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This last week and a half has been...interesting to say the least. Towards the end of the first week of this school year(my Grade 10 year in a new school) I met a girl named Misha, and me and my best friend(named Andrew) quickly were absorbed into her circle of friends. It took a few more days before I realised there was something between Andrew and Misha, so I tried to hook them up. Another of Misha's friends got into the mix, and Andrew ended up having to choose one or the other. A week of indecisiveness(while I was pushing a decision from him) before he chose Misha, but didn't move on his decision. At the end of that week, Andrew spent the night at my house and we talked to Misha for a good 5 hours that night over the phone. I was shut from the conversation too many times, and I realised that it would happen that night. Just as things were getting really close, Andrew messed up. He said the stupidest thing and set Misha off. It took me only a few moments to fix it, and it became very apparent there was something between me and Misha too. But things kept moving as they were headed, and Misha asked Andrew out(I think...it was meant to be a private conversation and I wasn't allowed to hear). I was completely happy for them, and successfully managed to ignore the fact that I liked her. She wasn't so lucky. Three days later, she broke up with Andrew and told him she liked me more. He told me this, and gave me a go ahead. He turned completely philosophical saying: "If I can't make her happy, I should send my blessing to the person who can." I admired this in him...but it didn't last very long. The next morning I asked her, after being pushed towards it by mobs of mine and Andrews old friends.(not in Misha's circle) She said yes, and we went along great.(That was Wednesday the 21st of this month... About a week and a half from today) Then the following saturday, me and Misha went to a movie, but because her parents only let her group date, Andrew and an old friend of mine and Andrew's came along. As the lights came back on, Andrew saw us kissing. Everything philosophical about him came undone. He stormed out and punched a sign, dislocating his fingers.

Now I've let Andrew slip away, but Misha doesn't want to. Andrew and Misha are still friends(which makes me uneasy. I completely trust Misha around him, I just don't want Andrew to do anything that will make our friendship irrepairable). But I'm wondering if I did the right thing in peoples eyes. I have confidence in my decisions, and everything is working out, but I want to know what others would have done.

Thanks smile I've told him outright that if he had told me not too, I wouldn't have. But telling me I shouldn't now just isn't right.

I think Andrew should have told you how he really felt, that would have avoided this problem. To late to sort that.

I think you should ask him what he wants you to do. If you and Misha (I really love that name, I use it on another website) really like each other but Andrew isn't happy about it then I think you both should take things very slowly, especially around him. When Mish had the choice to pick who she liked best she probaly felt very confused and obviously made a mistake, but from Andrews point of view it would be hurtful. I think at the cinema Andrew might have felt you were rubbing it in this face, even though you weren't. If you and Misha stay together I think you should go a bit easy around him. He can't stop you seeing who you want, but remember he was your friend first and on his part he'd be hurt. Think carefully who you want to be more loyal to.

*Feels special* whee
If you've chosen that's good. But are you and Andrew not friends now? (Sorry if I missed that). If you aren't mabye you could call him or send an email or something just to make peace between the two of you even if you don't want to be like you were before.

I ment she made the mistake going with Andrew first because she realised she liked you better.

I've seen this happen a few times with old friends of mine. Once they like someone of the opposite sex all that is important to them is that that person notices them and likes them. I think you should just keep out of the way of Andrew. If he's nice to you be nice back. If he's does something not nice then just ignore it. It might be hard but is probaly best all round.

Quite obviously he didnt mean what he said about "someone else pleasing her if he cannot" and thats really his folly, not yours.
This guy reminds me of Paul in the fact that he can say one thing and believeably, or possibly truly, mean it... but then something triggers old feelings and the grudge and the anger is on.
Sounds like you needed to take it slower with this Mischa girl, too.. I would have been more tactful around Andrew, but that's your call completely.