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 Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 10:48 am
confused today I broke up with my boyfriend. we both decided to do it. there are no hard feelings (i think). It just feels werid and I feel kind of lonely. This was my first real relationship and first breakup. I hate going through this process.
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Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 11:26 am
i have done something similar... so you'll get over it, but every once in awhile it comes back to haunt me. so as said in a song "the first cut is the deepest"
i'm sorry you had to go through it, but sometimes its for the betterment of yourself and the person you broke up with.
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Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 11:28 am
This was the one thing was not looking forward to when i started dating. stare
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Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 11:32 am
i never thought it would happen to me... at least you realized that it was gonna happen. *hugs* cheer up. it isn't that bad, plus you have all of us here to comfort you. (i wish i had your gift of cheering people up and feeling good about themselves, but i'm only funny and this isn't the time or place)
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Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 2:05 pm
I wish I had a girl friend, but I'm only 14 crying
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Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 4:16 pm
I'm 15, and no matter how much you want a gf, you should wait, believe it. I've had two gfs (neither were serious relationships, although the one really wanted to take it fast 0_o ....
Anyway, to indirectly quote John Bytheway, wait until after your mission. I forget how the one song goes that he sung, but it talked about having a gf before your mission and losing her, then after you're an RM, stealing girls from other guys who haven't gone on missions. Twas funny.
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ConcreteAngel Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 5:10 pm
I really don't know how to help cause I've never really been in a situation like that... Try to keep busy with friends maybe and get it out of your mind?
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Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 6:09 pm
sticking with friends is a good way to get your mind off of past loves. beleive me i know. and you can ask [keign] or LDSeraphim to back me up. they are my friends.
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Posted: Sun Oct 16, 2005 9:18 pm
Kisa_Yamino confused today I broke up with my boyfriend. we both decided to do it. there are no hard feelings (i think). It just feels werid and I feel kind of lonely. This was my first real relationship and first breakup. I hate going through this process. You want a sob story? Listen to my pitiful fall. So my best friend and I (Will) met in 7th grade and he was my first real friend (I didn't have friends before that. So I was a loser, get over it.). Not too much later he told me he liked me and I kind of thought it would just go away. I had never had someone care for me (other than my family, but they care for all 10 kids and I kind of feel the love, but it isn't just for me). On his 14th birthday, he kissed me on the cheek and I started to like him. It all went downhill from there. On my 15th birthday (he is exactly 6 months older than me) he told me he didn't like me anymore. Great birthday present. Anywho, that was totally a lie and it continued on until he really stopped. For about a year now (I am 16) he has been ignoring me. I don't like him anymore, but he finds ways to break my heart so often. He started to like my best friend and ... told me? Why?? ARG he always insults me and makes me feel miserable. He is my locker partner and the center of my friends so I cannot just ditch him. *sigh* I feel so lonely. I had four guys who liked me freshman year (and told me ... I was still secretly "going out" with Will) and I couldn't date anyways ... arg I am so stupid. Now no one likes me and I hurt a lot ... dang I have been writing a lot. I don't think there is anything that can fill the wound in my heart.
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Posted: Mon Oct 17, 2005 6:24 am
oh man... how can a guy do that? *stares dumbfounded*
i can't think of anything to say to that. cry
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Posted: Mon Oct 17, 2005 9:57 am
kaidako Kisa_Yamino confused today I broke up with my boyfriend. we both decided to do it. there are no hard feelings (i think). It just feels werid and I feel kind of lonely. This was my first real relationship and first breakup. I hate going through this process. You want a sob story? Listen to my pitiful fall. So my best friend and I (Will) met in 7th grade and he was my first real friend (I didn't have friends before that. So I was a loser, get over it.). Not too much later he told me he liked me and I kind of thought it would just go away. I had never had someone care for me (other than my family, but they care for all 10 kids and I kind of feel the love, but it isn't just for me). On his 14th birthday, he kissed me on the cheek and I started to like him. It all went downhill from there. On my 15th birthday (he is exactly 6 months older than me) he told me he didn't like me anymore. Great birthday present. Anywho, that was totally a lie and it continued on until he really stopped. For about a year now (I am 16) he has been ignoring me. I don't like him anymore, but he finds ways to break my heart so often. He started to like my best friend and ... told me? Why?? ARG he always insults me and makes me feel miserable. He is my locker partner and the center of my friends so I cannot just ditch him. *sigh* I feel so lonely. I had four guys who liked me freshman year (and told me ... I was still secretly "going out" with Will) and I couldn't date anyways ... arg I am so stupid. Now no one likes me and I hurt a lot ... dang I have been writing a lot. I don't think there is anything that can fill the wound in my heart. This is why I only go out with anime characters. Manga and anime won't betray you.(the writer might, but they're human) They're consistant and heart warming if you find the right ones. *sigh* You can only fantisize about them though. That's sad. I've never had a real relationship, ever. Crushes, yes, but I was a stupid kid. If you're really having a problem with him, confront him. Or you can introduce me to him and I'll pound the stuffing out of him twisted ('kay, probably won't, but I love to dream)Any who, no one should be doing that to anyone. Smack him if you have to, but don't just stand around dumbfounded. You'll do fine once you get going. If you have to, tell your other friends about this, maybe they'll help you out. That's all I know.
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Posted: Mon Oct 17, 2005 10:19 am
she isn't dumbfounded i am... i would resort to violence though unless i had to, so yeah... try talking to him and if the worst happens then all i can say is avoid him. try your best not to be violent.
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Posted: Wed Nov 16, 2005 9:46 pm
it'll hurt, but don't look back, you'll be kicking yourself if you do.
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Posted: Wed Nov 16, 2005 10:49 pm
kaidako Kisa_Yamino confused today I broke up with my boyfriend. we both decided to do it. there are no hard feelings (i think). It just feels werid and I feel kind of lonely. This was my first real relationship and first breakup. I hate going through this process. You want a sob story? Listen to my pitiful fall. So my best friend and I (Will) met in 7th grade and he was my first real friend (I didn't have friends before that. So I was a loser, get over it.). Not too much later he told me he liked me and I kind of thought it would just go away. I had never had someone care for me (other than my family, but they care for all 10 kids and I kind of feel the love, but it isn't just for me). On his 14th birthday, he kissed me on the cheek and I started to like him. It all went downhill from there. On my 15th birthday (he is exactly 6 months older than me) he told me he didn't like me anymore. Great birthday present. Anywho, that was totally a lie and it continued on until he really stopped. For about a year now (I am 16) he has been ignoring me. I don't like him anymore, but he finds ways to break my heart so often. He started to like my best friend and ... told me? Why?? ARG he always insults me and makes me feel miserable. He is my locker partner and the center of my friends so I cannot just ditch him. *sigh* I feel so lonely. I had four guys who liked me freshman year (and told me ... I was still secretly "going out" with Will) and I couldn't date anyways ... arg I am so stupid. Now no one likes me and I hurt a lot ... dang I have been writing a lot. I don't think there is anything that can fill the wound in my heart. Oooh. Ouch. Well, take it from me, the best thing you can do is to stop caring what he thinks. (this is true in both cases) If Kisa_Yamino's guy sees that she still likes him (even if it is just a little) the whole breakup process thingy could be slowed, or even undone, only to happen all over again. And as for Kaidako's guy, if he sees that what he thinks, does, and says still makes a difference to her, he may just use that knowledge to continue "breaking her heart." All you have to do is realize that the bum isn't worth your time, and move on. Both of these circumstances are EXACTLY why the prophets have warned against dating before the age of sixteen. It's a little idea of relational maturity. In Kisa's case, both parties in the relationship were well developed, mature people who were able to cope with this sort of stress. In Kaidako's case (no offense), they met and started a relationship far too early. Neither had reached the level of maturity that it takes to have a succesful, meaningful relationship. While I'm sure that now Kaidako has a firm grasp of just what sort of commitment this sort of thing is, when she was fourteen she probably did not. And it's obvious that "Will" was nowhere near ready for it. *stops and looks at his post* Ooops... I've been lecturing again, haven't I? redface *steps off of his soapbox*
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Posted: Fri Nov 18, 2005 12:40 pm
I can't say that I've been through any breakups yet, though I have had my heart stepped on by a few guys who I had larger-than-average crushes on. I've gotten over it, but sometimes thinking about it brings back those feelings of heartache.
I don't really have any advice on how to get over it, but my friends really helped me get over my lost crushes.
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