My mom then fussed at me saying She needs to stop doing it she needs to keep it on .. I went mom she isnt hurting anything with out the sweater You'll be fine.. pissed her off to where when I walked back over to them she gave me kaylee back. Do I have a right to enforce my stuff or should I just let her go Im worried about kaylee haveing two different ways of disipline..

4. And im doing a chinese zodiac themed birthday for her party Ideas are welcomed
PostPosted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 1:57 am


Wow! And I thought I was having a rough week.
Can you find a support group through your church, insurance, or in your city? I know that trying to tell yourself you are doing a good job and having someone (especially as close to you as your mom) can really be hard! I know that I had what was called a Joy School for my three oldest and it was the interaction with the other mothers as well as the friends for my children that could really help. It is nice when you can talk things over in real time.

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PostPosted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 7:16 am


I am actually looking for that I found a place that looked like a tumble place for kids and I thought Oh wow kaylee keeps trying to roll over over her own head that might be a good idea.. And im actually trying to going to have my husband (who changed his mind about the military) to the YMCA for possible groups.. My depression is floating right now but not about the possible pregnancy Im actually a tad excited.. Im more worried about the parents who are supportive and will all of a sudden give up... SO thats making me panic so pretending not to have the urge to vomit is kinda hard!
My mom currrently thinks I am sick from movie theatre popcorn.. So I will have to stop acting like that soon..

The only people I have support from is a 11 month old with hugs and kisses and my husband who bought me ginger ale and Crackers..
And thanks ms jo your the best ever!
PostPosted: Wed Jan 28, 2009 3:23 am


The only people I have support from is a 11 month old with hugs and kisses and my husband who bought me ginger ale and Crackers..
And thanks ms jo your the best ever!

Those little and big hugs and kisses and special deeds can sure make or break our days, can't they?

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PostPosted: Wed Jan 28, 2009 2:48 pm


Yes they can! Especial since my daughter since birth had wanted nothing to do with me and now Im her whole world so im taking them in as much as possible.
PostPosted: Thu Jan 29, 2009 3:47 am


I would say that you have "earned" them, then. School of hard knocks.

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PostPosted: Thu Jan 29, 2009 9:28 pm


Oh gosh, poor sweetheart! It's tough enough figuring out how to raise your kids (every one of them is different) without somebody so close and important in your life opposing you so strongly. I wonder why on earth Grandma wants to be such a disciplinarian? Most grandmothers I know are thrilled to death not to be in charge of "building character". Good luck finding a good local support group, because they really can make a huge difference. Personally, I'd just be "too busy" to have my mother visit if she was being that confrontational, but that's not always an option if you really need extra hands.

I'm sure it's a relief to know your husband will be staying home, though it sounds like he's going through a tough time as well. A strong desire for a new career sounds like he's not very happy where he is. I'll keep all of you in my thoughts.

Well, the good news is that you're a kind and loving mother of at least one sweet baby girl. And you're currently reaping the rewards! I love the huggy-kissy stage, I'll be so sad when it ends for my little ones. Keep your chin up, love. You're going to be just fine, and so will your children. No matter how many you have!
PostPosted: Sun Feb 01, 2009 7:27 am


I had always heard that wnen a child KNOWS they are loved by their parents it makes up for a lot of the little dumb mistakes we all make. I think that it is a true statement. Not all of them, but a lot of them.







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Look at Jen and I still playing together! (grin)

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PostPosted: Mon Feb 02, 2009 9:08 am


Kaylee does tend to make some dumb mistakes but she is a baby! Sorry for the late response been busy Super bowl weekend at my job Made it so I was over stocking pizza for two days ...

A short update.
Mom still being a bit weird told me I was imagine kaylee gaging on a ravioli when I fed her... SO either kaylee really can eat them and was being a butt. Or She cant and my mom was making her... I cant tell!!

My mom did tell me I must be confused cause i still dont know kaylee's personality.. She is a perfect mix of me and my husband..
Husband- keeps to himself really quiet when he gets excited he talks alot! gets frustrated easy and is stubborn.
Me: Shy but out-going a tad insane and tends to complain to much but loves to sing and wiggle out of no where..
And kaylee like to keep to herself when she finds something exciting she talks non stop gets frustrated is stubborn but yet she is a complete spaz so I never know what she is doing..
I guess I still have a while to see which on she takes on more..

Her birthday party is coming up mikes mom is helping but is kinda taking control so I had to put my foot down on a few things...but I might give up on the plates... Oh well not like anyone else was helping.

Still looking for groups biggrin -goes to visit the quest-
PostPosted: Mon Feb 09, 2009 3:05 am


Sometimes it is nice to let the grandparents pick the things if they are not too outrageous or too totally out of your liking. Pick and choose your battles with them, too, just like with the hubby and the children.
I find myself asking "will this matter in 5, 10 years" a lot! (grin)

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PostPosted: Mon Feb 09, 2009 11:45 am


XD I know! but with mikes mom it will matter! She still has a bit of a fit over the fact I refused to wear a stupid hat at my baby shower made out of ribbions from the gifts... Im not a hat person and never will be... But she was making me and it made me mad XD!! She still whines so with her it is hard.
PostPosted: Wed Feb 11, 2009 5:20 am


lol...Isn't it funny how sometimes it's the grandparents who are acting like babies? Yeesh, if she holds a grudge against you for not wearing a goofy hat, imagine when your daughter learns the word "old" and decides to show grandma she knows what it means! Heck, I once told my favorite (slim pickings) grandmother she was fat! Good thing for me she laughed it off.

Good luck with the birthday party! Which reminds me, exactly how does one have a Chinese zodiac theme? And is it because her birthday is close to the Chinese New Year? Or are you a fan of the series "Fruits Basket"?

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PostPosted: Thu Feb 12, 2009 6:45 am


It is one reason that I am having it that theme because its so close that and most of the animals in the zodiac are her favorites so I have most of those in stuffed animal form.... That and she loves Ni Hao Kai lan And I do love fruit baskets I was actually thinking of borrowing the books from my baby sister again.

Birthday plans

Birthday cake
Use normal Cake mix but back them in bread pans to give then Height of the lanterns
Get pull apart twizzlers for the streamer at the end of the lanterns
Get laffy taffy use a rolling pin to make them thin and cut stars or shape of your choice to decorate ( I. E I might make hearts )
I am gonna make at least 3-4 cakes and one will be hers only


Party favors for if kids come
Bubbles
crayons
Maybe a plastic toy farm animal or zodiac animal

Deorations
Use her stuffed animals as decorations but they have to match the zodiac.. biggrin If I make a poster for her Draw a rat since she is a rat!
PostPosted: Fri Feb 13, 2009 3:37 am


Sounds ambitious but cute!

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PostPosted: Fri Feb 13, 2009 6:39 am


it is a bit ambitious but it will be simple really not much to do I was thinking of getting a pinata but she will scream and want to have all the candy to herself before I even get the darn thing filled so there is always next year.
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