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 Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2005 1:41 pm
I have a problem. I love two women. One knows I love her, the other I can only guess. The first woman, I've told her I love her, and I do. But she has no idea yet about the other woman I'm in love with. And I have no idea how to break the fragile ice. The other woman, I loved long before I met the first woman. I was just too shy to ever say anything. Some recent events changed things, and now I love her more than I can ever express with words. Problem is, she has a boyfriend and could be pregnant. I'm friends with her boyfriend, but I don't want to hurt him in the process. I could honestly care less about him being the father of the unborn child, I would love the child like they were my own. But.......I don't know what to do. Every day without her is another day of living in the darkness, while I was with her, everyday was bright and worth living......but now......... crying
I don't know what to do...........please............help me...........and if anyone lives within 50 miles of Umatilla, Oregon......please let me know........you may be more help than you could ever know........
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 9:02 am
awww....im sorry you have such a problem.
::gives him a big, warm hug::
Most people would say do what feels right, because they dont want to be blamed if something goes wrong, but i say this even if you've loved one woman for longer, let her have a change with happiness with her current boyfriend, and like you said, maybe she's pregnant.
If it bothers you extremely, tell the other woman, the one who knows you love her, that you have feelings for this other woman. if you want to,tell her you still want to be with (the woman who knows you love her)
i know its kinda confusing, but if you want to talk more, feel free to PM me. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Aug 23, 2005 9:50 pm
beleive it or not I actually wish i had that problem. I have never had a gf , or ever evne known of a woman to like me.
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Posted: Wed Aug 24, 2005 8:03 am
Curtis25 beleive it or not I actually wish i had that problem. I have never had a gf , or ever evne known of a woman to like me. ::sits lightly atop his head:: Dont wish just any girlfriend on yourself. there are so many manipulative bitches out there that your better off waiting for a good one, as opposed to any one wink
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Posted: Thu Aug 25, 2005 12:30 pm
Well it all depends on what you're willing to sacrifice. You'll ultimately have to sacrifice your relationship with one of the women since you can't have both. Are you willing to sacrifice the relationship with one woman who isn't bound by another boyfriend or pregnancy to take a chance on the other woman? What if she isn't willing to split with her boyfriend? Then you have broken the heart of that other woman for no reason.
I think it was selfish of you to tell the woman you loved her, knowing that your affection is torn between her and someone else but enough of that. Stop wondering and go and talk to the woman who's preggie, tell her how you truly feel, then ask her what she'd be willing to do. If she does like you and wants you to wait around until she breaks up with her boyfriend, then go ahead and wait. But if she doesn't want to break up or doesn't love you in that way, it's time to cut your losses and realize there is still a woman who wants to love/be loved by you.
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Posted: Thu Aug 25, 2005 2:46 pm
Thanks ClaudiaJade. I've already told the first one, and she's sticking with me. I just hope things work out.
Tessiebean, I think I'm going to tell the "possibly" pregnant one........but only when I get the chance. I've been having a hard time getting ahold of her recently.
Guess I'll just have to wait to see if anyone else offers any insight and see how things "progress" for a bit. Thanks for the help so far.
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