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I don't, but I understand.

I agree. I am personally and politically pro-choice, I will decide what I want to do once I am in the situation.

There are going to be a lot of choicers who agree with you, since obviously being pro-choice =/= pro-aborting in every case, although I don't see the need to say "oh, but I'd never have one." And you're not anti-choice personally unless you want someone telling you whether or not to have an abortion. I personally would probably have an abortion, but plenty of other choicers are already parents are would choose to have the baby.

Political Pro-choice, Personal pro-life (but I will abort for medical reasons)

I wouldn't abort unless it was a serious medical problem. I'm in a stable relationship with my fiance and he said he would accept parenting rather than putting the child up for adoption.

Personally, I would like to see more pregnant women actually find an adoptive family (not throwing the baby into an adoption agency) before going ahead with an abortion. However, I believe it is their right as a human being to do what they want with their body.

Anyway, getting back to the actual question, I really don't want to have an abortion. Really, really, really don't want to have an abortion. It's part of the reason (although not even the biggest reason) I am abstaining from sex. I am absolutely not in a position to handle pregnancy, childbirth, or a baby, but I'm also not in a mindset where I think I could handle an abortion.

The whole thing kind of amuses me. You know when Pro-Lifers say if you can't handle the consequences of sex, don't have it? Well, I agree with this statement entirely, although not what Pro-Lifers mean when they say it. I believe that if you are in a situation where you cannot handle the potential outcomes of sex (from emotional attachment to STDs) then you shouldn't have sex. But I consider having an abortion to be dealing with one of the consequences of sex. However, because I could not deal with the potential outcomes of sex (one of which is giving birth/abortion) I'm abstaining.

Now, although my desire to not have an abortion is strong, I am also aware that there are circumstances where I would have an abortion. Some examples of these situations are my life/health being at risk, the father being abusive, or the fetus having some kind of defect. Oddly enough, these are all situations where I would be perfectly ok with having an abortion. I'm not sure how the logic fits in, but this whole thing isn't very logical to me. When it comes to myself and this issue, I'm operating on emotions, not reason, which isn't necessarily a bad thing.

I understand that you think this stems from a subtle desire to say something akin to, "I'm not like them!" but I honestly believe this isn't the case for many people. I think it is important to make sure that people know both that A) Not all people who support homosexual marriage are gay B) Not all people who support the right to abortion. I cannot count the number of times people have assumed that in order to be in favor of either, you must also be in a position to obtain the benefits that come from them. You know, the people who think that we support abortion or gay marriage not because it is right, but because we get something out of it. Regularly when I tell someone I am for gay marriage, people assume I'm gay. One person I was talking with over the internet even decided I was a gay man and refused to believe otherwise. With abortion, people constantly assume that I'm having sex and the only reason I support the right to choose is that I want to have sex without worrying about giving birth. People are actually surprised to hear that I'm Pro-Choice and a virgin. The same applies to people who are pro-choice but who would choose to continue the pregnancy. This is simply not the case, and I think it is important to let people know.

Simply, I see it as correcting a false assumption. When I tell people I'm Pro-Choice, people often assume I'm having sex and that I would choose to have an abortion. Sometimes they assume I have already had an abortion. When I tell people I am for gay marriage, many times people assume I am gay. But these assumptions are not accurate. It has nothing to do with thinking those who I am allying myself with are inferior and everything to do with being unholy tired of people believing I'm someone that I'm not.

and most of those people are idiots, aren't they? why do we feel the need to justify our moral stance on a subject to someone stupid enough to assume all people who support gay marraige MUST be gay? honestly, why should we give two shits what they think of us, especially if they're wrong?

frankly, i don't think that's a very good reason. these people may not want to sound like they're putting themselves on a pedestal, but to me that's exactly what it sounds like even if that isn't what the person intends. like it or not, saying "but i'd never abort" or "but i'm straight" is feeding the social stigmas surrounding both gay marraige and abortion. i can put my personal feelings about it aside, but you're still feeding that wonderful stigma.