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 Posted: Thu Jun 05, 2008 1:50 pm
Okay~ Hello guild
Its been awhile.
Um.. I need some advice.
Bad.
I had a boyfriend about 6 weeks ago, and we were friends for about a month before we started going out. He is the most amazing guy I have ever met. He's got some problems that are now solved but weren't when we were going out.
He ended up breaking up with me because he didn't want me involved about a week after we started going out. It hurt, but I went with it 'cause I care more about him then I do for myself.
About two weeks after that, he asked me out again, saying how everything was fixed. I explained to him how it hurt to have been thrown aside and everything, but it was late that night so I told him I'd give him the answer the next morning. Even though I said that, every cell in my being knew my answer.
Yes.
The next morning he told me that we should just be friends.
A week later, we hung out. I was still at my friends house we he left and got back home, and he called her (it was the three of us). I ended up telling him how I still had a massive amount of feelings for him and he said he did to. I asked him why he shot me down (it just so happens that it was my Birthday when he did) and he replied with "I was scared too.. I wasn't thinking straight... But I.. I can't stand this."
Again, I told him I'd love to go out with him if he asked.
The next morning, an abundance of problems came up and he told me "I got caught up in the heat.. but right now, I don't need a girl friend. I need to think. I'm sorry for jerking you around like this-- I know its not fair"
So I said, "Yeah.. It hurts, you know?"
He said "I do. And I'm sorry.. but I.. I need to think.. I'll call you later"
Its been two-three weeks and I still care.
So much.
Some of my friends support me, saying "Its okay that you love him, you can't do anything about it" And after a while, I accepted it.
We were cool, this boy and I.
Until another friend said "You. Have. To. Get. Over. Him"
Now I'm confused.
Is it bad that I'm still in love with him?
Am I doing something wrong?
Sorry for my long winded background stuff... <3
Please help
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Posted: Thu Jun 05, 2008 2:27 pm
no its not bad to still love him. i still love my last crush. but i do think its unfair that he's playing with your emotions that way. i think the best thing to do is to move on because it seems that he has too many problems to be in a stable relationship. did he even tell you what the problem was?
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Posted: Thu Jun 19, 2008 2:12 am
omg i am having the same kind of problem, except we had been together for 7 months and known each other for over a year. He broke up with me yesterday, but its killing us both inside right now. he said he doesnt want to but he needs to get his priorities straight. what was worse is he saw me in tears today, which is what i did not want. it hurts me to see him like he is cuz we both want to be with each other, but he cant do it. so now i am left here feeling like crap and have to wait till hes ready again. hes making everything so confusing. its okay if you still love him, i still love my ex. you cant just get over someone like that, and it takes time, so yes its okay if you still love him
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Posted: Thu Jun 19, 2008 7:29 am
I have this feeling over a friend who I had a fling w/ (online too!) and you don't just stop loving someone. I think he should tell you what the problems were so you could at least know what's going on. It's okay to love him and I think that as long as he knows you do, things might look up after a while. Sometimes all you need is time to sort things out. Your friend wasn't right in telling you to just get over him. Maybe in time you'll get over him or he'll get things sorted out.
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Posted: Thu Jun 19, 2008 2:55 pm
Hi.
Well, it's never wrong to love someone.
But what isn't good is when you let it mess up your life & your health & you.
You don't HAVE to get over him, but in my opinion, you should.
You'll never be able to completely let go of what you feel, but what I've learned is:
If you lie to yourself long enough, the lie starts to sound quite a bit like the truth.
Tell yourself you don't need him.
Tell yourself that you will find someone else, someone better, someone who will not change his mind about you.
Tell yourself that no guy is worth being desperate & depressed about.
You'll start to believe it soon.
Good luck.
<3
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Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 10:40 am
Hey everyone > w <
Thank you all...
Meleny-chan:
No, he didn't... something about his dad messing with him. I mean, I understood because he did have some MAJOR problems...
What sucks even more is that now he has a girlfriend...
Love_of_innocent_rose:
I hope everything works out for you <3
Thanks
Chocolate-chan:
The problems are over for the most part, and I knew most of them.. Excluding the one he broke up with me for though...
I think he still kind of knows..
But now he has a girlfriend.. So he tends to bring up how I feel about him, so I'm contemplating on if I should lie to him that someone else caught my eye, or not..
Help?
Paige-chan:
Thanks <3
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Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 6:20 pm
r u shure u love him or do u like him theres a big difrence or maby u just use to him there so u need him i would tell u too move on how old r u any ways? u should never realy get in a sirous relashon ship if ur yong becaz its not like ur gona get maired (unless ur old enuf) + it realy never works out after the 3rd time 1st time ur just trying it out 2 might have messed up needs a second chance evry1 does unless it was somthing BIG the tird time no r u shure its love? heart
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Posted: Thu Feb 12, 2009 9:27 am
ok babe na its not bad that u still love him i still love my ex 2 and idk wut 2 do anymore about but its ok 2 still love him dont listen 2 ur friend u feel wut u feel like im going throw the same s**t wit my friends there telling me the sam thing"get over him already" im like na i cant but yea its not bad hope i helped u out biggrin
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Posted: Sat Feb 14, 2009 11:51 pm
All's I have to say is good luck with it..
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