life of a transgender

[bluedolphin70]

Kei Yuuki desu

Aya Shiroikaze

bluedolphin70

princess haruka rue

i hate being in my body because i always felt like a girl

idk though sometimes I'm grateful I have a little more streangth and omg I love my heighth but I would give anything to be a GIRL. So I guess I cant say I hate my body I just dont like it or how it makes people see me

I'm in kind of the same boat as you, though I would rather have both sets rather than choose one or the other. I strive for balance, mentally and physically.

Interesting you should say that. There are biological variations known as being Intersexed. It can range from mild to full genitals of both sexes. People of the world are wrong when they say there is only Male and Female sexes.

I've heard about this but omg I am so much happier as a girl I'm usually forced to be a boy (such as right now) and its almost like a crash and I get a little depressed but things such as friends or a good movie can make that go away smile I'm like dying to tell my mom right now but when I told her I like boys she through me out I dont even want to think what she would do if I told her I was secretly a girl  

[Kei Yuuki desu]

Sounds like your mother need psychological help. If your relationship is that fragile, she needs to do some growing up, I say that to ALL families that extort their children. Because being FORCED into doing something you are not comfortable with and if not resulting in a assault either physically or mentally, is legally defines as extortion. Which can result in Jail time.  

[Pale Luna Smiles Wide]

Kei Yuuki desu

Sounds like your mother need psychological help. If your relationship is that fragile, she needs to do some growing up, I say that to ALL families that extort their children. Because being FORCED into doing something you are not comfortable with and if not resulting in a assault either physically or mentally, is legally defines as extortion. Which can result in Jail time.

While I can't disagree that parents who reject their children based off of biological issues that they can't control, if it were my parents....I wouldn't want them to see jail time for a flaw in their psychological make-up.  

[princess haruka rue]

Kei Yuuki desu

Aya Shiroikaze

bluedolphin70

princess haruka rue

i hate being in my body because i always felt like a girl

idk though sometimes I'm grateful I have a little more streangth and omg I love my heighth but I would give anything to be a GIRL. So I guess I cant say I hate my body I just dont like it or how it makes people see me

I'm in kind of the same boat as you, though I would rather have both sets rather than choose one or the other. I strive for balance, mentally and physically.

Interesting you should say that. There are biological variations known as being Intersexed. It can range from mild to full genitals of both sexes. People of the world are wrong when they say there is only Male and Female sexes.

wow you do know alot about this.
I question when is the best time to tell family about how you felt being trap in the wrong body. I have been hiding it for about 23 year now and is there still hope i can even get the change.  

[lilmissfemboi]

in my mind, im not what i look like. coincidentally my body is slender and has a decent curve, in other words, fairly feminine. but when i see my face, with my mustache and small beard, hard angular features; it seems wrong. there should be gentle, attractive female features there. i can feel it, but its not in my reflection. truly it as though im trapped in my own body.

However, when I've got my dresses, skirts, tight tops, or fishnet, etc.. etc.. im free, i feel like myself. i honestly feel like if i looked in the mirror, id be a different person.

but could just be me i suppose  

[Kei Yuuki desu]

Haruka Hime,

What I would do to help with the family issue, is to see a doctor. Usually, a Professional Medical Doctors opinion is a good foundation to talk to parents about it. Even a Psychologist. Don't be afraid of these people, they can actually give you a good standing to your own feelings. When you present the information to your parents, you will have professional opinions on your side, and will stop most retort into going to a professional to justify any objectionable spur of the moment emotional and distressing behaviors. I am not saying it is 100% fool proof, but having knowledge to support you, will always benefit.

Talk to your doctor, tell the doctor how you feel, and how you are impacted, and ask the doctor is a referral to a psychologist woudl be helpful. Once you see a psychologist, thats when things can possible start happening. You could be cleared for Hormone treatment for transitioning to female gender, sometimes it can take a few sessions before thats allowed. Its up to the psychologist to determine.

Getting informed, and seeing doctors before hand, will stabilize your case and lessen the chances of rejection. Do lead ups.. meaning, asking your parents if they would treat you different if something major was to happen to you. Assure them that if anything major happened to them or yourself, your feelings toward them would never change, and that you will always be you, in a different package.


Look over this website. There is a wealth of information and resources for anyone that thinks transitioning to the opposite gender may be likely for them.

www.wpath.org  

[Kei Yuuki desu]

lilmissfemboi

in my mind, im not what i look like. coincidentally my body is slender and has a decent curve, in other words, fairly feminine. but when i see my face, with my mustache and small beard, hard angular features; it seems wrong. there should be gentle, attractive female features there. i can feel it, but its not in my reflection. truly it as though im trapped in my own body.

However, when I've got my dresses, skirts, tight tops, or fishnet, etc.. etc.. im free, i feel like myself. i honestly feel like if i looked in the mirror, id be a different person.

but could just be me i suppose

You are quite fortunate with a physique like that. Refer to my above statement. Read it over carefully. There is a good chance, any hormone therapy would be well tolerated with a body like you stated.

Have you thought about changing styles permanently? such as shying away from masculine only styles, and opted for more unisex styles or even a slight feminine style? Examples could be, wearing womens jeans, low cropped tshirts (Scooped Necks), growing hair out, and wearing it in a more feminine style, crossing legs differently, walking differently, using different vocabularies and pronunciations? These are only a few examples of the transition process... The hardest thing to do is taking your time with it, and go at a slow and steady pace. Mastering each skill before moving to the next. If you have any Female friends, ask them their opinions. You cant get a better opinion anywhere else, than a friend that knows YOU, and accepts your feelings of changing your lifestyle and gender.

I can honestly say, with the workings I have had with Transgendered Persons of both sides of the spectrum, One can not do it alone. You need support in one way shape or form. From Online groups, to local friends, family and so on. If you are in doubt, ask your friends, and preferably the female ones, especially if they are close friends.

If I can be of any help, I will be glad to. But people that know you personally, is best.


-Kei  

[bluedolphin70]

lilmissfemboi

in my mind, im not what i look like. coincidentally my body is slender and has a decent curve, in other words, fairly feminine. but when i see my face, with my mustache and small beard, hard angular features; it seems wrong. there should be gentle, attractive female features there. i can feel it, but its not in my reflection. truly it as though im trapped in my own body.

However, when I've got my dresses, skirts, tight tops, or fishnet, etc.. etc.. im free, i feel like myself. i honestly feel like if i looked in the mirror, id be a different person.

but could just be me i suppose

dont worry I feel the same way and theres alot of medical stuff you can do to fix all this but alot of it is very costly  

[bluedolphin70]

so I told my mom yesterday..... wow she took it really well! I guess she learned how when she threw me out it destroyed our relationship and I can see she's really trying hard not to do that again. She promised she would research hormones even though she thinks theyre dangerous but I'm not keeping my hopes up on that  

[princess haruka rue]

bluedolphin70

so I told my mom yesterday..... wow she took it really well! I guess she learned how when she threw me out it destroyed our relationship and I can see she's really trying hard not to do that again. She promised she would research hormones even though she thinks theyre dangerous but I'm not keeping my hopes up on that

i still have told my family 100% how did you bring it up to her  

[Kei Yuuki desu]

That is true, but there must be a way to correct the problem. Throwing a child out on the street is child endangerment. Maybe a 3 day weekend stint in a Mental Facility would help Parents understand. The Mentally ill are the ones that will throw away their own flesh and blood out of spite for whatever the reason is. If it is religion, the person should be educated in a very harsh way to break them of such harmful nonsense. Its all about protecting the children.  

[Kei Yuuki desu]

princess haruka rue

bluedolphin70

so I told my mom yesterday..... wow she took it really well! I guess she learned how when she threw me out it destroyed our relationship and I can see she's really trying hard not to do that again. She promised she would research hormones even though she thinks theyre dangerous but I'm not keeping my hopes up on that

i still have told my family 100% how did you bring it up to her

Hormones have risk, but the risk are very very low when monitored by a Endocrinologist. Your mother will understand in the future, that hormones are needed to be healthy, especially when we age. Doctors seem to harp on hormone risk a LOT. But truth is, MOST drugs sold have greater risk of side effects and death than hormones, why? Because hormones have been around for many many decades in a true and proven form. They are not as dangerous as made out to be, if monitored by a doctor regularly.

If she wants to learn and educate herself, please let her know of this resource. www.wpath.org it has a wealth of information and is made up of a bank of doctors from around the world with more experience than even Doctors using American standards, as a matter of fact, America is an infant when it comes to transgendered health, copying most of its outlines from WPATH. If you would like more resources and explanations on anything pertaining to Endocrinology, feel free to let me know, in public or private.