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 Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 3:27 pm
I'm back y'all and I've had the most exciting and crazy month ever, espescially the last two weeks.
I used to go to school with a girl that i was madly in love with. But, I pushed her away at the time because I was sexually confused, and way to in to drugs. Then when things started calming down, I was less confused and less into drugs I had realized what I had thrown away, what could have been the love of me life. But, she was with someone else at this point and from the way she talked about him I thought for sure they would get married. But, I was happy as long as she was. Then after the last day of high school, she disappeared and I never saw her again.
That is, until just last week. A friend of mine was able to meet up with her over myspace. Then she got my phone number, we hung out, and over the course of a day she was sleeping in my arms. How ecstatic I was, I thought it was a dream, too surreal. But there she was. Time stood still. We didn't have sex, just rolled around and whispered sweet nothings to each other all night long. Then we did it again the next night. She told me she wanted to take it slow and that she wanted some time to herself after being in a few bad relation ships and I was more than happy to give her all the time she needed. I was without her for this long, a little longer seemed like nothing.
Then she spends two nights at another boys house, which worries me a little. But I didn't assume anything. Then she calls me a day later telling me that she's been lying about not wanting a relation ship, that she wants this other man.
I could live with this, with her being with another. But, what really gets me is that everyone knows it will end badly. SHE WAS THE FIRST TO SAY SO! She and everyone knows it will end in tears. And not only will I have to see her heart torn, but my own will be torn with hers.
She says she loves him because he dominates her. Boys who don't irritate her and she says he makes her happy. But how can she be happy knowing what will come? She keeps asking me what she should do. She knows the out come, and how she feels now, but she can't make up her own mind still. Yet she's says she loves him. What should I do. So far all I can thing to do is stay true to myself and love her through everything and respect her. But she doesn't want respect, she wants to submit. I don't know how I should act or feel. I know how I will and do act and feel. But, I have this crazy feeling that things could, and should be different.
I don't know, maybe I just want comfort. Or at least to know that someone now knows my predicament. Please hit me back y'all. I'd like to hear what you have to say.
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Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 6:48 pm
You have a strong influence on her right, persuade, don't let her go down that path, save her, guide her, even though she may state her actions are hers freely and hers to command, you still must persuade her, convince her she need to leave him, plus, you being her guardian, you have a responsibility to her, and as you still love her, do what you must, just keep her safe, no need to let her just walk into a life that could get possibly worse, take action, take command, don't let her fade into a life taht you and her will both regret, you on the part that you could have done something to prevent it, and her for not changing her ways......
all I can say is.....take action....don't let things happen and you just stand there and watch things just occur without preventing the harm. 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 10:52 pm
You're right. I'm gonna see her as soon as I can and really talk to her. What can it hurt? All it would show is how much I care for her anyway. It's the only way I can really feel like I did everything I could. Thanks for the advice man. All I needed was to hear it from someone else. And put so well I must say. Thank you so much.
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Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 1:04 pm
Just careful how you lash out your words, you don't want to sound all choleric and aggressive. ^^
Just....keep it peaceful, but forceful. 3nodding
any more questions, I am open...sort of in a way. sweatdrop
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Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 2:26 pm
Actually, I've already figured out how I can avoid the problem of sounding as if I'm "lashing out' by collecting my thoughts on paper before I even talk to her. At least then I'll have some idea what to (and what not to) say. Besides, being to aggressive wouldn't be me.
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Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 4:30 pm
Excellent of course, way ahead of me. whee xd
and yes, you are the one who seeks peace, how can I forget. blaugh
um....*hugs you* don't let anybody else know. sweatdrop
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Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 9:53 pm
Let anyone else know what?
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Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 9:39 am
That I hugged....
what else. xd rofl
but yeah...nobody else... ninja
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Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 1:45 pm
Thunderboltx That I hugged.... what else. xd rofl but yeah...nobody else... ninja I think you missed the point stare Let anyone else know what? As in, if I don't know, I can't say. You're silly thunder! xd
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Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 2:00 pm
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Posted: Sun Apr 20, 2008 4:20 pm
dramallama cheese_whine dramallama cheese_whine Why of course you are wink 3nodding !
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Posted: Mon Apr 21, 2008 7:18 pm
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Posted: Mon Apr 21, 2008 11:23 pm
What's wrong with being silly. 
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Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 6:27 pm
I wasn't trying to be silly, silly. xd rofl
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Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 3:48 am
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