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blarglegargle

PostPosted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 10:26 pm


Ok, before hand, I am going to not reveal names because someone might know me in RL, and spoil things. That is not acceptable.

For those of you who know about Caroline, I will say I have moved on. Questions? Go ahead and ask. If you don't know, and want to know, ask. If you don't want to know, power to you, and read on.

I like this girl. I liked her since the 4th Semester of school last year. I didn't do anything then, but ********, I'm doing somthing now. So far, I did some recon. She is available (had to be sure I wouldn't jack anything up for her if I started moving in) and shares my interest in guitar. I found out she likes Green Day, and odly enough, I grew interested in one of their songs the next day. Even more interesting, this song is ment for two guitars.

Once I had a decent idea what in the hell I was doing, I contacted her. I ended up going over to her house the next day to work on guitar, and made a good impression with both her young siblings and parents. WooT.

She ended up comming over to my house the next week. That went very, very well. (2002 Honda Civic FTW)

Now, I was suposed to go over to her house last Thursday, but she had to cancel. There was alot of homework. (There actually was, I made sure to check into it.) I ended up getting an e-mail from her, though. She has been gone last Friday and today (Saturday) on a track meet. This has given me some time to think about my game plan.

Thats when I realised I don't have a game plan. ********. Everything here had been nearly spontaneous decision making. I am the kind of person that needs to sit down and think about what I'm doing next inorder to do well.

It is about the time I sat down to do the above that I realised I had secluded myself from this for so long, I hadn't a clue. Another ******** I'm thinking I'm going to do? I'm going to keep getting to know her, invite her to a hockey game, (Box seats FTW) and...erm, well, thats about it.

Point of this post? I don't know what to do next. I mean, how long before I let her know about my feelings? How do I let her know? Anything else I should be doing?
PostPosted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 10:40 pm


Basically, you're thinking too hard. Sure, doing recon is fine before you start trying to get to know her, but you're knee deep right now and she wouldn't take too kindly knowing that you're keeping tabs (a tad stalker-ish, no?). Just let things happen how they happen.

Soleq
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blarglegargle

PostPosted: Sat Sep 24, 2005 10:45 pm


Me, thinking to hard? Never run into that before. Erm, wait.. have I? No, that was me pondering...but isn't pondering thinking...?

As for the stalker thing, ( sweatdrop ) it was just a matter of making sure I wasn't falling for some Vampire-Cult-Girl or Religious-Zealot. That, and maby asking what she was into, and if she was available. In all seriousness, those were the 3 things I found out. Honestly. Its not like I have a wall dedicated to her or somthing.

As for the homework thing, all I did is ask a friend in her class if they had an essay. They did. As far as I'm concerned, an essay is enough to be considered 'alot'. The quote that jumps to mind here is 'Trust, but verify.'

Advice wise, thanks. I supose its worked well enough up until now, but it just makes me feel a little better having a plan to fall back on, you know?
PostPosted: Sun Sep 25, 2005 9:04 am


For the 'what should I do next thing' that has to come from you. Do what feels natural, what you would both enjoy.
As for your feelings, how to tell her and when.
Tell her once you feel you have made a special connection with this girl. Once you think she feels the same way for you as you do for her then tell her. Be careful, she might only like you as a friend and that can be a shame to ruin.
How to tell her is always the hardest in my opinion. Personally I prefer email or msn but some people respect it being told face to face. You could always ask her just in conversation one day the way she prefers a guy to tell her.

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blarglegargle

PostPosted: Mon Sep 26, 2005 9:59 pm


Thanks for the advice, Cherry. I'm going over to her house tomorow, so we will see what happens...
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