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 Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 12:39 pm
I've been wondering this for a while, and I thought I'd post it and see what people think...
What makes you an adult??
I feel like I'm starting to become one, and I don't feel quite ready... ninja I don't wanna grow up! 'Cause I'm a ToysRUs kid!! whee
Anway... sweatdrop I was wondering what you all thought made up an adult. question Or really any thoughts you think relate...
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Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 2:27 pm
One can be an adult and yet still act like a child....
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Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 2:38 pm
I think responsibility is what makes one a true adult.
As long as you're responsible with the stuff that really matters, you can goof off and be a kid all you like as far as everything else is concerned. smile
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Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 5:32 pm
Adult? What's that? blaugh
I had a friend who did a paper about what made a person an adult and she concluded hat there was no such thing. No one she talked to considered themselves an adult. I certainly don't and I'm turning 21! She doesn't, and she's in her mid 20's! My dad, in his 60's still doesn't act like one. A person can be physically an adult and admit defeat to that, but really, having responcibilities doesn't make you an adult. Just no longer a child. A child has little to no responsibilities. A teen has some and they increase day by day. Then there are those who have the adult responsibilities but don't care squat for "adult" things. I'll never really be an "adult". I'll just be a very old kid.
If responsibilites and worries are getting to you, take a step back and look at the big picture. look into your old journals and laugh at yourself adn your old worries. Look at your patriartical blessing and goals adn think of how you want to get to them. then look at where you are now. And take a break away from it all to put it in better perspective. Adult worries only give adult ulsurs. MOst things people worry over you can't control, so relax and remember, this is only a test. there will be more so don't loose your head over this one. Take President HInkley's Dad's advice and forget yourself and get to work for others. nothing puts things in perspective faster than that.
Adult shmult. We're all children in God's eyes. Kinda like it that way.
Sorry for the rambling/preaching/wordiness/lecture stuff. Ignore as you like.
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Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 7:28 pm
Lucentas I think responsibility is what makes one a true adult. As long as you're responsible with the stuff that really matters, you can goof off and be a kid all you like as far as everything else is concerned. smile
I have to agree, responsibility does make one a true adult....
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Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 9:12 pm
i say once you have addmitted defeat and joined the hum-drum activitis of the Big world then you are an adult. so play videogames buy a paintball gun and paint your house, Play hookie all those things that break the mold!
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Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 10:04 pm
jambare One can be an adult and yet still act like a child.... I totally agree. My brother-in-law is a total nut. He plays video games, talks in silly voices, and is one big goof ball. But he's responsible, he values and respects the priesthood that he holds, and he takes care of the things that matter most- one of those things being my sister. Some people just have nutty, juvenile personalities, but they are responsible and can handle life's demands. That's what's important to being adult. At Institute we're studying prep to eternal marriage right now, and it makes me feel like I have a long way to go before I am truly an adult, even though I'm 19. I've got a major amount of maturity to get ahold of, so I sometimes consider myself an adult, but I very often still feel like a little girl.
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Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 7:23 am
LemonBooya jambare One can be an adult and yet still act like a child.... I totally agree. My brother-in-law is a total nut. He plays video games, talks in silly voices, and is one big goof ball. But he's responsible, he values and respects the priesthood that he holds, and he takes care of the things that matter most- one of those things being my sister. Some people just have nutty, juvenile personalities, but they are responsible and can handle life's demands. That's what's important to being adult. At Institute we're studying prep to eternal marriage right now, and it makes me feel like I have a long way to go before I am truly an adult, even though I'm 19. I've got a major amount of maturity to get ahold of, so I sometimes consider myself an adult, but I very often still feel like a little girl.
Becoming an adult is a daunting thing...especially at 19....you want to be an adult and be independent and do 'adult' things yet at the same time you want to be a kid and not have all those responsibilities...if you can find the balance like your brother-in-law you will do well...know when to have fun and also know when to be serious and responsible...
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Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 5:37 pm
Wow... so much awesomeness. Thanks ya'll! 4laugh *big hug* I love all of your answers!!
Hm... So basically: be serious when I should be, find a balance, don't worry too much, and play often. Yeah, I think I can do that. 3nodding
But don't take this like I'm ending the thread. If anyone has any other thoughts, I'm more then happy to hear them. biggrin
Lucentas: Responsibility, yeah, that definately has a lot to do with it. So I have your permission to goof off? biggrin Yeay!! ninja
Gilmare: "Adult worries only give adult ulsurs." rofl No please, give ramblings! 3nodding And hey, I love your answer! heart
noremak is a mormon: rofl Boo-yah! Y'know... I've always wanted to be in a food fight... I just may now. blaugh
LemonBooya: Heh, it's good to know I'm not the only one dealing with this. *hugs* As long as you can handle life's demands huh?... Hm... 'Nother good answer. I like that... And hey, props to your Bro-in-law. wink
jambare: Hm... true, true... And a balance huh? Hm... *sigh* And therein lies the rub... Different people, different balances. >.O But thanks for your insight!
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Posted: Sat May 31, 2008 7:38 am
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Posted: Sat May 31, 2008 8:16 pm
The thing I've learned about being adult (officially 30 now) is that there's so much more and at the same time so much less to it than I thought there was when I was 15.
It's more than never having to do what anyone else says. (BOY is it... just ask my boss!) It's more than having the money to buy the stuff my parents would never buy for me. (Like knowing why they wouldn't and why I probably won't buy them for my kids either.)
At the same time, I'm still me. My fears and bad habits didn't just go away when I graduated high school... or university... or when I moved to Japan... or when I got married... or when I turned 30. (Would've been nice, though.)
I had a *very* bad day at work recently. My boss took me aside to tell me I was putting backs up around the office. She did so with all the good intentions in the world. She just wanted everyone in the office to be happy and she was not only NOT trying to make me feel bad, she was trying NOT to make me feel bad. It didn't help. I still cried. I did my best to take it like a responsible adult but I just felt so lost. I didn't mean to upset anyone and it was all completely inadvertent. Prior to this talk I'd thought I was doing very well at keeping my temper and I thought I was getting along well with everyone at the office. Of course, then came the talk and I felt like I was back in middle school again.
Grown-ups don't have it all figured out. Which is not to say you'll never feel confident and in control/at peace with your life -- living in Japan was an awesome experience and I'd do it again in a heartbeat -- but more to say that we all have struggles. Whatever you end up struggling with, remember that. Whether you're 13, 25 or 77, it doesn't matter. You're not alone. We all still bang our shins on the coffee tables of life.
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Posted: Sat May 31, 2008 10:01 pm
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Posted: Sun Jun 01, 2008 8:57 am
sometimes for me too. I have developmental delay disability so mabey you know where I coming from.
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Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 3:37 am
I think you become a real "adult" when others matter more to you than your own pleasure and ease and when you do things for them you would never do for yourself. You become more "Christlike" and caring and realize your mistakes sooner. You know what the scriptures teach and try to live them Every minute of Every day. You don't accept mistakes as total failure but keep trying - getting up one more time than you are down. You don't expect others (or yourself) to be perfect because you realize it doesn't happen in this life and you still expect the best from yourself and others while still being supportive if they/you fail to do the best. You know you are not better than anyone else, but neither are you worse or less important. You want to please Heavenly Father because He loves you - not because you are afraid of the consequences if you don't.
I don't think age is as much a factor as we are pressured to believe - I have known teenagers who were more "adult" than their parents!
I could go on - but I am sure that you get the picture - you just be the best YOU you can be and remember you ARE a Child of God - a God/Goddess in Embryo.
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Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 9:53 pm
Yeay! biggrin More awesome responses! Thanks again ya'll!
Itesa- Wow... Awesome responce. (love your avi too btw) Very down to Earth. And very helpful. 3nodding It's nice to know that adults have problems too. heart
Samantha_Grey- Hm... Yeah, bills... sweatdrop Not looking forward to that...
chrisavera12003- Good to know I'm not the only one struggling. *hugs*
MsRoseLovingJo- Wow. Yeah, very true, very true...
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