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Like their first kiss and their first love, most people can remember any number of details about their first real "crush." The butterflies in their stomachs, the dry mouths, the sweaty palms, the racing hearts - it may all sound gross, but these symptoms are exhilarating when you get to pair up with your crush for a science experiment, sit next to your crush on the bus or (the crème de la crème of crush-dom), manage to eat a whole lunch by your crush's side. Unfortunately, the title "crush" is apt as it is very easy to be crushed if you find out that (s)he does not return your affections. Don't be crushed by a crush! Instead, follow these tips for moving on and moving up to someone who deserves your special attention.



Defining a Crush

A crush, unlike a relationship, is not a two-way street. Often you'll realize that you feel a strong attraction to someone you barely know, for reasons you barely understand, and that this, in all of its glory, is a crush.


Signs of a Killer Crush

Even if you know better, falling hard for a crush can be unavoidable. Signs of a killer crush include:

*Wanting to be near your crush, even if you don't know his/her name, and (s)he wouldn't know yours.
*Wanting to find out as much as you can about your crush and searching for clues to "prove" your compatibility.
*Changing your habits or schedules to coincide with those of your crush.
*Feeling embarrassed or flustered when your crush pays attention to you.
*Reacting nervously when you are physically close to your crush.
*Obsessing for hours about a hypothetical future with your crush.

Coping with a Crush

Living with a crush isn't easy, in fact it's hard work. Having a crush makes it hard to concentrate, it makes it hard to eat and it especially makes it hard to sleep, even if you are hoping to meet up with your crush somewhere in your dreams. To make sure that the rest of your life doesn't fall apart for the duration of your crush,


Confess your crush to your friends and ask them to distract you.
Throw yourself into schoolwork to make sure you don't fall behind (and who knows, maybe by standing out you'll catch your crush's attention).
Take up a hobby that will get you out of the house and get you moving.
Give yourself enough time alone to fantasize about your crush, but don't let it interfere with your real life.

Living with a crush can be a wonderful, magical, painful, torturous time. Allow yourself to enjoy the frivolity of a crush, but don't let your feelings override your common sense. Don't risk your safety, or your reputation, in order to get your crush's attention, and forget about your true friends and relationships. In other words, don't irrevocably change your life for a crush that will likely disappear as quickly as it began. Ride it out, enjoy it, and let it die its natural death.

You may feel like the world will never be the same but over time - a new love will arise and the memory of the first will be just that - a memory. Hope this helps someone ........

I had many crushes in school, but I never had the courage to admit them to the girl(s) I like. :/

Well I did tell this one girl finally, like a week or so ago, but it was after school, and I would have told her face to face, but I am in Africa. >.> So I told her on myspace. And she hasn’t replied! crying

That is why I hate crushes, they never work and make you heartbroken.

hmm...ya i remember my 1st crush.......i never got to tell her that i liked her, but 1 day my friends told her without me knowing, and now she thinks im a wimp cuz i didnt tell her myself, and now she is rly mean to me D=..........that seems to happen with every girl i like.....i try to hang out with them, but when i ask they always say "oh i have to go to my ______ class to make up for a test i missed yesterday since i was absent"....even if they werent absent that day.....prty much my whole school hates me for some weird reason and i cant seem to find any nice girls anymore.......*sighs* crying

My crushes last until they ask for my phone number. I can't stand phone calls, and all my dates are convinced that since I'm talkative, I demand a lot of phone time.

I hate it and then I break it. So right now, I'm on yet another realtionship hiatus.

I've had a million of these, they just keep getting easier to get over. Eventually, it takes one day to bounce back after rejection. Rejection still sucks though.(insert a frownie face and a tear here)

I must jsut say that my first crush pretty much destoryed me.

--Well, it was a crush, and I admitted my feeling to him, and surprising he returned them. But he sis so face-to-face, unlike me who told him via e-mail. Should I have been intelligent, I would have accepted the mutual feeling and let them grow, but what I did was make an excuse and run away. I broke the poor fellows heart, and he was an amazing friend.
By the grace of God, I talked to him again 3 years later and he forgave me... I still do not know why, and we are friends again, yet we went through this whoole episode a second time, except vice-versa.

But, needless to say, now I am afriad to like anyone, and, should I, I am enough of a coward to play the Lion in the Wizard of Oz. I am afraid that this same episode will happen again, or that I will end up in his shoes...
Even though all my friends are urging me forward, and even my parents, with my new "crush," I use any excuse to not tell him my feelings because I'm afraid.

Lame, I know, and irrational, thoughtless, stupid. I can see that I'm dumb, but yet I still behave that way. One of my biggest fears is rejection, however, and therefor I remain a coward, not wanting to risk replacing our smiles and laughs with a silent akwardness.... He is the only way I get through the day sometimes. Whenever I have a bad day he makes me smile and stuff my face with some unhealthy food, and laugh it off. But, I remain on a red-hot rod iron fence, debating wether or not to jump in to the lava and risk it all.