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lets see how you guys take this i'm 19 he's 36 we live with 2 friends his we all are having money/bill problem they are thinking about going back on the road as carnies i've never been out heard nothing but bad about it long hours bad pay a**holes and idiots and now i'm rethinking a realationship i've been in since july 2006 he's kept me off drugs and says he loves me and i feel the same but things have dwindled and fizzled for a while and we're fighting off and on and now i've been talked into moving here to his friend over 1000mi. from home from ohio to florida so what should i do leave him go home see how things work out keep trying and do the same i'm getting confuzed and irratated.

First thing do not do anything rash make sure you think everything through twice over and get him to do the same as he is obviously a good influence due to the fact he kept you off drugs as for age same old wink age is merely a numbr smile

If you go and join the carnival as she said you will end up regretting it and eventually blaming your partner but even though he is a good influence to you it sounds like he can be easily influenced by his friends and this is something you both will need to work out, money problems can indeed cause major problems both me and my partner have money problems because were trying to move, pay bills, pay rent and we have a new born baby as well so it is stressful but through it all he has never made any bad choices.

Why don't you sit down and tell him what your thinking about explain you do not feel comfortable going on the road like that, get him to write the pros and cons of going on the road and you do the same and then compare them and if they out weight the cons then simply go on from there. it wont be easy because you have emotions involved but i would try every aspect before i suddenly walked away.

but the fact you have been convinced it can be bad for you indeed, moving away from everything you know and love can be really hard because not only do you have to deal with new surroundings and new people you also will miss home and find it hard to make friends because you did not choose to move youself.

sit down and try my ideas and see what happens.

lucifers-girl1988 i see has really difficult problems next to mine over relationships. And Angelic_Highlights advice sounds good.

Although i can't really compare it to mine

i'm 22 now. She's 15 going to be 16 in a few weeks time.

living practicly on the opposite sides of the world we met here on Gaia. everything was fine until early May. She said she'd talk to me on the following Monday and then she didn't. Then i waited but she didn't log on. I sent her several E-Mails and i finally got a reply just 4 days before my birthday. She was going to come over to England from Washington State for a visit to see some of her family in August. but she said she that she'd asked me if she could spend some of that time staying here. apperently i brushed it off. But here's the thing.

She never asked me. She'd been crying and getting upset because she thought i'd ignored the question. one i've never been asked. she offered to talk to me about it properly. but she hasn't talked to me yet. She also said that in the few months that she'd not talked to me she felt she had found someone else passably.

I know she's not 16 yet and i would never do anything wrong. i can't get her out of my head because I'm still in love. I don't know when she will be back home so that she can log on again. I don't blame her for not asking me. i should have seen it. But when she disappeared like that i got worried. I also hope that this new person she's hanging with is not that great. If she has really dumped me. i would like to know. Because i've been left hanging since March the 8th Back then everything was fine. i just don't know what to do any more.

Can you try to get work as well? Maybe if you all work to bring more money in, you would be able to pay the bills, and you will not have to give up your place to stay. Also, i think this guy sounds like a good influence if he got you off of drugs, but if he is really pushing you to go on the road, and you don't want to, then you should find somewhere else, doll. there are loads of nice guys out there...it may be hard to find them at first, but if you truly feel that your guy is not trying to the best for you, then you need to find the best.

thanks guys and i am trying to find a job in the 2 weeks i've been here i have put in 10 apps and yet to get responce from them and with no liceance and no car of my own it is hard to go job hunting the old fashion way and before any one asks it i dont got my liseance cause my bad drug addition left me with a nastey aftermath called seizures and now am medically unfit to drive and my bf just got employed so he dont have the money to take me out to find a job. and i've tryed multiply sites and had friend i've gotten down here to get apps for me and take them back to.

Now i think i might have a even larger problem.... while updating my posts a friend here started to make toast and i started smelling it and all of a sudden was overcome with a extreme nuasia and dizzyness to the piont where i couldnt see straight and the room spinned and i felt as if i was going to throw up really bad and i still feel that way and its been about 10 minutes and well i havent ate today but i just got up to and i took my vitamins like normal with sweet tea and sat down on the comp and began updating my stuff then the SMELL OF TOAST made me sick and dizzy and that scares me that it may be morning sickness. All mixed in with this problem that would really make things worce.

I agree...It does sound like you might be pregnant...

i got an interview go see the post in general discussion