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 Posted: Sun Dec 23, 2007 7:53 pm
When it comes to me and my boyfriend, I really believe I'm in love with him. He means so much to me. But he's not Christian. And I'm terrified he's going to Hell. When I think of it, I start to get all teary eyed, and I just say a silent prayer that God shows himself to Joseph. [[My boyfriend]] I've been taking him to church with me since we started dating [[September]] But he's not going to be able to come anymore. He dropped out of school and started going to Night school, which means He won't be able to go to Wednesday church with me. So, I don't know how God will work with him. I've tried giving him my testimony, infact today when me and him were watching Constantine, I told him about my demon expeirience. [[ read this]] I don't know what to do with him. So I tell myself that God will show himself to Joseph through my actions. Well, there's one problem with that. I lust over him EXTREMELY. And it's very obvious when we are together. My hands are always all over him, his hands all over me. And I don't try and stop it usually because I like it too much. I know it's wrong, but I don't know how to stop it. I want it so much it's not even funny. But I don't want to be a bad example of a Christian girl. How do I make it so I don't want it so much? How do I control my lustful desires with Joseph? I need prayer, and advice.
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 12:39 am
Firstly: Stop trying to convert him. Many individuals do not appreciate other peoples' beliefs forced on them. Even if "it's because you love him", to truly love someone means to put their feelings before your own, no matter what. And if they wish you to stop trying to convert them, you should respect their wishes. Unless, of course, they are perfectly fine and are in fact thinking of converting, in which case, full speed ahead!
Secondly: Lust nothing to be ashamed of. It's natural. I don't pretend to be so bold as to condone premarital intercourse, but sex is one of the highest, most beautiful hedonistic pursuits one can chase. It's the formula for creating a new soul. You don't get power stronger or more volatile than that. If you really wish to suppress your carnal desires, cold showers help. Also, watching Disney movies is sometimes effective.
Just my two cents worth. ^_^ Hope I was helpful.
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 8:15 am
First: It's not like she's shoving it down his throat.
Second: She wanted Christian advice.
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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2007 9:06 pm
GuardianAngel44 First: It's not like she's shoving it down his throat. Second: She wanted Christian advice. I'm really not trying to shove it down his throat. And I know he doesn't think fondly of Christianity. He said he won't tell me what he REALLY believes because he knows how much it will upset me. And it will, so I'm glad he keeps his mouth shut with that. Just to throw it out there I'M NOT SLEEPING WITH HIM. I've never slept with a guy before. But I still am crazy with lust when I see him. Not all the time, but alot of the times.
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Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 10:50 pm
GuardianAngel44 First: It's not like she's shoving it down his throat. Second: She wanted Christian advice. I believe her questions were how she could want it less and how to control her lust. And in my book, an attempt to convert someone is shoving your religion down their throat.
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Posted: Tue Dec 25, 2007 10:53 pm
Nyletak Necrophiliac GuardianAngel44 First: It's not like she's shoving it down his throat. Second: She wanted Christian advice. I'm really not trying to shove it down his throat. And I know he doesn't think fondly of Christianity. He said he won't tell me what he REALLY believes because he knows how much it will upset me. And it will, so I'm glad he keeps his mouth shut with that. Just to throw it out there I'M NOT SLEEPING WITH HIM. I've never slept with a guy before. But I still am crazy with lust when I see him. Not all the time, but alot of the times. Like I said: lust is normal. But the mind can overrule the will, the mind can overrule the senses. You just have to trust that your head, your reason and your faith are stronger than your carnal desires. Also: cold showers and Disney movies.
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Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 1:39 pm
Galad Damodred GuardianAngel44 First: It's not like she's shoving it down his throat. Second: She wanted Christian advice. I believe her questions were how she could want it less and how to control her lust. And in my book, an attempt to convert someone is shoving your religion down their throat. why must u b so argumental and offensive in every thread u post in? this helps nothing.
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Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 2:31 pm
Nyletak Necrophiliac When it comes to me and my boyfriend, I really believe I'm in love with him. He means so much to me. But he's not Christian. And I'm terrified he's going to Hell. When I think of it, I start to get all teary eyed, and I just say a silent prayer that God shows himself to Joseph. [[My boyfriend]] I've been taking him to church with me since we started dating [[September]] But he's not going to be able to come anymore. He dropped out of school and started going to Night school, which means He won't be able to go to Wednesday church with me. So, I don't know how God will work with him. I've tried giving him my testimony, infact today when me and him were watching Constantine, I told him about my demon expeirience. [[ read this]] I don't know what to do with him. So I tell myself that God will show himself to Joseph through my actions. Well, there's one problem with that. I lust over him EXTREMELY. And it's very obvious when we are together. My hands are always all over him, his hands all over me. And I don't try and stop it usually because I like it too much. I know it's wrong, but I don't know how to stop it. I want it so much it's not even funny. But I don't want to be a bad example of a Christian girl. How do I make it so I don't want it so much? How do I control my lustful desires with Joseph? I need prayer, and advice. Ok here's my humble opinion. I think you're relationship with your boyfriend is bringing you down rather than lifting you up. This may be hard to hear but the only way to control your desires might be to take a break from him. If he isn't open to your faith now, he might never be. Its a SUPER hard decision but....who do you love more? Your boyfriend or God?
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Posted: Thu Dec 27, 2007 2:50 am
sapphire_waterbender Galad Damodred GuardianAngel44 First: It's not like she's shoving it down his throat. Second: She wanted Christian advice. I believe her questions were how she could want it less and how to control her lust. And in my book, an attempt to convert someone is shoving your religion down their throat. why must u b so argumental and offensive in every thread u post in? this helps nothing. I believe the word is "argumentative", not "argumental". I am not trying to be so. I am merely putting forward my opinion. If other people choose to take offense at what I say, it is no business of mine unless they wish to confront me about it. Until or unless they prove my opinion ill-informed or otherwise erroneous, I will not apologize. And you will refrain from your own offensive statements. I do not appreciate being made out to be some kind of Devil's Advocate.
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Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 11:43 am
Galad Damodred sapphire_waterbender Galad Damodred GuardianAngel44 First: It's not like she's shoving it down his throat. Second: She wanted Christian advice. I believe her questions were how she could want it less and how to control her lust. And in my book, an attempt to convert someone is shoving your religion down their throat. why must u b so argumental and offensive in every thread u post in? this helps nothing. I believe the word is "argumentative", not "argumental". I am not trying to be so. I am merely putting forward my opinion. If other people choose to take offense at what I say, it is no business of mine unless they wish to confront me about it. Until or unless they prove my opinion ill-informed or otherwise erroneous, I will not apologize. And you will refrain from your own offensive statements. I do not appreciate being made out to be some kind of Devil's Advocate. forget it.i'm not taking this any further. sorry Nyletak i shouldn't of even said anything b'c your thread is not a place for childish arguments.
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Posted: Sat Dec 29, 2007 10:24 pm
Nyletak Necrophiliac When it comes to me and my boyfriend, I really believe I'm in love with him. He means so much to me. But he's not Christian. And I'm terrified he's going to Hell. When I think of it, I start to get all teary eyed, and I just say a silent prayer that God shows himself to Joseph. [[My boyfriend]] I've been taking him to church with me since we started dating [[September]] But he's not going to be able to come anymore. He dropped out of school and started going to Night school, which means He won't be able to go to Wednesday church with me. So, I don't know how God will work with him. I've tried giving him my testimony, infact today when me and him were watching Constantine, I told him about my demon expeirience. [[ read this]] I don't know what to do with him. So I tell myself that God will show himself to Joseph through my actions. Well, there's one problem with that. I lust over him EXTREMELY. And it's very obvious when we are together. My hands are always all over him, his hands all over me. And I don't try and stop it usually because I like it too much. I know it's wrong, but I don't know how to stop it. I want it so much it's not even funny. But I don't want to be a bad example of a Christian girl. How do I make it so I don't want it so much? How do I control my lustful desires with Joseph? I need prayer, and advice. okay girl - im going to try to help. First of all, i'm so proud that ur trying to help him find Jesus, but if he himself isnt truly seeking than he is makeing it reeely hard to find. Yes you can pray your little heart out, it may take years. And remember ..evenly yolked, and you CAN be unevenly yolked and Christian. Does he understand that you love God? Does he love you? I know you are still a virgin, but lust is still just as bad in the eyes of God. Can you see yourself happily married with this guy, remember that God has a perfect man created just for you, is this guy it? If you want to stop lusting over him.... well lust is natural,we are natural born sinners. Soooo... you may just have to force yourself, if thats to hard you may have to put yourselves in envrionments where u 2 arent alone. with multilpe people, and people u know u wouldnt be touching eachother in front of. Have u tried to explain how important it is to you? Does it really concern him? If not than this guy might just be in it for the booty calls. If he does understand and he cares than he might either help u by trying to not touch u anymore -- which for me makes it even harder not to touch cuz they're just so cute and sexy when they try to be good, but if he really trys and wants to, then pray before everytime u guys get together or when ur together, and if things start to get heated suggest that u guys see each other later. ooor if he sees how important it is to u, and its not important to u and he cares, he may help u break it off. Yeah gurl u may have to break it off. i know it sucks but it might just be true. Pray about it. prayer is very strong. You may have to split but u can still pray for him. Hoped i helped, i know its hard gurl. pm if u want smile much love in Christ - ur sister, janet
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Posted: Sun Dec 30, 2007 10:42 am
Thank-you for the advice everyone, but it's still hard to control it.
It seems like when I'm trying to control it the most, it gets out of hand.
:/
And when we are alone, we don't always act like that.
We usually will watch a movie, or just sit and talk. Sometimes we play videogames.
It's just difficult.
]:
I'll keep praying though.
Hopefuly I can conquer this.
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Posted: Tue Jan 01, 2008 3:59 pm
Galad Damodred Nyletak Necrophiliac GuardianAngel44 First: It's not like she's shoving it down his throat. Second: She wanted Christian advice. I'm really not trying to shove it down his throat. And I know he doesn't think fondly of Christianity. He said he won't tell me what he REALLY believes because he knows how much it will upset me. And it will, so I'm glad he keeps his mouth shut with that. Just to throw it out there I'M NOT SLEEPING WITH HIM. I've never slept with a guy before. But I still am crazy with lust when I see him. Not all the time, but alot of the times. Like I said: lust is normal. But the mind can overrule the will, the mind can overrule the senses. You just have to trust that your head, your reason and your faith are stronger than your carnal desires. Also: cold showers and Disney movies. Animated or non?
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Posted: Tue Jan 01, 2008 9:42 pm
GuardianAngel44 Galad Damodred Nyletak Necrophiliac GuardianAngel44 First: It's not like she's shoving it down his throat. Second: She wanted Christian advice. I'm really not trying to shove it down his throat. And I know he doesn't think fondly of Christianity. He said he won't tell me what he REALLY believes because he knows how much it will upset me. And it will, so I'm glad he keeps his mouth shut with that. Just to throw it out there I'M NOT SLEEPING WITH HIM. I've never slept with a guy before. But I still am crazy with lust when I see him. Not all the time, but alot of the times. Like I said: lust is normal. But the mind can overrule the will, the mind can overrule the senses. You just have to trust that your head, your reason and your faith are stronger than your carnal desires. Also: cold showers and Disney movies. Animated or non? Either one. Classic Disney works best: Lion King, Mulan, Aladdin, Hercules... I'd stay well away from the modern stuff, though. Unless you wanna be guilty of the sin of wrath.
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Posted: Wed Jan 02, 2008 10:16 am
Galad Damodred GuardianAngel44 Galad Damodred Nyletak Necrophiliac GuardianAngel44 First: It's not like she's shoving it down his throat. Second: She wanted Christian advice. I'm really not trying to shove it down his throat. And I know he doesn't think fondly of Christianity. He said he won't tell me what he REALLY believes because he knows how much it will upset me. And it will, so I'm glad he keeps his mouth shut with that. Just to throw it out there I'M NOT SLEEPING WITH HIM. I've never slept with a guy before. But I still am crazy with lust when I see him. Not all the time, but alot of the times. Like I said: lust is normal. But the mind can overrule the will, the mind can overrule the senses. You just have to trust that your head, your reason and your faith are stronger than your carnal desires. Also: cold showers and Disney movies. Animated or non? Either one. Classic Disney works best: Lion King, Mulan, Aladdin, Hercules... I'd stay well away from the modern stuff, though. Unless you wanna be guilty of the sin of wrath. I don't think anybody could be guilty of the sin of wrath. How much wrath can one person have?
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