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Devils_Advocate_110 Captain
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Posted: Wed Nov 12, 2008 7:39 pm
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Poor [Jewl.] had to deal with ym complaints on this one before. wink
Ive gotten a new problem. The girlfriend I thought was gone forever is back again, doing her best to talk to me. While I love her dearly, I found myself incredibly attracted to a girl in my class. I dont want to hurt my current girlfriend by ending this, ubt Im horrified of being unfaithful, since Ive had it happen once before, and do not want it to happen ever again. The first time was in a situation the same as this, actually, and I ended up really hurting my ex. I dont want to do that again. Which way do I choose?
UPADATE****
Guess what guys, its happening again. God Im bad at relationships.
This time around, Ive figured somethign new out. My long distance girlfriend has become massivley jealous, confrontational, posessive, and whiny, to the point where Im not really even allowed to talk.
So, Im breaking up with her, theres no doubt in my mind about that.
This time, ite mroe about a split decision. There are now two girls that I find myself attracted to. The original girl, and a new girl. This time, its more about, how do I choose which one I should ask out? they know eachother, and I know that if I ask one out, the other will find out, so if I try to ask the other out, shell feel like a second choice, and automatically say no.
What the hell do I do?
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Posted: Wed Nov 12, 2008 7:55 pm
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shall she sail seas Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 10:08 am
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Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 1:07 pm
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Devils_Advocate_110 Captain
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Posted: Fri Nov 14, 2008 12:52 pm
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Posted: Fri Nov 14, 2008 6:15 pm
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Devils_Advocate_110 Captain
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shall she sail seas Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Nov 14, 2008 10:11 pm
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Dude, seems like you pretty much answered you question there. Stick with your current girlfriend. That said, how old are you again? And how much of a future together do you have in mind? I mean the second question in very concrete terms and your age might affect how realistic your answer is. For example, university/college locations, chance of transferring universities, career locations, etc. How much of the future do you already know?
I know this is going to sound lame, but would you be able to continue the relationship through phone calls, webcam and instant messaging?
I won't go into details, but let's just say majority of my relationships including friendships (IRL) and family communication are long distance... for too many reasons. Somehow, it's worked very well for me simply because there is no alternative.
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Posted: Sat Nov 15, 2008 5:35 am
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I am sisxteen, but this is more than just a teenage infatuation, I think. I realy do love her, more than I have any of my other girlfriends or crushes.
As for long distance, were working on that. Shes got a crappy job that keeps her from getting online all that aften, so we do our best. I couldnt call her since the phone bill would be outrageous.
As for a future, I dont know about her, but I really want this to last. I myself am hoping to find a decent college for sciences that isnt too incredibly expensive, and if Im lucky, I will be able to find one at least closer to her. Of course, I do intend to attend Cornell, but thats going to take some work.
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Devils_Advocate_110 Captain
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shall she sail seas Vice Captain
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Posted: Sat Nov 15, 2008 12:12 pm
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Two words: phone cards.
Besides that, your future plans are extremely vague. Here are some questions you'll have to be able to answer very soon:
What are the top three colleges/universities you want to get into?
What are her top three?
What combination of distances would both of your choices lead to?
With those distances, what transportation is most feasible and will your budgets allow for it? If so, what portion of your budget will be allocated for this?
Are either of you planning to start working after your degree or will you continue as a grad student?
If studying, where will you/her most likely transfer? (Again, top three choices, distances, transportation, etc.)
If one or both of you are working, how high is the likelihood that you can relocate to live together?
What will happen if one of you finishes your degree earlier/later than the other?
Concrete straightforward answers. No writing "maybe"s even if there really are "maybe"s. And I don't mind if you prefer to keep the answers private but I think it's crucial that you at least write them down on a piece of paper somewhere just so it looks concrete. Take into account any scholarships, grants, family financial support, part-time work, etc. during your schooling period.
My boyfriend is off to do fieldwork in another country for two years, come June 2009. However, we're almost crystal clear when it comes to career/academic locations, finances, any back-up plans if something doesn't work out, etc. I know there's the huge age gap between you and me (I'm 25, my boyfriend's 32) so it might be difficult for you to answer those questions.
Long distance relationships make you grow up pretty fast.... if it's not acting as an informal landlord-by-association to an uncle in your home country, it's bringing legal documents to your grandmother the next time you return home or some other wacky overseas errand. All this started for me when I was 16 too. And sure, I'm talking about my family, but this is about your potential future family.
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Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 2:09 pm
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Devils_Advocate_110 Captain
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shall she sail seas Vice Captain
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Posted: Sun Jan 25, 2009 6:51 am
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Posted: Wed Feb 25, 2009 8:00 pm
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Posted: Sun Dec 27, 2009 6:30 pm
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Posted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 8:54 pm
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Devils_Advocate_110 Captain
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