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Its part 3 of my research posts. Ive been finding many articles and debate about if Feederism is domestic abuse or not. So for my paper I needed a controversal topic and decided to run with that. I wanted to just put that out there. If anyone who is a feeder and has not filled out my survey, PM me and I will give you the questionare. So please and thank you!!!

some people think we're stupid

I like the idea of it, and I've tried it, but I'm not big into it yet...

but we're not.

If it's consentual it's not abuse, take weight gain as another form of bondage play, especially when immobility is in the picture and all you are doing is slowly making someone bound. Instead of just tying them, slowly their movement is hinder by fat.
And just like other forms of bondage there are limits for safety. The dangers are real and severe which is why I usually stick to online RP feeding. Although if I were to find a woman who honestly wanted to be huge and wanted me to feed her, I would most likely take her up on the offer. Like I said though it's gotta be consental.

Honestly, I'm not at all interested in a relationship where my partner gets so big they're seriously endangered by it.

It takes more time and effort to reverse weight gain. On the other hand, it's much MUCH harder, borderline impossible, for it to get "Dangerously out of control". You can't put on four-hundred pounds because you're feeder is on a roll and you've forgotten the safeword. In its ideal form, it doesn't involve harm or illness, and ill health isn't a direct result of the kink.

I'd venture to say that out of scat, bondage, blood play, and all the other fetishes out there, feedism is the LEAST likely to get out of control and lead to grevious bodily harm, sickness, or death. I think it's turned into this very dangerous and scary fetish because a lot of americans would rather get cancer than gain thirty pounds, and this lopsided mindset focuses in on things that question its assumptions.

It also kind of annoys me when feedism is compared to bondage, S&M, and other fetishes that rely on things focused on pain and humiliation.

Feeders are nature's way of ensuring that feedees can eat when they're too lazy to go to the fridge.

Yeah, he brought up the bodnage comparison. That post was for him too.

I think there is a question that a small amount of weight gain is guarenteed to have a visible and significant effect on a person's health. There can be a number of coexisting factors responsible for your change in health, and I wouldn't take one person as the gold standard for humanity. I mean, if everyone had the same scale reaction as you, I don't think it would be possible for people to be 400 pounds and still be alive.



Yes, you haven't, but you're subjecting weight gain to a harsher degree of scrutiny than stuff that actively involves things that threaten health and life, where the whole point of the thing is to draw blood or cut off somebody's air supply for a while or do something that is intrinsically dangerous. Weight gain may complicate certain types of conditions (like damaged leg ligaments), and it may increase the risk of others, but it is not, in and of itself, a disease or harmful thing. Cutting, asphyxiation, bludgeoning, etc. these are all intrinsically harmful.

To answer your question, I'm not sure I'd phrase it as "here's the name of a good therapist." I'd maybe provide them with links to relevant medical information if they wanted it, I'd tell them to see a doctor before they start and at each stage, but I'd make the default assumption that they weren't total morons and where therefor aware of serious consequences with rapidly and massively altering their body mass. I would tell them that if they had any second thoughts or doubts, it would be a good idea to not gain, because you can always decide to gain weight again later, but it's harder to lose it. If it was somebody I had any degree of regular contact with, I would also check up on them as their gain progressed, see if they had any health problems developing.
I don't have any position of authority over the hypothetical person, so that's the most I can do.

"But people who have a bondage fetish are generally intelligent and very careful."

They are? That surprises me. I should do a study to see what factor makes them smarter and more wary than the general populace.

On that subject, most feeders and feedees aren't total numskulls either. I do understand that the majority of people who ask me about this subject assume that they are, so it's an understandable mistake to make.

I'm sorry I reacted so acerbically to your post. I'm also sorry I misinterpreted your meaning.

I wasn't trying to see your post as offensive. What were you trying to say by "people who have a bondage fetish are generally intelligent and very careful"? Most people aren't terribly intelligent or careful. In context, I took it to mean that people with bondage fetishes were more intelligent and careful, and therefor it was okay for them to engage in potentially dangerous activity, but it wasn't okay for feeders and feedees to do so.

I was antagonistic in my reply to "Would you suggest somebody who wanted to gain a large amount of weight talk to a therapist first?" You made it very clear that it was a dramatic change, and something that would threaten their health, and I didn't properly address your question. My answer should have been yes.

You say you're very moody right now. I was very moody then. Instead of analyzing what you said, point by point, and calmly addressing your words and explaining my position, I lashed out at you as a substitute for attacking every bit of rumor-mill internet "feeders are abusive sociopaths" slander I've ever percieved. >_< This was wrong of me.

I would like to be forgiven if I took a less than favorable interpretation or misinterpretation of your comments.

I don't feel any feeder shame. I only want to engage in feedism with a girl who wants to gain weight anyway.

It is, like many things, something that without care and concern, could be very dangerous.