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 Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 4:26 pm
I''m really...out of it.
Today I was thinking that Molly (my girl) and I should just be friends. So when I saw her were went on a walk and talked about it. I kind of feel like my gut says we should just be friends, but everything else is telling me to stay with her. She wants to be with me. I...don''t know. I just need someone to talk to who could understand and stuff. Sorry for being so wierd, I just, I feel wierd. I donno...breakups by law are never easy, are they?
I actually have to halfheartedly run off to karate in a couple of min...but I will be back tonight and stuff...I just...I don''t know. Somebody comfort me?
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 5:00 pm
Awww *comforts and huggles*
Why do you feel the need to break up?
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 6:43 pm
Because...well, I'm not sure. Our relationship's been fading over the past few months and we've talked about it, and opened it up and kind of reffered to it as "friend with benifits," but that was never quite the case. I mean, we both know we're not going to spend the rest of our lives together; we're only 17. She's the first girl I've even been with. Bringing it down a level to just friends seemed...right somehow. I was hoping she'd just go "whew, I was thinking the same thing, I completly understand." But...that wasn't the case...I made her cry. It hurts me to see her cry because I do love her. And I'm so confused...
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 7:25 pm
So, you told her you just wanted to be friends. and she cryed. Well i'd suggest just comferting her just tell her you still love her and can still be great freiends!!!
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 7:43 pm
But now I'm not so sure...no more kissing her, or holding her in that special way...
and I hurt her. And that hurts me. and she looked at me with her beautiful eyes...she's so beautiful. Uh. It hurts. I almost wish I could go back to the way things were and not have said anything and then we'd be fine...
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 7:58 pm
If you want her, then get her back. Just because things get slow and get tough doesn't mean you should just give up. You dont know what's in store for the both of you. Maybe you will be together forever, maybe you wont. If you love her, then hold her and kiss her. Be with her. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 8:00 pm
Well why carn't you still do that? You don't need to fit into any catogorys like "girlfreand" or "friend" just be close to her? Explain that you don't think that your right for each other for forever. But as freands you can still love and kiss her???
I realy don't know that much about relationships. I'm trying to help though...
Hmm *hugs to chear up*
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 8:03 pm
AkureiKnight If you want her, then get her back. Just because things get slow and get tough doesn't mean you should just give up. You dont know what's in store for the both of you. Maybe you will be together forever, maybe you wont. If you love her, then hold her and kiss her. Be with her. 3nodding Yes! see! some advice form someone who knows something! whee
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 8:10 pm
Oh I just rembered something... something about how time apart strengthans the bond? Something like that. I suppose all relationships have hard times...but like AkureiKnight said, If you love her. Go get her back, Love is very precious. Find it and hold on tight. I know I will if I ever find it. *is getting wartery eyes......*
(and yes I know i'm makeing tons of posts but i'm saveing up for somehting and need the gold so there! *sticks out tounge*)
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 8:18 pm
(I'm sorry if I write anything... bad? Im not one for helping with these things. Never been in one myself.)
Well, sometimes its just hard. Your still young and only have a 'Good idea' about what you want for the rest of your life. You just need to talk to her and say that you need to get your feelings sorted out about whats going to happen between the two of you when the end of high school comes around and the next part of your life starts up.
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 8:30 pm
AkureiKnight If you want her, then get her back. Just because things get slow and get tough doesn't mean you should just give up. You dont know what's in store for the both of you. Maybe you will be together forever, maybe you wont. If you love her, then hold her and kiss her. Be with her. 3nodding I'm so conflicted inside. It was so right at the time. It feels right in my gut to just be friends. I was sure that'd be okey until after I explained and she started talking and said she still wanted to be together...that's when I got confused. I know I love her as a friend. I'm just not sure if I love her...romantically anymore...it's been over a year and a half. We've had tough times. This isn't even a tough time...it just feels...I don't know. I feel different. neon - we tried the "open relationship." We tried just being friend with beinfits. It didn't work. It's a fine line...too easily blurred. I'd rather know, one way or another. In front of other people we still acted like we were in the same old kind of relationship. It just...isn't that easy. It's love, but I'm just not sure what kind of love... shmoo - Yeah...we're going to talk some more tomorrow after she gets off work. She's sorted out her feelings tonight so I just need to get my act together, which is...needless to say, difficult. Thanks guys for commenting so much, it means something to me heart
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 9:37 pm
The question that i think you need to ask yourself is would it hurt more to hurt her once and then have it done and over with, still being friends.....
Or would it hurt more to stay together and always have this uneasy feeling of whether or not you should be together and have a potentially hurtful break-up later?
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 9:46 pm
Fadia Stalyr The question that i think you need to ask yourself is would it hurt more to hurt her once and then have it done and over with, still being friends..... Or would it hurt more to stay together and always have this uneasy feeling of whether or not you should be together and have a potentially hurtful break-up later? That's true... heart
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Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2005 9:53 pm
rurica Fadia Stalyr The question that i think you need to ask yourself is would it hurt more to hurt her once and then have it done and over with, still being friends..... Or would it hurt more to stay together and always have this uneasy feeling of whether or not you should be together and have a potentially hurtful break-up later? That's true... heart Whatever you decide, I'll pray that everything turns out for the best. 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2005 9:57 am
Fadia Stalyr rurica Fadia Stalyr The question that i think you need to ask yourself is would it hurt more to hurt her once and then have it done and over with, still being friends..... Or would it hurt more to stay together and always have this uneasy feeling of whether or not you should be together and have a potentially hurtful break-up later? That's true... heart Whatever you decide, I'll pray that everything turns out for the best. 3nodding Thanks, I mean, I'm sure it will. We've always told each other that no matter what happens, we'd always be friends. I guess it's just a matter of getting through this purgatory. Urgh. Only 4 hours until I can see her and talk with her about it...
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