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Sometimes my babies daddy makes me so mad cause he acts like i just got pregnant all by myself and i should just be fine with him still partying and living a street life. He never wants to just spend time with me anymore. when hes here hes either asleep or trying to leave and go do something else with out me. he doesnt even look at me anymore ((the way he used to)) he says he feels no diff about me since i got pregnant, but I think he does.Plus i cought him in bed with another girl. he says o i was messed up and i didnt know what i was doing, I love you i want you and our daughter. BLA BLA BLA I hate him! our relationship is gone down hill since i got pregnant. and he stupid if he thinks i look bad cause ive only gained 29 pound and im 8 months pregnant. and thats not bad.

From what I read many men lose interest in girlfriends, wives and S/O later in the pregnancy. Though it's not proven scientist believe that the estrogen levels in the men are higher later in pregnancies so the sex drive is lower.That's no excuse for cheating but it can help knowing something. Personally I believe if you really want to have a commited relationship both parties must be willing to grow (not change). If he really cares for you try to work it out but if you think it's all BS then leave. No man is worth your sanity or safety. I have been with my husband for five years now that I'm nine months pregnant I can't help but to feel alone. Isn't that crazy I have a living being inside me and I still feel alone. Find people to rant to trust me it helps.

Men tend to get a bit funny in the head as their child's due date comes up. I know some of it is hormones in the pregnant lady and we start acting a little odd ourselves, but it isn't just that - the man has to cope with having the center of his world shift from himself to his child. I'd love to come across all feminist and say it's the same for every person, but really in most relationships I've seen the focus is on keeping the man happy (and all he has to do is not screw up too badly). Now all of a sudden it's all about what the baby needs and wants - even before it takes its first breath - and it's almost like the man reverts to being a kid who's about to get a sibling. So he gets moody, acts out, and sometimes even does some incredibly hurtful things, all just as a way of getting back all the attention he sees as rightfully his.

Personally, whenever this part of my pregnancy comes up, I want to grab my husband by both his ears and bash his head against a wall until something starts working.

On the other hand, what you're talking about is a lot scarier and a lot more serious than him running off to hang out with his buddies - he's actively going after other women, and could easily get one of them pregnant or catch something nasty from one of them and pass it on to you (and maybe also the baby). If he's willing to do that, he is in fact making a clear statement that he does not consider you or the baby to be his priorities. He needs to get his head on straight. "I don't know what I was thinking" is a sorry excuse people use for telling you your a** is fat; it is much more serious to betray those he claims to love by "accidentally" sleeping around.

If he thinks what he is doing constitutes acceptable adult behavior...it might be best to send him packing before he does something to irrevocably harm you or his daughter. And if he wants to prove to you how sorry and totally out of character his betrayal was - well, let him try, and you can decide whether or not his efforts mean a thing.

On a horribly legal side note, this is probably a good time to think about a contract stating up-front what financial responsibilities and parental rights each of you will have. Find an affordable lawyer for each of you and make the agreement official, so you can refer back to it to see who agreed to what. Going through the courts later is more expensive, time-consuming, and rarely leaves anyone happy with the outcome. Plenty of callow young men like to claim undying loyalty ("you know I love you") and use that as a way to avoid having to pay child support. If it turns out he really doesn't want any financial responsibility of any kind, that's fine, but it should also mean he relinquishes any parental rights, so that you can raise the baby yourself the way you see fit. That doesn't mean he never gets to see her, but it does mean you get to dictate if, when, and under what conditions, which can be quite a boon mentally, emotionally, and financially.

Bravo! Yvaine.