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 Posted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 7:50 pm
So, I'm in a M/s relationship.
I just got off the phone with my Master, he asked me what I thought if he told me I was just a body to him, and I said I didn't know. And he told me to correct response, and I had repeated it. Then later on in the conversation he said I was only a body to him, but after that he said he loves me. He loves me.. for my body? =/ I'm not okay with that. A Master is supposed to love his slave isn't he? I just feel so.. used. Well, of course I'm always used, but this is a worse feeling. I feel like I can do better than this. I love him dearly and I can't see myself separating from, but its hard not to think about it every once in a while. I know I'm his slave, and I always will be until he lets me go. I guess I'm in a position of where my heart and my brain are conflicting with each other. Except its my heart telling me to leave, but my brain telling me I can't =/
PE, what do I do?
EDIT: He posted me on /b/, and now I'm in a position where I'm being forced by a whole shitload of people on a meebo chat =/
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Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2008 6:00 am
though i've never even though about being in that kind of relationship, i think that, though you are loyal to him and want to continue being loyal to him, he still has to do his part.
your brain retains information and controls what you do, but your heart should be the one guiding it.
obviously you know enough about this kind of relationship that you can tell the difference between feeling like you're doing your part in that relationship and doing what you're supposed to, as opposed to being mistreated.
as you said, a master should love his slave, body as well as the rest of you. if you don't take hold of the situation, those kinds of things lead to a lot worse (not saying he would intentionally abuse you, but sometimes it happens subconsciously when men get used to it).
anyway, i think it'd be best to try and talk to him about it. i'm not sure how that goes over because of the whole m/s thing, but, as cliché as it is, listening to your heart usually has a better outcome.
hope i could help a little.
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Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2008 8:59 am
THE HIV though i've never even though about being in that kind of relationship, i think that, though you are loyal to him and want to continue being loyal to him, he still has to do his part.
your brain retains information and controls what you do, but your heart should be the one guiding it.
obviously you know enough about this kind of relationship that you can tell the difference between feeling like you're doing your part in that relationship and doing what you're supposed to, as opposed to being mistreated.
as you said, a master should love his slave, body as well as the rest of you. if you don't take hold of the situation, those kinds of things lead to a lot worse (not saying he would intentionally abuse you, but sometimes it happens subconsciously when men get used to it).
anyway, i think it'd be best to try and talk to him about it. i'm not sure how that goes over because of the whole m/s thing, but, as cliché as it is, listening to your heart usually has a better outcome.
hope i could help a little.
The thing is, I don't want to tell him how I'm feeling. I'm not the most open person in RL. Everytime I DO tell him I'm hurt, we both get into this huge argument, and we both end up feeling worse and worse about the situation.
Right now, I'm just going along with it with a little more.. apathetically. Even right now, on msn he said he likes this me better =/ I haven't argued or been stubborn lately. Insead of telling him, should I go on like this and see if he becomes bored of all this?
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Posted: Sun Mar 23, 2008 8:06 am
no, because i don't think it should have to resort to him getting bored.
like i said, i think you should tell him. i'm a fairly shy person when it comes to that stuff in real life too. i'm good at expressing myself and my feelings, but it takes me a lot to get to the point where i'm actually GOING to say something. once you start, it'll just come out.
and of course he likes this you better; he has total control of everything. m/s relationships are cute, and i see nothing wrong with them at all. i just don't think he should have your heart completely wrapped around his little finger, you know? also, you're just going to wind up getting YOURSELF more attached to him, so even if he does get bored, you're just going to think "well... i guess it doesn't really matter all that much; i DO want to be with him" and it's all downhill from there.
and arguing might sound really shitty, and it's going to feel even more shitty, but i've just recently learned that arguing is the only way you're going to learn to deal with your disagreements. my boyfriend and i argue a LOT, because we're both finding things about each other that we don't agree with, but we're also trying to make a huge effort to learn to LOVE them, rather than try and ignore them. pretending everything's okay is just as bad as everything NOT being okay. the only thing is, pretending isn't going to get anywhere, and leads to false love. maybe not consciously, but pretending is just another form of lying, and a relationship built off of lies bears no real meaning. i can't tell you want to do, but i think the best possible thing, even if it messes things up with you guys, would be to tell him; if he's not willing to work for his slave a little bit, he should find a new one. you're his slave, not welcome mat.
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Posted: Sun Mar 23, 2008 9:07 pm
this is difficult for me
because i never heard about those kind of relationshios before D:
i think you should tell him [if you're.. allowed [¿?]] how you feel
cuz i think it could get worse, and you'll end up feeling unloved
maybe you need more communication?
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Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 4:50 am
wow, seriously. talk to him.
that s**t can really wind up ******** you over.
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Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 1:28 pm
Okay guys. I told him about it and we worked everything out.
He didn't mean it when he said I was only a body to him.
We're all happy and smiles now. ^^
Thanks for the advice.~
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Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 5:32 pm
I did have to serve my punishment though, since on Saturday I was disobedient and grouchy and disrespectful about it.
But thats a whole different story.
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Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 5:43 pm
lol!
well i'm glad things worked out~
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