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 Posted: Tue Aug 02, 2005 7:10 am
okay i went to a friend''s party and really took a liking toward this gay guy one year younger than me...he lives in the same town as me, but goes to another school. i really want him! and two of my friends who are friends with him are trying to get him with me...
he has the lisp and everything too...but he likes what i do and is really hot...blonde hair, blue eyes, good skin, tall, thin, omg!!! and he smells good.
but here are a few problems i need help with...BTW i am 16
1. im kinda submissive. i hear his is also...could this be a problem?
2. parents...my parents are complete homophobes. they hate gays more than anything. my mom also never lets me out of the house alone and follows me where i go. how can i see him if we do go out? please help!
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Posted: Tue Aug 02, 2005 9:39 pm
i say go for it. roles in a relationship are usually determined when the "relationship" starts..if your afraid to pursue him because your to submissive you'll never know what could have happened. roles in a relationship are a social construct and in are really totally subjective i am sure if you like this guy enough things will find a way of working out
on the mom issues sorry dude i totally feel ya but you really have to do what is going to make you happy...not just in relationships but in life in general so maybe seeing this guy will be harder but if you really want to you can ....
hopefully though this guy is worth it ..cause if not your putting yourself out for nothing...(ignore that that is just me being synical)
good luck lol
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Posted: Tue Aug 02, 2005 10:03 pm
I'm not a real big fan of guys with the lisp. It's a little too over the top for my tastes, but whatever floats your boat. I feel your pain on the whole mom thing. Mine was that way. I don't know what to tell you except that if you really want to you can find a way. I did.
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Posted: Sat Aug 06, 2005 6:52 pm
The thing is...It really doesn't matter where he goes to school. If you have ANY way of seeing him don't let transportation be a HUGE issue...And about your parents, well I can totally understand...I haven't even told my parents yet...Lol. I am 15, and I am a really open person with people, but telling my parents has been TERRIBLY hard...And I don't think they deserve to hear about my little secret...They have always been sort of like, "Icky" around the subject of gays, and making gay jokes...It makes me mad, because secretyly inside I am the thing that they mock...You know? I am actually bi, but I mean you know...I say go for it bro...I mean if you want it, and he wants it then just go for it...But try and control your hormones...They can really get you in trouble...I mean, emotionally...Be strong bro...Fight the good fight, and people will come around to you being gay/bi...
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Posted: Sat Aug 06, 2005 7:06 pm
try doing something when your mom's not home. AIM... talk him into joining gaia... get his address and write him letters the old-fashioned way... anything!
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Posted: Sat Aug 06, 2005 7:08 pm
Send him those romantic letters with your/his favorite cologne all over the letter....But remember...LESS IS MORE! Lol. blaugh heart
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2005 2:15 pm
1) Both being submissive can be aproblem, but there are benifits to it that I think you two can figure out on your own. Just don't give in all the time. Be on a nutral basis than trying to have a dom and sub.
2)I was in your same situation, and I'm turning 15 this year. If you are with him, tell her you two are just friends and explain it to him. Tell him that it would mean alot to you if he didn't say anything yet. When you are ready tell them. There's nothing wron with being sneaky around your parents in this situation. It's for love. Love knows no rules nor no bounds.
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2005 7:41 pm
goldmario okay i went to a friend''s party and really took a liking toward this gay guy one year younger than me...he lives in the same town as me, but goes to another school. i really want him! and two of my friends who are friends with him are trying to get him with me... he has the lisp and everything too...but he likes what i do and is really hot...blonde hair, blue eyes, good skin, tall, thin, omg!!! and he smells good. but here are a few problems i need help with...BTW i am 16 1. im kinda submissive. i hear his is also...could this be a problem? 2. parents...my parents are complete homophobes. they hate gays more than anything. my mom also never lets me out of the house alone and follows me where i go. how can i see him if we do go out? please help! Go for it! I would try to lose mom if possible but, what's submissive?
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2005 7:51 pm
2 subs are usually a dud.. but try it.. oh and you can always pop out a screen and sneak out.. come on.. find a way. if theres a queer there's a way.. thats what i always say.
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2005 8:11 pm
with the submissive thing, sometimes indiviuals can adjust to fit the situation. Hardly anyone it totally submissive or completely dominate. I don't have to be incharge ALL the time and Xander doesn't have to have me tell him what to do all the time. Just try to strike a power balance you are both comfortable with. It can work.
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