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has anyone else had this situation happen to them? if so, let me know how you deal with it...

last night, i went to the grocery store. then this girl starts walking down the aisle towards me. and i'm like 'I KNOW YOU!', or at least that's what my face was saying. i started giving her the 'don't i know you from somewhere' squint. i couldn't figure out where i knew her from, but then i realized that it's a girl i was best friends with from elementary school thru most of junior high. i was going to say something, but it was obvious that she was trying very hard not to look at me. so i picked up my meds and moved on.

this kinda stuff happens to me all the time. i'll see someone i used to be friendly with, and they will try their hardest not to talk to me. i think it's super-rude that people won't even say hi. i try not to let it bother me, but it kinda hurts sometimes. especially with this girl, cos we were best friends for years. and especially cos she just added me on facebook last month... stare

Well, why don't you be the brave one, and say "Hi" first? wink

If after that, they give you that obvious, "Hokays, weirdo"-look, then just move on, but sometimes it just takes you being the one who speaks first, then the other person may smile a little and even engage in conversation with you.

i dunno, from the way she was trying hard not to look at me, i got the sense she didn't want to be bothered. most of the time i do say hi, and i end up getting the "Hokays, weirdo"-look a lot. confused

dOOD.

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i cAN'T sTAND iT wHEN pEOPLE hALF-lISTEN tO mE oUT oF sOME sOCIAL oBLIGATION wHICH oNLY eXISTS iN tHEIR mIND (nOT iN rEALITY). iF yOU dON'T wANNA tALK tO mE, jUST sAY sO.

tHIS iS oNE oF mY pET pEEVES, iF yOU cAN'T tELL...hENCE tHE rANT. xD

i hate small talk too. if i'm out at the store, i'm not trying to have a conversation, i'm trying to buy something and leave. i didn't want to have a 'what have you been up to in the last 10 yrs' chat with this girl, a simple hello or other acknowledgement would've been fine. just don't act like i'm invisible, or you just can't stand to be seen near me... confused

i understand wanting to avoid awkward feelings and forced conversations. all i'm saying is that i think it's rude to not even say hi or throw a wave. how many times are you in the store and that random talkative person behind you keeps commenting on some celebrity's latest trouble, but someone you actually do know walks by and you don't even acknowledge them...

maybe i'm just more sensitive than most people....

I do that too mate.
I hate most people i know/knew

maybe it is an old-school thing. whenever i went out with my parents, they always forced me to say 'hello mr/mrs so-and so', even if my parents didn't feel like talking. and i realized that everytime i see black people out [especially if they're older than me], i involuntarily acknowledge them. i really think it makes some older folks happy to see young people with manners.