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 Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 6:26 pm
Okay, so a lot of weird s**t has been happening in my life lately. It's kind of overwhelming. gonk A lot of my friends don't date so they don't undertand what I'm going through and can't give me much advice. I really need someone to talk to about all this. Please help me decide what I should do.
I'm going to refer to my ex-boyfriend as Edward.
My current boyfriend is going to be Jacob.
The rest of my friends are also going to be Twilight characters. This way it makes it less complicated and easier for the both of us.
It starts like this:
Edward told me that he was thinking about breaking up with me. (About a month ago when we were still going out.) He said that because he said I was being really mean to him. It was because I liked to joke around with him but he took everything seriously. Then, he made me look like a total b***h to my friends. Well, I beat him to the chase and broke up with him! I mean, you don't just tell a girl that you might break up with them and then think that everything is going to be okay, am I right? He was pretty broken up about it and I felt worse than ever. Plus, there was also the guy I had been crushing on for two years, Jacob. But Jacob hadn't been talking to me so I felt even more depressed. Edward and I went to guidance and the lady said we should try a couple weeks as "just friends" and get if that works out we can get back into a relationship. I had broken up with Edward before but that only lasted a couple hours. We both agreed to the plan and then everything seemed okay.
Suddenly, Jacob started talking to me again on the bus. I was pretty happy about this. Jacob had always been there for me. He gave me good advice all the time and treated me like a friend. He's so amazing! I told Jacob that I had broken up with Edward and he was totally shocked. Edward and I had been together for over a year! He seemed sorry for me but also kinda...happy. Well, once almost everyone was off the bus, he sat with me and we talked. He admitted that he had liked me since 7th grade. (That was how long I had liked him too) And so I told him how I felt too. I hadn't ever seen him so bubbly and happy before. He agreed to give me some time to get over Edward before he would ask me out. Jacob had actually led me out of my depression. I didn't think anyone could, but he somehow did!
At the formal dance, that very week, Jacob was there. Edward wasn't. He asked me to dance and said I looked "stunning". He was always so good with words! In the middle of a slow dance, he kissed. Multiple kisses followed. Before that night, Edward had been the only guy I ever kissed. I knew I was falling for Jacob.
Edward found out about this and was angry at me. But still, I could see other guys since we were both single. Oh, and Jacob asked me out to make it official that we were dating. He's so cute!
I was kinda afraid to fall in love again but I did it anyways. Edward sometimes wanted to be my friend, other times he would blow me off and insult me. I was irritated!
Now Edward wants to move on. I want him to be happy but he refuses to tell me who he's ginna ask out. I'm kinda nervous. And jealous too. All I know is that this mystery girl is a friend of mine and that she might be a sophmore. Edward really wants to make me jealous and it seems to be working. I won't give into him though. Well, I made a joke with him that the reason I can't guess this myster person's name is because it's a guy. But he was like, "I'm not gay! I'm not like Jacob!" This really pissed me off. He was reffering to thr fact that Jacob is Bisexual but that doesn't matter to me. I flipped out on him and now we're fighting a war that he doesn't know that we're in.
I'm still very jealous but very much in love with Jacob. How should I handle this?
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Posted: Sat Mar 01, 2008 5:54 am
Okay, I have something to add to this now:
It turns out, Edward's crush is my best friend, Alice!!!!
That's totally out of question!
1. Cuz she's my best friend and he's my ex.
2. He is not her type. Edward is immature and just a kid. She likes older guys who party and act like...teenagers. Not kids!
3. She likes guys who are really good looking. (Shaggy hair, tall, ect.) Edward isn't tall and has short red hair. And he looks like a little kid.
4. Alice is too good for him. She's pretty popular and Edward is not. He is wicked annoying too
5. Also she has her eye on two other guys
So, this wouldn't work out in a million years! I hate Edward so much right now and so does she. She hates how he's been trying to hurt me. All the while I was going out with me, Alice has been keeping her thoughts to herself about how she really felt. She knew I could do better than Edward but I didn't realize that until a few months ago. It took me over a year to figure that out! I know now that I can do better than Edward because I have Jacob now. Jacob is so sweet. I told him all about this and he's been helping me out as best he can. He also is very grateful to me because I defend him everytime someone tries to say something bad about him. (Cuz he's bisexual) Edward believes all the rumors he hears about him and tries to bother me about it but I don't listen. I know that none of that is true. I love Jacob and I'm glad that I'm one of the few people who knows the person who he truly is!
I'm gonna tell Edward all the reasons why Alice wouldn't go out with him. She wants me to and she's going to try to avoid him. Everything is such a mess now.
Oh, and most of my friends are against me cuz I wasn't supposed to find out who Edward liked and I wasn't supposed to tell Alice but I did anyway. They also think I'm a bad person because I broke Edward's heart. The truth is that I'm the one who is being abused right now. Edward is making everyone think this way about me so they'll feel sorry for him. He's being an absolute jerk! Jacob says I didn't do anything wrong and I know I didn't. I couldn't help that I was in love with Jacob!
What am I going to do? One of my friends, Rosalie, is trying to make me feel as guilty as possible and it bothers me. She's mad cuz she knows that no one else is going to go out with Edward and he's gonna stay single and lonely. It wouldn't be that way if he would just learn to grow up. No one listens to my side of the story except for Alice and my other friend Leah. Leah is actually really mad at Rosalie for what she's trying to get everyone to think about me.
I dunno...I'm kinda stuck now...
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Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 5:06 pm
He destroyed my life...
Let's see.
Well as for the jealousy part, it's normal.
If you had been going out for that long, then it woouldn't be easy to suddenly accept that he likes another girl.
And, just because I am spiteful towards childish guys, show him how close you are to your best friend.
Make him jealous.
As for your friends thinking differently about you, then I feel sorry for them.
It means that they have listened to gossip and taken their views from that.
He obviously isn't as heart broken as people would make out, especially seeming as he was so open about liking another girl.
Admitedly though, it does spite a guy when their recent ex goes off with another.
I was engaged.
He turned really nasty towards me.
I left him, and two days later was (openly) going out with another guy.
(So I cheated on my Fiance.. He was an abusive git anyway)
My view, if a guy cannot treat you right, he is not wirth your time of day.
And anyone that supports a person like that, doesn't deserve it either.
Now I will destroy him.
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Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 2:26 pm
Pure Vampyre He destroyed my life...
Let's see.
Well as for the jealousy part, it's normal.
If you had been going out for that long, then it woouldn't be easy to suddenly accept that he likes another girl.
And, just because I am spiteful towards childish guys, show him how close you are to your best friend.
Make him jealous.
As for your friends thinking differently about you, then I feel sorry for them.
It means that they have listened to gossip and taken their views from that.
He obviously isn't as heart broken as people would make out, especially seeming as he was so open about liking another girl.
Admitedly though, it does spite a guy when their recent ex goes off with another.
I was engaged.
He turned really nasty towards me.
I left him, and two days later was (openly) going out with another guy.
(So I cheated on my Fiance.. He was an abusive git anyway)
My view, if a guy cannot treat you right, he is not wirth your time of day.
And anyone that supports a person like that, doesn't deserve it either.
Now I will destroy him.
Thanks for the advice!
Yeah, Edward and I tried to work things out and agreed to be friends. He might ask out this girl he met online that lives an hour away. I'm not really jealous of her cuz I know she's not gonna want to date Edward once she meets him. A friend of mine knows her and says she's really pretty and really popular, and Edward is an ignorent kid. (Who will probably either be turned down or cheated on by this girl) She's too good for him but he doesn't get it. Oh, well. I tried to warn him
Anyway, Rosalie left me some nasty comments on one of my friend's profiles. She thinks that we can just forget all this but her words were very hurtful. She said that all I care about is myself and my "precious Jacob", making me seem like a jerk. I dunno.
As for Jacob, he's been supporting me this whole time. Whenever I need someone to talk to He's there for me, just the same as it's always been.
Edward doesn't like Alice, which is awesome news. That was just a rumor started by one of my other friends.
I really hope things get better soon. It's really annoying how Edward thinks he's hott stuff. He'll go and try to flirt with a group of girls...well, actually it's kinda funny how they keep denying him. I can tell that they don't want him around. I wish he'd just give up!
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Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 9:26 am
stare My brother thinks he is hot, and it sounds like he is the same s Edward; in the way that he thinks/acts.
Picture of my brother.. confused
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Posted: Sun Mar 16, 2008 8:54 am
Pure Vampyre stare My brother thinks he is hot, and it sounds like he is the same s Edward; in the way that he thinks/acts.
Picture of my brother.. confused
The funny thing is that your brother is a lot better looking than Edward. And probably has a lot bigger ego too.
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Posted: Sun Mar 16, 2008 9:06 am
Oh, so Jacob broke up with me. I didn't see it coming either.
The problem is I loved him so much and he left me while I was still very much in love and everything was going good. We never fought or argued. Not even once!
It's been a week and Jacob hadn't talked to me since the break-up.
This Friday he sent me an IM and apologized for not talking to me and for hurting me. A ton of girls like him so he's moved on already. I still can't cuz the only person I like is Jacob.
Edward is being a d**k. He was happy that Jacob dumped me and has been calling me a b***h all the time. He also announced to my friends at luch the reason why I'm a b***h. He said that I did everything wrong and that he didn't do anything cuz he's a perfect little angel. God, I hate him so much!
Talking to Jacob is actually making things harder on me cuz the more I talk to him the more I fall in love with him. We agreed to be friends though. I'm kinda in this semi-depressed mental stage. I don't know exactly how I feel. Jacob and I were only going out for exactly a month. (He broke up with me on our anniversary) sad And I fell in love with him so fast. I can't get over him though. But I'm not whining and crying over it. I know it's not the end of the world.
I'd go out with Jacob again, even though he didn't really treat me right. I'm crazy, I know. But he'll never go out with me again and my parents have forbidden me from it anyways. They say I deserve so much better and don't like the fact that he broke up with me for no real reason at all. They knew I loved him and understand that that's why I'm hurting so much.
Heartbreak is aweful! emo
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Posted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 9:20 am
He destroyed my life...
I'm so sorry. *Hugs*
I can't believe he would do that, especially with no reason.
Edward deserves to be puched in the face a few (hunderd) times.
I really don't know hat to say about Jacob though.
In time you will move on, even if you don't stop loving him.
If you truly love him, he will always be in your heart.
You need to get a reason from him though, otherwise you will be wondering for the rest of your life, and you may even blame yourself.
Now I will destroy him.
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Posted: Tue Mar 18, 2008 5:50 pm
Pure Vampyre He destroyed my life...
I'm so sorry. *Hugs*
I can't believe he would do that, especially with no reason.
Edward deserves to be puched in the face a few (hunderd) times.
I really don't know hat to say about Jacob though.
In time you will move on, even if you don't stop loving him.
If you truly love him, he will always be in your heart.
You need to get a reason from him though, otherwise you will be wondering for the rest of your life, and you may even blame yourself.
Now I will destroy him.
Yeah, I've been trying my best to move on but my heart just isn't in it. I guess I'm just trying too hard.
Jacob says he doesn't hate me but he acts like it. He hasn't actually had a conversation with me in person yet. We both freeze up when we see each other so he just pretends I don't exsist. On the bus, he acts depressed and likes to sit by himself and listen to music. He was looking for a seat today but everyone was saying he couldn't sit with them and I was the only seat that was open. He refused to sit with me and eventually convinced a guy a couple seats away to let him sit there. I felt really insulted.
Edward is trying to move on and just wants a girl to rub it in my face that he has someone and I don't.
One of my friends admitted to liking Edward and made sure it was okay with me. I wouldn't tell her that it isn't okay cuz she can like whoever she wants. I'm over Edward so I don't care. My only problem with it is that I don't want her to get hurt if she goes out with him cuz Edward's a jerk.
Jacob says that the reason why he broke up with me is because he didn't want anything serious. But I knew it wasn't serious to begin with. I just wish he would have let our relationship run it's course instead of ending it before he actually has a reason as to why it won't work between us. Like I said before, it was going really good. And I think the fact that I loved him was a good enough reason for us to stay together. Jacob has a ton of girls who like him. So, if he can get almost any girl he wants, why would he want me?
I just don't understand. I still haven't given up hope that we could somehow be together again. I'm ashamed of myself for saying this but I wish I could be more selfish. All I've cared about was Jacob's happiness and I didn't do much about my own. I want Jacob to be happy even if that means he'll be with other girls. But I want to be happy too. It's too bad that the only happiness I can get right now is from Jacob and he's moved on.
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Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2008 5:02 pm
The sad part of this is, you might not be the pnly girl he does this too..
If he never wants something serious, then he could eb moving on from girls to girls every couple of months or so.
Eventually he will want something serious, and the girls that want him may not.
So by that point, if you still want something serious with him, and you let him see that, then he may come back to you.
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Posted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 5:17 am
Pure Vampyre The sad part of this is, you might not be the pnly girl he does this too..
If he never wants something serious, then he could eb moving on from girls to girls every couple of months or so.
Eventually he will want something serious, and the girls that want him may not.
So by that point, if you still want something serious with him, and you let him see that, then he may come back to you.
I'd go out with Jacob again but I think I'd be really scared. I'd constantly be expecting him to break my heart again. A friend of mine let him know that I still love him and now he ignores me more than usual.
I'm gonna hango out with one of my guy friends this weekend cuz we never get to see each other since he lives in another town. He admitted that he likes me and I think i kinda like him. I'm just kinda nervous about relationships. Now I think that every guy is like Jacob and they're all out to break my heart. I don't think this guy will though. He's helped me out a lot. He called me after Jacob dumped me and he listed to my whole story and gave me advice. I can tell he really cares about me and we have a lot in common when it comes to what we want out of a relationship so I can see it working out. I dunno if I'm quite ready to move on yet though.
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Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2008 8:49 am
In reality, you should know someone as a friend before they become a more.
That way, you get to find out about the person before you realise it's too late. That means that you should be close friends. Talk about everything etc.
My first boyfriend, I knew for a few months, he turned out to be one of the worst boyfriends you could ever have.
My current boyfriend, I was close to for over a year. We decided to take our time before going into anything and now our relationship is perfect.
This friend that you will be spending time with, I really suggest you try to get to know him better, you may find you like him more, and love grows from that.
He may just be your alleviation(sp?) from Jacob.
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