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 Posted: Fri Jul 10, 2015 12:38 am
KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama ....yeah...never anything that bad...
Just doctors doing idiotic things like give someone the double male dose of a drug...when that was two times the allowable amount for a female....
(and ouch, those are super nasty. I hope your Grandmother got better after they finally figured stuff out)
Oh, I hide in my room a fair bit.....but that causes problems for others and gets me into trouble for not doing house work.
It also doesn't help that I'm an extrovert....with one person who is the best at recharging my batteries....
Who I don't get to see as often as I want and sometimes need.
Agreed.
Though I can handle one dog just fine.
But it also so happens that he think I and my mother are his mother...
So he has mommy (me) and other mommy (my mom)
But I prefer animals I don't have to remember to take care of.
This reminds me....I need to either teach my dog how to sleep alone....get him a bed thing I can put near my bed....or teach him bed-sharing etiquette.
That dude, even if he's about the size of a loaf of bread, can be very problematic...
Warm, cuddly, and adorable.
But problematic.
Ah, yes. Overdosing patients. That seems to be a favorite among bad doctors. (Oh, yeah. Much better. Thank you. She wasn't even able to walk for months, but that was a couple years ago now.) There are days when my parents won't see me once even though I live with them. I just can't deal with other people, so I stay in my room for the most part. They've long since given up on getting me to do housework. As long as my room doesn't look like those Hoarders shows, and my dishes get into the dishwasher, we're golden. Oh, and as long as my laundry doesn't stay in the dryer for too long. I'm a definite introvert. People are exhausting and sometimes make me want to cry. I am so glad I never allow animals in my room. If I had something trying to sleep with me, I'd go nuts. We used to have a bad cat who peed everywhere, so he ruined it for the rest of the pets. Little dogs are mostly untrainable, so good luck. =] Yeah....
So far, I haven't had that...just doctors who are unwilling to do little things to find out if more checking is needed...
Because I've an inkling I've got some big problems....but this one idiot doesn't want to check.
( That's good. Yay! )
It doesn't work like that at my house....
Because my father is a huge aspeger-y guy....and very problematic...
I have no car so people have to drive me places....
And even though I've explained time and again that I'm an introvert, but trying to make me function to what society expects tires the ever living ******** out of me...
People still want me to do things around the house...which I understand.
But honestly, it is my mother's own fault for not telling the people outside our house no more often.
People tend to kind of take advantage of her and assume she's got nothing else to do.
Jerks.
He's mostly okay...and he makes a great talisman when a dream weirder than all the rest and scary for reasons you cannot explain because something possibly paranormal occurred...
Ewwwwww...that would definitely ruin it.
Especially because cat.
And he's mostly trained.
It's actually getting the people to understand what he's telling them that's the issue.
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Posted: Fri Jul 10, 2015 1:01 am
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama I know the fake antiques and such...
Totally forgot about the 'not likely have adult bike' part.
Because I've been to huge community garage sales before...and those have damn near everything.
True.
My plan is to have as little to take as possible. If I end up moving in with le bf, no need to worry about a mattress, methinks. Plus, besides having randomly acquired things like an entire set of china (good china I might add), I really only have clothes, some books, my computer, some tcg stuff, maybe a crosstitch thing or two, and possibly my dog (and some tea stuff). I'm fairly sure my mother will not want me to take all of the crosstitch things and I have no idea about my dog, because people here are rather attached to him and my boyfriend is apparently somewhat allergic to dogs, but it's not a major allergy. So basically, my plan is to get rid of the trash and useless/unnecessary stuff so I only have what I really need....and that's not just an 'in case I move', but an in general 'to keep room cleaner' thing.
Basically, I'm worried I'd get sucked into 'must make him marry me so he won't leave me' land. A place I do not want to be in. Ever. And the worrying people will poof thing is based on people often 'checking out' on me. Be they friends or boyfriends, I've had quite a few people just....stop talking even though I tried talking and maintaining the friendship....or similar things...and I'm left there trying to figure out what is going on and why.
I've been to that kind of game shop more than I've ever been to anything like gamestop. He's a very logical person, much like myself. He's probably also just as self-depreciating as I am as well...though the only inkling I have about that comes from the comment 'stop that, only one of us can be self-depreciating'. I've never actually heard him say bad things about himself...though I can usually guess when he is thinking them based on other things. And....that...well....okay. I'll just accept you wanting to meet him and thank and stuff. It's simpler that way.
The ex: during 2013, I had a friend, pretty neat guy who I felt like I could say anything to and it would not cause a problem. This means I said a lot of things that later on I realized I shouldn't have; for example, I was completely not bothered by telling him what my nipples looked like after he asked for...particular reasons. Shoulda realized that was a red flag, but at the time (august 2013), I wasn't really worried because 'eh, whatever'. During this time (fall 2013), the future ex knew for a fact that I was interested in my now boyfriend, but he had a girlfriend and was likely busy so I didn't want to bother him, especially since I knew I wouldn't be able to keep from being very obvious I still liked him. Figured that wasn't fair to his then girlfriend and I also wasn't terribly (consciously) bothered by him having a girlfriend. Sometime in september/october, the future ex basically asked me out, but more in an 'if I asked you, would you say yes' manner. Apparently this idea had been given to him by a mutual friend and him asking was basically instigated by her. I said 'no, you're a friend'. Two days later, I had changed my mind because of 'well, maybe I am wrong and I do like him as more than a friend'. So we were 'together' from then to late january. Now, keep in mind that I'd had in the back of my head this knowledge that things were very likely going to end badly, but even with that knowledge, I could do little to prevent it...even though I tried really hard. Now, late november until the end of january, the future ex did not talk to me basically at all. I tried talking to him six times, getting little to no response in return. I got fed up with that and I also realized I had been initially correct, I only liked him as a friend. This realization may have been slightly helped along by the face that around about christmas/new years, my now boyfriend contacted me and was all 'we haven't talked in forever!' and the resulting conversations made me so much happier and I realized I still liked him. But I'm not a two-timing jerk, so all we did was talk and hang out....by ourselves....like twice. Which looking back, those could have technically been considered dates, but I was happily oblivious to that fact. Anyway, I broke up with the ex at the end of january and he did not talk to me or anything after, which I was fine with as I figured he was probably upset. Then round about march, he contacts me and had done a complete 180 to how he was before we went out together. Confused the hell out of me, but I figured he'd gotten over things and was mature enough and capable enough to just be friends. I was very wrong. I ended up learning about his family life, how he is depressive, bi-sexual, used as a 17-yr-old pawn in his parent's divorce...lots of things....and then the weird comments started happening. Apparently he had a couple dreams in which I was...erm...doing things. Or when I'd say something like how I was drinking chocolate milk, the image of him drinking chocolate milk /from my boobs/ appeared in his head. He then started trying to get me to give him a second chance, which I kept telling him no to. He called me a couple times, one of the times he badgered me so much I got backed into a corner and I said 'it would be fair and right' a few times, which he took to mean 'yes'. Which it obviously was not a yes if you weren't in 'super ******** hopeful and slightly delusional' land. I even told him I liked another guy and to give him a second chance when I like someone else would be completely unfair to him (which it would). I even unintentionally made him cry more than once, because he was that hopeful and whatever about it. Then I learned that he'd had dreams in which I was walking down an aisle towards him wearing a white dress... By this point, I was starting to get scared of him, because I kept telling him no, he kept not understanding, he kept badgering me and I even nearly gave in at one point...but because I forced my boyfriend to tell me if he was interested in me (he said 'yes, but I don't have the time to dedicate to a relationship right now', which I though was very honorable of him to say), I was able to say no. The ex had even been trying to tell me that my now boyfriend wasn't the right person for me and he wasn't a good person...but I mostly ignored it because I knew it was more a 'I want you with me' than him actually being concerned for me. I finally snapped at him near the end of april and got him to agree to leave me alone until august so we could both de-stress from the whole thing, as I knew if we didn't do this we would never be able to be friends. However. That tuesday he went to play some tabletop game at the game shop near his apartment....the game shop my boyfriend works at. I had learned in the midst of being badgered to pieces that the ex and my boyfriend had not just merely been in a class together, but knew each other rather well, as my boyfriend was the GM of whichever tabletop game the ex played once a week. The ex had flipped out at one point and stopped going because my boyfriend was there and, not that he said this, he was the guy taking me away from him so looking at my boyfriend was painful...but he got over it. So at one of these games my not-yet-at-the-time boyfriend ran, he mentioned that on wednesday he had a date. And the ex immediately assumed the other person involved was me...and he contacted me...drunk....to ask if it was me. Which it was, though I'd had no idea it was a date. (yes, I'm that dense and yes, my boyfriend did not use the word date when asking me; the date ended up not happening but I did not tell the ex that) So the previous agreement of leaving me alone until august evaporated instantly. I went back to having to deal with someone badgering me...and then I learned that the ex blew up at my boyfriend and vented...about me. This happened either a day or two before or a few days after we actually went on the date that never happened. I ended up the early part of may having to point blank ask 'so...does this mean I'm your girlfriend?'...because it was never actually said and while I was fairly certain...I wanted to be 100% sure. I had been telling the boyfriend about some of the goings on tied to the ex, but he wasn't super up in arms over it...partially because I was kinda downplaying it. But also partially because I had, yet again, gotten the ex to agree to leave me alone...so for about a month and a half, I didn't have to directly deal with the ex...but I kept being mildly plagued by thoughts and such all of which came back to me being frightened of the guy because he was pushy and wouldn't take no and was doing things like making everything my fault and dragging that same mutual friend who basically instigated us going out in the first place....causing her to now think I was a terrible man-using skank who was being mean to him. I blame part of that on my inability to properly explain how I was trying to be nice to the ex in how I was saying no...and my completely unintentional omission of how I was becoming afraid of the guy until I had to and she ended up telling me I was a horrible person, etc (this happened in like april 2014, btw because of the 'fair and right' and subsequent phone call the next day where I told him no and that it wouldn't be fair since I like someone else and him also suggesting I date two guys at the same time (which admittedly I had said the night before was the only thing I could come up with...that would satisfy the ex (though I didn't add the last bit) and partially because I was being backed into a corner))). And he'd even left the contacting part to me, it was my deal. He wouldn't contact me unless I contacted him. Not the exact words, but that was the agreement, he'd give me as much time as I needed and I'd let him know when I'd had enough time. Well, I got to the point I realized I didn't want to contact him because of how afraid I'd become of him. And round about the end of july/start of august...I suddenly got contacted my the ex and he was going all 'I've given you more time than anyone else would have, you've taken too long, you're a horrible person, mermerblahblahetc' Caused me to freak out and nearly lose my s**t at the camp I was working, but I held it barely together for the children I was watching because there was this one teacher I was unwilling to leave those kids alone with because of how rude and disrespectful she was to them. I wanted to punch that lady so badly. I ended up arranging a day for the ex and I to meet in person (so I could tell him 'I can't be your friend'; he'd moved from wanting to date me to 'can we be friends?' though the answer remained the same because of the hell he'd put me through)....I informed le boyfriend about it and he asked/offered to be there..or maybe I asked and he half offered..but point is the boyfriend was willing to be there....what ended up happening was my sister went along (which had been part of my plan all along because I needed her there to see what he had been doing/saying to me) and the boyfriend had work but was checking up on me to make sure I was okay. During the 'conversation' we had, I spent a good majority of it just not talking because I was either about to flip my s**t on the ex or I was feeling backed into a corner. I did say things to the guy but he kept semi-brushing them off and making it kinda my fault somehow....so eventually I just let my sister at him (she'd been giving me the 'you want me to go? I wanna go, let me at him' eyes for a while but I was trying to be nice...then I just couldn't handle it anymore so I let her go) and she dressed him down for how he'd been saying he accepted me...while actually saying that he didn't really accept me and that things were my fault, etcetc and that took enough off of me that I could finally speak again. At the end of the whole thing, I finally told him (the second time in the conversation, apparently he hadn't heard me the first time or because it wasn't what he wanted to hear he 'didn't hear it' initially) 'It's not a question of if I want to be your friend, I can't be your friend because I am afraid of you.' and he finally was all 'well I'll stop trying to be your friend if you don't think it will work out'. I was super happy but still completely a mess because I was in the same room as the guy who'd put me through a lot. But as we went to leave, he said 'if you want to be my friend again, call me.' (not verbatim but it's the 100% correct gist) ....which was completely in the face of the whole 'I'll stop trying' he'd just said. But hey, he'd said he'd leave me alone! I was free! The weight lifted off of me was huge and I felt so much better. Then at the end of august.....guess what. He contacted me. He asked if I was going to the japanese festival, because he didn't want us to run into each other and it cause problems for either of us......but he also asked if we could have a short conversation about what had been talked about in the in-person meeting we'd had but if I didn't want to he's never contact me again....which caused me to burst into an 'I thought this was over! Why can't he get it, what did I not make clear?! WHY ME?!' crying fit. I told 'right now I will only address the second part', about the japanese festival. I should have told him outright no, but I was afraid once again and just wanted him to go away.....so I finally blocked him on facebook like I'd been meaning to for a while but had never gotten around to, partially because I forgot and partially because I was afraid that if I did that something would happen and I just wanted it to go away... Because I blocked him without addressing the first bit, he texted me angrily, called me childish and other names and said how he 'couldn't have romantic feelings for someone as childish as you' (close to verbatim). I, not wanting him to go about slandering my name, very stupidly, tried to explain why I did what I did....and he asked if he could call me, I told him no but he called me anyway...and somewhere in the texts and phone call he asked if we could just go back to being friends. So I got him to leave me alone YET AGAIN, for a month this time after the which if I didn't contact him, he had full rights to contact me. Before the month was up I contacted him over facebook, which surprised him....but I was not about to let him have the control this time. So I explained exactly why I could not be his friend, in great detail....most of the which he shrugged off as 'oh, it;s not my fault but your father's fault because what you're afraid of in my behavior is based on what your father has done to you so I'm scot-free'....and he managed to turn it from me telling him no and getting him to leave me alone forever in maybe three - ten messages...to multiple hours and another day as well. He told me how I'd done horrible things to him, how I'd broken all kinds of promises....when in truth he'd broken every single promise he'd made to leave me alone and stop trying...and I might have broken one promise I think maybe. I got called more names, he did more of the things I've come to absolutely fear; turning things around and back on me whilst taking no responsibility and backing me into a corner where I feel so trapped I don't just end things but end up giving another chance for more damage to be done. On the other day, more of the same happened AND he actually tried to make it yet another day after that because he wanted to talk to his therapist (who I'd somehow managed to get/inspire him to go to because he was trying to use me as his therapist...about me...back in march/april 2014) and because of the very slightly bitchy way in which I told him that I had a problem with that, it finally initiated the permanent leaving me alone stuff. At the end of all of it, on october 2, 2014, he did what he'd done the last time we'd had a long conversation about why I could not be his friend because I was afraid of him: he ended the conversation with his email address....in case I ever wanted to be friends with him again. (he asked if I wanted it, I said 'do whatever you want', because I just wanted it over...and he left his email) During the stuff that happened in september/october my boyfriend was kept informed about it. One time he was going to say something probably akin to 'leave my girlfriend alone' to the ex...which was something he'd done to the guy before...for one of his ex-girlfriends. But I asked him not to, because I had to do this myself or I'd never be free of it, and he followed my request. Two other times my boyfriend said that he was either going to or 'if I see him I'm likely to' punch the ex, for all the problems the guy had caused me. Since october 2, I have not heard or seen anything from the ex. I am absolutely positive that if I ever run into the guy I will have something akin to a panic attack and I don't know if I'd be able to hold it together long enough to get to some mildly private area to flip out or not... Which reminds me that I need to tell my bosses at Teavana about this possibility, however slim it may be, since I'm now working at a mall the guy is marginally more likely to visit at some point. (he's not likely to go to a mall ever....but if he did, it's fairly likely it'd be the one I work at)
i've never been to a huge community garage sale, the closest thing being the packwood swap meet that's held every year. but i've only been there once. but yeah, most normal single-family garage sales don't have adult sized bikes, so my best chances are either craigslist or buying one brand new that's definitely a good plan, and i suppose you're right on the not needing to take a mattress thing. though i wish you luck in being able to take your dog; it's no fun having to leave your pet behind, even if you can still visit them
i can't blame you for not ever wanting to go there. and i apologize for having been one of those people back when contact was lost; the laptop i'd been using died and i couldn't remember the program that'd been used nor the account info, and for some reason it never crossed my mind to use gaia to stay in contact
i should go to them more often tbh, they're fairly interesting. though the closest one is like. 10 miles away. kinda makes it more difficult to visit it casually. and since that comment was made, he's probably a thinker of thoughts rather than a sharer of thoughts, which is one thing he and i have in common. if that's actually the case, that is. and good; it'd be confusing to try and explain or debate or whatever on that specific topic
wow, you were right. that was a really long story, and i'm not sure what to address on it first. i'll just comment on a few things out of order from when they were told. i'm glad that he has your back as strongly as he does, thine boyfriend, and i would've offered the same for any of my friends. boy or girl, nobody harasses my friends to that point. and guys like the ex are why i much prefer to be friends with girls than with guys; they're less likely to pull that kind of bullshit. guys think they're entitled to friendship or more with women because they want it, and it's just gross. and why the heck would someone even imagine drinking chocolate milk from someone's mammary glands just because they mentioned they were themselves drinking chocolate milk from a glass? that's just plain weirdAh.
Craigslist is a scary place.
Don't go there.
...to be honest, I don't know if I want to take my dog or not. I like having him around....but one, le bf's place has two cats, and two...wait nope, I'd miss the little dude...at least a fair bit. But there are some times when he's super annoying. Plus I'd have to teach him to not sleep in a bed....and find a way to keep him from whining and barking when people leave.
Yeah..... Oi, you didn't actually check out on me...at least not there. And besides, you're okay. Don't worry about it. My issue is more with people who I'd thought had the same level of investment...and they either stopped having that and didn't tell me but kept sort-of talking to me until I had to drag it out or them....or they just left without warning. But...apology accepted (because social expectations; seriously, you don't have to apologize)
Same here. The game shops near me....might actually be even farther away than ten miles. Definitely for the ones I'd want to go to. ....yep. I've learned to figure out the realm of what he might be thinking...but past that I usually don't know anything specific unless I ask....and hope I get an answer and not the cheshire cat. I've been trying to learn when to just accept something regardless of my personal confusion. It's not easy, but it is simpler...I think? Not really sure yet as I haven't enough data.
One, so am I. To be honest, it's not people in general not offering to protect or even males in general....but males who are (or should be) very important to me. I can understand friends being worried in the friend manner of 'that's awful, I'm here for you friendo!'....but someone who should be a bit more than 'here for you!' and they aren't....is damaging. And it's worse when they do not understand what they've done and what it has permanently cost them. I got the feeling that it was more of a 's**t, I lost what I had, can't let anyone else have it! Especially since she didn't care I had cerebral palsy and didn't look all that great' But I learned he'd done similar things to others..though they were merely friends, so it must be a personality trait of his or of his family, as apparently his mother went loony when his father cheated on her (while she was undergoing chemotherapy) and then divorced her. And to be honest, most of my friends, who have been male, were respectful and if I said I wasn't interested...other than one (besides le ex) calling when they were drunk and being the happy-weird-hitting-on-you drunk...but once sober he was really sorry and such. And didn't badger me when I said nope. It's really just been this one a*****e. Needy, problematic, creepy, harassing a*****e. Look, this guy had also imagined me doing things because I'd mentioned I was eating a candy cane...which I had done on purpose only once...then I told him I bite/crunch my candy canes. That solved that for any future times me saying I was eating a candy cane was relevant. I do not understand the mind of a desperate guy like that. I really don't. I only really understand the 'no one will ever love me because I'm defective' part...the rest? Not a damn clue. And yeah....you got the 'more than what most people get told' because I figured you'd want to know as close to the whole thing as I could manage. Most people only want to know 'harassed for eight months', 'bf offered punch, I said not worth it, so he didn't', and maybe an example or two of what he did/said. Anything else you want to address or ask questions about? I did kind of throw a wall of text at you.
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Posted: Fri Jul 10, 2015 2:33 am
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Ah.
Craigslist is a scary place.
Don't go there.
...to be honest, I don't know if I want to take my dog or not. I like having him around....but one, le bf's place has two cats, and two...wait nope, I'd miss the little dude...at least a fair bit. But there are some times when he's super annoying. Plus I'd have to teach him to not sleep in a bed....and find a way to keep him from whining and barking when people leave.
Yeah..... Oi, you didn't actually check out on me...at least not there. And besides, you're okay. Don't worry about it. My issue is more with people who I'd thought had the same level of investment...and they either stopped having that and didn't tell me but kept sort-of talking to me until I had to drag it out or them....or they just left without warning. But...apology accepted (because social expectations; seriously, you don't have to apologize)
Same here. The game shops near me....might actually be even farther away than ten miles. Definitely for the ones I'd want to go to. ....yep. I've learned to figure out the realm of what he might be thinking...but past that I usually don't know anything specific unless I ask....and hope I get an answer and not the cheshire cat. I've been trying to learn when to just accept something regardless of my personal confusion. It's not easy, but it is simpler...I think? Not really sure yet as I haven't enough data.
One, so am I. To be honest, it's not people in general not offering to protect or even males in general....but males who are (or should be) very important to me. I can understand friends being worried in the friend manner of 'that's awful, I'm here for you friendo!'....but someone who should be a bit more than 'here for you!' and they aren't....is damaging. And it's worse when they do not understand what they've done and what it has permanently cost them. I got the feeling that it was more of a 's**t, I lost what I had, can't let anyone else have it! Especially since she didn't care I had cerebral palsy and didn't look all that great' But I learned he'd done similar things to others..though they were merely friends, so it must be a personality trait of his or of his family, as apparently his mother went loony when his father cheated on her (while she was undergoing chemotherapy) and then divorced her. And to be honest, most of my friends, who have been male, were respectful and if I said I wasn't interested...other than one (besides le ex) calling when they were drunk and being the happy-weird-hitting-on-you drunk...but once sober he was really sorry and such. And didn't badger me when I said nope. It's really just been this one a*****e. Needy, problematic, creepy, harassing a*****e. Look, this guy had also imagined me doing things because I'd mentioned I was eating a candy cane...which I had done on purpose only once...then I told him I bite/crunch my candy canes. That solved that for any future times me saying I was eating a candy cane was relevant. I do not understand the mind of a desperate guy like that. I really don't. I only really understand the 'no one will ever love me because I'm defective' part...the rest? Not a damn clue. And yeah....you got the 'more than what most people get told' because I figured you'd want to know as close to the whole thing as I could manage. Most people only want to know 'harassed for eight months', 'bf offered punch, I said not worth it, so he didn't', and maybe an example or two of what he did/said. Anything else you want to address or ask questions about? I did kind of throw a wall of text at you.
craigslist isn't that scary. the majority of stories you hear about it being a horrible place and whatnot are usually either exaggerated or uncommon or people not using common sense. if you're going to meet someone to buy or sell something, you always want to meet them in a public place like a parking lot to a smallish store or something. not a big parking lot like at a grocery store or a department store, those have too many cars and not enough people those would be a couple of difficult things to do. it's easy to teach a pet not to do something, but way harder to make them unlearn a thing they do. especially the whining when people leave thing. though hopefully you don't regret whichever decision you make
i kinda did, but if you say not to worry about it, i won't. but those kinds of things definitely suck, and i get the feeling i might be one of those people in terms of conversations due to my nigh inability to start conversations due to the completely unfounded worry of me annoying them by doing so and my lack of ability to keep conversations going online. in person it's a whole different story. which is kinda weird, imo. (i apologize too often and i know i do, and social expectations in general are annoying and i often ignore them because of that fact. stupid social expectations)
that's my reason for needing a bike. it'd be a good way to keep from being crazy out of shape and it'd be a way to get places relatively quickly no matter if they're ten miles away or not. i'll just need a backpack so i can carry stuff with me; i don't trust pockets when on a bike. things fall out of pockets. and good luck learning when to accept confusing answers and not pry until you get one you can understand; it's a difficult thing to learn how to do. and even more difficult to master when to do it. both of which being things that i also need to work on. though not sure if it's simpler to just accept said answers or refusals to respond
imo most friends should be the 'here for you' type of friend, while close friends should be a step or two above that, and best friends/relationship partners being willing to go to whatever lengths are needed to help, though in all cases there are times when one shouldn't help or shouldn't help too much. it's a weird balance that needs to be maintained. idk. and that guy's dad sucks for having cheated on his wife, no matter the circumstances. nobody should ever cheat on their relationship partner of any degree, unless it's a mutually agreed upon thing. though at that point it's no longer considered 'cheating' due to the relationship partners having agreed on it being allowed. the ex guy is the type of guy that there needs to be less of in this world, and type of girl too, since there's girls like that as well. though it's good to hear that all your guy friends were good enough people to respect your refusals and the one guy being upset over his actions done while drunk once sober. and that's definitely one way to solve a problem with someone imagining lewd things you don't want them to imagine. i'm guessing his response to you having said that you bite/crunch candy canes had to have been mildly amusing, at the least. i appreciate the being given the full rundown, as i enjoy knowing the relevant backstory of events happening as much as knowing the events happening, as well as the details between. details are important. and i don't think i have any more questions about the Great Wall of Textlandia at this time, but thanks for asking if i did
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Posted: Fri Jul 10, 2015 10:37 pm
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Ah.
Craigslist is a scary place.
Don't go there.
...to be honest, I don't know if I want to take my dog or not. I like having him around....but one, le bf's place has two cats, and two...wait nope, I'd miss the little dude...at least a fair bit. But there are some times when he's super annoying. Plus I'd have to teach him to not sleep in a bed....and find a way to keep him from whining and barking when people leave.
Yeah..... Oi, you didn't actually check out on me...at least not there. And besides, you're okay. Don't worry about it. My issue is more with people who I'd thought had the same level of investment...and they either stopped having that and didn't tell me but kept sort-of talking to me until I had to drag it out or them....or they just left without warning. But...apology accepted (because social expectations; seriously, you don't have to apologize)
Same here. The game shops near me....might actually be even farther away than ten miles. Definitely for the ones I'd want to go to. ....yep. I've learned to figure out the realm of what he might be thinking...but past that I usually don't know anything specific unless I ask....and hope I get an answer and not the cheshire cat. I've been trying to learn when to just accept something regardless of my personal confusion. It's not easy, but it is simpler...I think? Not really sure yet as I haven't enough data.
One, so am I. To be honest, it's not people in general not offering to protect or even males in general....but males who are (or should be) very important to me. I can understand friends being worried in the friend manner of 'that's awful, I'm here for you friendo!'....but someone who should be a bit more than 'here for you!' and they aren't....is damaging. And it's worse when they do not understand what they've done and what it has permanently cost them. I got the feeling that it was more of a 's**t, I lost what I had, can't let anyone else have it! Especially since she didn't care I had cerebral palsy and didn't look all that great' But I learned he'd done similar things to others..though they were merely friends, so it must be a personality trait of his or of his family, as apparently his mother went loony when his father cheated on her (while she was undergoing chemotherapy) and then divorced her. And to be honest, most of my friends, who have been male, were respectful and if I said I wasn't interested...other than one (besides le ex) calling when they were drunk and being the happy-weird-hitting-on-you drunk...but once sober he was really sorry and such. And didn't badger me when I said nope. It's really just been this one a*****e. Needy, problematic, creepy, harassing a*****e. Look, this guy had also imagined me doing things because I'd mentioned I was eating a candy cane...which I had done on purpose only once...then I told him I bite/crunch my candy canes. That solved that for any future times me saying I was eating a candy cane was relevant. I do not understand the mind of a desperate guy like that. I really don't. I only really understand the 'no one will ever love me because I'm defective' part...the rest? Not a damn clue. And yeah....you got the 'more than what most people get told' because I figured you'd want to know as close to the whole thing as I could manage. Most people only want to know 'harassed for eight months', 'bf offered punch, I said not worth it, so he didn't', and maybe an example or two of what he did/said. Anything else you want to address or ask questions about? I did kind of throw a wall of text at you.
craigslist isn't that scary. the majority of stories you hear about it being a horrible place and whatnot are usually either exaggerated or uncommon or people not using common sense. if you're going to meet someone to buy or sell something, you always want to meet them in a public place like a parking lot to a smallish store or something. not a big parking lot like at a grocery store or a department store, those have too many cars and not enough people those would be a couple of difficult things to do. it's easy to teach a pet not to do something, but way harder to make them unlearn a thing they do. especially the whining when people leave thing. though hopefully you don't regret whichever decision you make
i kinda did, but if you say not to worry about it, i won't. but those kinds of things definitely suck, and i get the feeling i might be one of those people in terms of conversations due to my nigh inability to start conversations due to the completely unfounded worry of me annoying them by doing so and my lack of ability to keep conversations going online. in person it's a whole different story. which is kinda weird, imo. (i apologize too often and i know i do, and social expectations in general are annoying and i often ignore them because of that fact. stupid social expectations)
that's my reason for needing a bike. it'd be a good way to keep from being crazy out of shape and it'd be a way to get places relatively quickly no matter if they're ten miles away or not. i'll just need a backpack so i can carry stuff with me; i don't trust pockets when on a bike. things fall out of pockets. and good luck learning when to accept confusing answers and not pry until you get one you can understand; it's a difficult thing to learn how to do. and even more difficult to master when to do it. both of which being things that i also need to work on. though not sure if it's simpler to just accept said answers or refusals to respond
imo most friends should be the 'here for you' type of friend, while close friends should be a step or two above that, and best friends/relationship partners being willing to go to whatever lengths are needed to help, though in all cases there are times when one shouldn't help or shouldn't help too much. it's a weird balance that needs to be maintained. idk. and that guy's dad sucks for having cheated on his wife, no matter the circumstances. nobody should ever cheat on their relationship partner of any degree, unless it's a mutually agreed upon thing. though at that point it's no longer considered 'cheating' due to the relationship partners having agreed on it being allowed. the ex guy is the type of guy that there needs to be less of in this world, and type of girl too, since there's girls like that as well. though it's good to hear that all your guy friends were good enough people to respect your refusals and the one guy being upset over his actions done while drunk once sober. and that's definitely one way to solve a problem with someone imagining lewd things you don't want them to imagine. i'm guessing his response to you having said that you bite/crunch candy canes had to have been mildly amusing, at the least. i appreciate the being given the full rundown, as i enjoy knowing the relevant backstory of events happening as much as knowing the events happening, as well as the details between. details are important. and i don't think i have any more questions about the Great Wall of Textlandia at this time, but thanks for asking if i didBy 'Craigslist is scary'
I more mean that most of the people on there aren't terribly helpful...
Though being honest I've been looking for a car and every single person I've tried talking to about a car has either been a d**k or were not reliable/trustworthy.
Plus, if I tried actually meeting with the person in question, I brought someone with me.
Because safety in numbers if the person turned out to be one of those 'horror stories' touted.
Yup. And I don't think I will....but it all depends on how allergic other people are...and if more than one person be allergic.....and my dog generally doesn't like the feral cats that are in my area, but I figure that's more of a 'TRESPASSERS! GET OFF MY LAWN!' thing than him specifically hating cats. He doesn't really like anything that moves on our property, especially if he sees it....or the scent left behind isn't one he's deemed as 'common/normal'. Cats definitely qualify as not normal since I bet you they try to mark territory or whatever.
Nika. -Insert your real name here to convey just how serious I am being- I'm bad at that as well, but I've learned that at least with online conversations, just saying 'hi how are you' and merely talking to people will never count as annoying someone. Mainly because with Gaia conversations, the person can come to them whenever....same for facebook, etc. And a general Hi how are you not only starts conversations, but they are also the kind of thing that rarely annoys other people, because you're inquiring about them. Most people like that kind of thing. Also, to be perfectly honest, you did at one point cause me a problem, but unlike some of the people who have caused me problems....you caused me the least out of them all. For a variety of reasons, but the least none-the-less.
Wish I lived somewhere using a bike was actually feasible....because I'd use the hell out of it. And yes. Never trust pockets when on a bike....unless you have zipper pockets or something. And I've learned how to accept them for the most part....I only really pry when I NEED to know something. For example....I forced my boyfriend (before he became that) to tell me if he was interested, because I needed to know. It wasn't a want, it was an 'I'm not wanting to assume, but I'm fairly certain it's likely and I'm under attack so I need reinforcements' thing. Not that I explained why I needed to know at the time...fairly sure I explained later. What I have left to learn is how to keep my confusion off my face.....which I have a feeling I'm not going to be able to do....mainly because I feel comfortable and safe around him. He won't use my confusion or facial expressions against me for anything bad....other than teasing me and cheshire cat things. But those really aren't all that bad...not that I'm saying I like being teased by him or anything because obviously I don't. >////////>.......///////>
(I think most social graces are pretty damn stupid...like telling a small child their artwork is awesome. Tell the kid their artwork is nice, tell them you like a color, but don't say crap like 'it's a masterpiece and could be in a museum!' that's bad. Really, I'd much rather tell people how something is, but social graces make that a bit of a no....though there are times when I say nothing because it is literally not my place to...like telling a co-worker how to do their job because that's really a manager's job...however if the co-worker asks me...that's a whole other deal)
Agreed....though to be honest.......On a certain level...I don't know what it's like having friends....I have a lot of acquaintances....people I talk to when I'm in a place they are....and I'm always willing to listen to anybody if I can help....but Other than Suisho....and maybe a couple other people....I've never really had friends I went and did things with...or who came to see me...or anything like that....and I definitely haven't had any true best friends...
Apparently his mother got crazy and super lazy because of chemo....but agreed. If you can't handle something, don't go off and be a d**k like that. Tell people you can't handle it or something. In most cases, it'll be less painful. And yeah....I do not like narcissistic sociopaths...at all.....they're absolute hell. No one should have to deal with that kind of person.
Most of my guy friends are fairly honorable people. May say sexist, perverted things...but then again so do I. At least they're never really directed at me unless I've invited it. (which I don't really do anymore unless the guy is gay or I know there is 100% no way they'd develop an interest in me...but even then I'm still not doing that as much....kinda feel like I shouldn't make such comments to any guys other than my boyfriend. Which makes sense)
Oh, it was very hilarious. Didn't see his face, but I could tell he was cringing. Actually, that would be a pretty fitting punishment for the guy. Considering how much of a d**k he was....not having a d**k would balance his d**k-ish-ness out fairly well, don't you think? *semi-joking*
Exactly. I usually prefer knowing the full backstory when it is something like this...because it helps me to draw my own conclusions rather than just taking the person's "trust me, they're a b***h" at face value. Though, my sister has told me that basically none f that thing was my fault....the only part that was really my fault was not telling him to '******** off' sooner. Though....I get the feeling he would have still badgered me for a bit anyway.... And you're welcome.
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Posted: Sat Jul 11, 2015 4:04 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama By 'Craigslist is scary'
I more mean that most of the people on there aren't terribly helpful...
Though being honest I've been looking for a car and every single person I've tried talking to about a car has either been a d**k or were not reliable/trustworthy.
Plus, if I tried actually meeting with the person in question, I brought someone with me.
Because safety in numbers if the person turned out to be one of those 'horror stories' touted.
Yup. And I don't think I will....but it all depends on how allergic other people are...and if more than one person be allergic.....and my dog generally doesn't like the feral cats that are in my area, but I figure that's more of a 'TRESPASSERS! GET OFF MY LAWN!' thing than him specifically hating cats. He doesn't really like anything that moves on our property, especially if he sees it....or the scent left behind isn't one he's deemed as 'common/normal'. Cats definitely qualify as not normal since I bet you they try to mark territory or whatever.
Nika. -Insert your real name here to convey just how serious I am being- I'm bad at that as well, but I've learned that at least with online conversations, just saying 'hi how are you' and merely talking to people will never count as annoying someone. Mainly because with Gaia conversations, the person can come to them whenever....same for facebook, etc. And a general Hi how are you not only starts conversations, but they are also the kind of thing that rarely annoys other people, because you're inquiring about them. Most people like that kind of thing. Also, to be perfectly honest, you did at one point cause me a problem, but unlike some of the people who have caused me problems....you caused me the least out of them all. For a variety of reasons, but the least none-the-less.
Wish I lived somewhere using a bike was actually feasible....because I'd use the hell out of it. And yes. Never trust pockets when on a bike....unless you have zipper pockets or something. And I've learned how to accept them for the most part....I only really pry when I NEED to know something. For example....I forced my boyfriend (before he became that) to tell me if he was interested, because I needed to know. It wasn't a want, it was an 'I'm not wanting to assume, but I'm fairly certain it's likely and I'm under attack so I need reinforcements' thing. Not that I explained why I needed to know at the time...fairly sure I explained later. What I have left to learn is how to keep my confusion off my face.....which I have a feeling I'm not going to be able to do....mainly because I feel comfortable and safe around him. He won't use my confusion or facial expressions against me for anything bad....other than teasing me and cheshire cat things. But those really aren't all that bad...not that I'm saying I like being teased by him or anything because obviously I don't. >////////>.......///////>
(I think most social graces are pretty damn stupid...like telling a small child their artwork is awesome. Tell the kid their artwork is nice, tell them you like a color, but don't say crap like 'it's a masterpiece and could be in a museum!' that's bad. Really, I'd much rather tell people how something is, but social graces make that a bit of a no....though there are times when I say nothing because it is literally not my place to...like telling a co-worker how to do their job because that's really a manager's job...however if the co-worker asks me...that's a whole other deal)
Agreed....though to be honest.......On a certain level...I don't know what it's like having friends....I have a lot of acquaintances....people I talk to when I'm in a place they are....and I'm always willing to listen to anybody if I can help....but Other than Suisho....and maybe a couple other people....I've never really had friends I went and did things with...or who came to see me...or anything like that....and I definitely haven't had any true best friends...
Apparently his mother got crazy and super lazy because of chemo....but agreed. If you can't handle something, don't go off and be a d**k like that. Tell people you can't handle it or something. In most cases, it'll be less painful. And yeah....I do not like narcissistic sociopaths...at all.....they're absolute hell. No one should have to deal with that kind of person.
Most of my guy friends are fairly honorable people. May say sexist, perverted things...but then again so do I. At least they're never really directed at me unless I've invited it. (which I don't really do anymore unless the guy is gay or I know there is 100% no way they'd develop an interest in me...but even then I'm still not doing that as much....kinda feel like I shouldn't make such comments to any guys other than my boyfriend. Which makes sense)
Oh, it was very hilarious. Didn't see his face, but I could tell he was cringing. Actually, that would be a pretty fitting punishment for the guy. Considering how much of a d**k he was....not having a d**k would balance his d**k-ish-ness out fairly well, don't you think? *semi-joking*
Exactly. I usually prefer knowing the full backstory when it is something like this...because it helps me to draw my own conclusions rather than just taking the person's "trust me, they're a b***h" at face value. Though, my sister has told me that basically none f that thing was my fault....the only part that was really my fault was not telling him to '******** off' sooner. Though....I get the feeling he would have still badgered me for a bit anyway.... And you're welcome.
... you have a very good point there. and i'm not even gonna try and deny it. people on craigslist can be /very/ unhelpful at times. and it sucks that you've been having crap luck finding trustworthy not-dicks to get a car from on there. i can only hope i have at least somewhat decent luck finding someone for mother and i to stay with and the eventual finding of a bike on there well you wouldn't be wrong with the territory marking thing, since cats have scent glands in their cheeks, chins, and their front paws they use to mark their territory. that's part of why cats rub their faces on people, to claim them as their person. but hopefully that's the reason (the "GET OFF MY LAWN YA DARN KIDS" reason) thine canine doesn't like the feral cats
i know that, and i know how unreasonable it is to think that. doesn't stop me from thinking it though, even with all the evidence pointing to it being a wrongful assumption. though when people you know are online kind of avoid you for days when you attempt to talk to them, it doesn't help with trying to do so with the person in the future. though i'm curious as to what said problem was that was caused, though it needn't be shared if it's not wanted. and if it is, then due to it likely being a thing that'd be known at the time as a problem to all involved parties, vagueness would be a plausible thing to use without causing confusion. probably
is there a bunch of hills in your area that causes bike riding to be less plausible or something? because that's kinda the only thing i can think of that'd make bikes not very usable. or if it was all gravel-y. or sandy. or something-y. and yeah it's common sense to only have things in a place where it's impossible to fall out from while on a bike. especially out of pants. because legs moving up and down while partially horizontal doesn't help with keeping things in them. why am i saying it as though i'm agreeing with what you said in your agreement of what i said? i'm confusing myself now. ANYWAYS. hopefully whenever you pry due to it only being done when it's a need-to-know basis and you need to know he won't keep it locked up, if/when he discovers that that'd be the only kind of time you'd do that. and good luck with learning how to keep confusion from yelling its existence across your face so you can keep him from teasing you which you /clearly/ don't like at all, just like cats clearly don't like attention
(really though. tell a kid their art is crap, but it's good crap and getting better. not in those words obviously. but nobody should ever be told their art or their work or they themselves are SUPER INCREDIBLY AWESOME AMAZING as a kid, because they grow up and suddenly they're not SUPER INCREDIBLY AWESOME AMAZING anymore, just average. and then their self esteem goes down the drain because they feel like their whole life has been a lie. or something. social graces are really dumb most of the time and only sometimes required. like in the instance you noted of not telling coworkers how to do their jobs when it's the job of higher management to do that)
i know the feeling. lots and lots of acquaintances, just a few actual friend friends, except in my case i have what i consider at least to be a true best friend. only one though. and i have no idea why anyone would even want to do that kind of thing just because their wife or equivalent status relationship partner isn't in the same condition as they used to. i never have been able to and never will be able to understand why people intentionally cheat in relationships. it just doesn't make any sense to me. drunken flings, maybe. MAYBE. but that's only because impaired judgement and stuff. other than that, no idea ever
from my experience, that tends to be a fairly common thing among friends, even those of opposite sex and even when one or both involved parties are in relationships with other people. jokes are jokes, and the only time those become not okay are if you're serious about them. except the perverted thing if you're either in a relationship with the person or neither of you are in a relationship. then it's okay. though i can't blame you for not really doing that anymore
i would've paid money to be able to see someone's reaction to that. just. someone imagining something they think is really sexy and then getting told how the other person does it and then it goes from sexy to horror story in a second. [THE FOLLOWING TEXT IS NOT TO BE READ IN A SERIOUS LIGHT] and if he himself is as much of a d**k as the one he has, then the lack of the latter would indeed balance things out. after all, a d**k can't have a d**k of its own because that's what it is
only time i'd accept someone's conclusion of a similar degree at face value is if i knew the person in question, or had heard similar stories from other people about the person. after all, one should never let one person's negative opinion color your own without knowing the context of a story they tell about the person. and i'd have to agree with your sister on this one, and on your conclusion as to that happening anyways. people like that tend to do that
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Posted: Mon Jul 13, 2015 7:23 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Yeah....
So far, I haven't had that...just doctors who are unwilling to do little things to find out if more checking is needed...
Because I've an inkling I've got some big problems....but this one idiot doesn't want to check.
( That's good. Yay! )
It doesn't work like that at my house....
Because my father is a huge aspeger-y guy....and very problematic...
I have no car so people have to drive me places....
And even though I've explained time and again that I'm an introvert, but trying to make me function to what society expects tires the ever living ******** out of me...
People still want me to do things around the house...which I understand.
But honestly, it is my mother's own fault for not telling the people outside our house no more often.
People tend to kind of take advantage of her and assume she's got nothing else to do.
Jerks.
He's mostly okay...and he makes a great talisman when a dream weirder than all the rest and scary for reasons you cannot explain because something possibly paranormal occurred...
Ewwwwww...that would definitely ruin it.
Especially because cat.
And he's mostly trained.
It's actually getting the people to understand what he's telling them that's the issue.
Well that's good. Though, overdosing would probably force them to take a closer look, but is it really worth it? And that's why, even though I'm sure I have problems that should be looked at, I'll avoid doctors. Health is simply the slowest possible rate at which one can die. Personally, I just want to get it over with. Today might have been a really bad day. =IAh. My dad's a royal mess like I am, and my mom only cares if my personal spaces are kept in order. Not having a vehicle can really suck. Until I was actually stranded without my car for a couple days, I didn't realize how weird being forced to stay home would be since I didn't even get my license until I was 18. Wait, am I misinterpreting, or are you doing housework at other peoples' houses? At your own house, it makes sense, but other peoples' houses? ******** that noise. The ability to say "no" to people is getting harder to find. I'm pretty bad at it too. It's always "We're friends! I really need your help!" and I cave, but then I start doing the things and thinking how much of an idiot I am. They usually don't need me at all. And then I've stressed myself out for nothing. That's why I still have stuffed animals. My one is like a trauma sponge. If I have a nightmare, I latch onto that stuffed tiger for the rest of the night, and I'm fine. Plus, you can't crush a stuffed animal to death, and I'm one to squeeze things. Mhm. Very bad cat. I almost let another one in. He slept with me one night, but when I woke up in the morning, he was investigating my aquarium where I kept my pet mouse. So, that ended right there. Yeah. Teaching people to understand Dog is quite an undertaking.
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Posted: Wed Jul 15, 2015 5:35 pm
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama By 'Craigslist is scary'
I more mean that most of the people on there aren't terribly helpful...
Though being honest I've been looking for a car and every single person I've tried talking to about a car has either been a d**k or were not reliable/trustworthy.
Plus, if I tried actually meeting with the person in question, I brought someone with me.
Because safety in numbers if the person turned out to be one of those 'horror stories' touted.
Yup. And I don't think I will....but it all depends on how allergic other people are...and if more than one person be allergic.....and my dog generally doesn't like the feral cats that are in my area, but I figure that's more of a 'TRESPASSERS! GET OFF MY LAWN!' thing than him specifically hating cats. He doesn't really like anything that moves on our property, especially if he sees it....or the scent left behind isn't one he's deemed as 'common/normal'. Cats definitely qualify as not normal since I bet you they try to mark territory or whatever.
Nika. -Insert your real name here to convey just how serious I am being- I'm bad at that as well, but I've learned that at least with online conversations, just saying 'hi how are you' and merely talking to people will never count as annoying someone. Mainly because with Gaia conversations, the person can come to them whenever....same for facebook, etc. And a general Hi how are you not only starts conversations, but they are also the kind of thing that rarely annoys other people, because you're inquiring about them. Most people like that kind of thing. Also, to be perfectly honest, you did at one point cause me a problem, but unlike some of the people who have caused me problems....you caused me the least out of them all. For a variety of reasons, but the least none-the-less.
Wish I lived somewhere using a bike was actually feasible....because I'd use the hell out of it. And yes. Never trust pockets when on a bike....unless you have zipper pockets or something. And I've learned how to accept them for the most part....I only really pry when I NEED to know something. For example....I forced my boyfriend (before he became that) to tell me if he was interested, because I needed to know. It wasn't a want, it was an 'I'm not wanting to assume, but I'm fairly certain it's likely and I'm under attack so I need reinforcements' thing. Not that I explained why I needed to know at the time...fairly sure I explained later. What I have left to learn is how to keep my confusion off my face.....which I have a feeling I'm not going to be able to do....mainly because I feel comfortable and safe around him. He won't use my confusion or facial expressions against me for anything bad....other than teasing me and cheshire cat things. But those really aren't all that bad...not that I'm saying I like being teased by him or anything because obviously I don't. >////////>.......///////>
(I think most social graces are pretty damn stupid...like telling a small child their artwork is awesome. Tell the kid their artwork is nice, tell them you like a color, but don't say crap like 'it's a masterpiece and could be in a museum!' that's bad. Really, I'd much rather tell people how something is, but social graces make that a bit of a no....though there are times when I say nothing because it is literally not my place to...like telling a co-worker how to do their job because that's really a manager's job...however if the co-worker asks me...that's a whole other deal)
Agreed....though to be honest.......On a certain level...I don't know what it's like having friends....I have a lot of acquaintances....people I talk to when I'm in a place they are....and I'm always willing to listen to anybody if I can help....but Other than Suisho....and maybe a couple other people....I've never really had friends I went and did things with...or who came to see me...or anything like that....and I definitely haven't had any true best friends...
Apparently his mother got crazy and super lazy because of chemo....but agreed. If you can't handle something, don't go off and be a d**k like that. Tell people you can't handle it or something. In most cases, it'll be less painful. And yeah....I do not like narcissistic sociopaths...at all.....they're absolute hell. No one should have to deal with that kind of person.
Most of my guy friends are fairly honorable people. May say sexist, perverted things...but then again so do I. At least they're never really directed at me unless I've invited it. (which I don't really do anymore unless the guy is gay or I know there is 100% no way they'd develop an interest in me...but even then I'm still not doing that as much....kinda feel like I shouldn't make such comments to any guys other than my boyfriend. Which makes sense)
Oh, it was very hilarious. Didn't see his face, but I could tell he was cringing. Actually, that would be a pretty fitting punishment for the guy. Considering how much of a d**k he was....not having a d**k would balance his d**k-ish-ness out fairly well, don't you think? *semi-joking*
Exactly. I usually prefer knowing the full backstory when it is something like this...because it helps me to draw my own conclusions rather than just taking the person's "trust me, they're a b***h" at face value. Though, my sister has told me that basically none f that thing was my fault....the only part that was really my fault was not telling him to '******** off' sooner. Though....I get the feeling he would have still badgered me for a bit anyway.... And you're welcome.
... you have a very good point there. and i'm not even gonna try and deny it. people on craigslist can be /very/ unhelpful at times. and it sucks that you've been having crap luck finding trustworthy not-dicks to get a car from on there. i can only hope i have at least somewhat decent luck finding someone for mother and i to stay with and the eventual finding of a bike on there well you wouldn't be wrong with the territory marking thing, since cats have scent glands in their cheeks, chins, and their front paws they use to mark their territory. that's part of why cats rub their faces on people, to claim them as their person. but hopefully that's the reason (the "GET OFF MY LAWN YA DARN KIDS" reason) thine canine doesn't like the feral cats
i know that, and i know how unreasonable it is to think that. doesn't stop me from thinking it though, even with all the evidence pointing to it being a wrongful assumption. though when people you know are online kind of avoid you for days when you attempt to talk to them, it doesn't help with trying to do so with the person in the future. though i'm curious as to what said problem was that was caused, though it needn't be shared if it's not wanted. and if it is, then due to it likely being a thing that'd be known at the time as a problem to all involved parties, vagueness would be a plausible thing to use without causing confusion. probably
is there a bunch of hills in your area that causes bike riding to be less plausible or something? because that's kinda the only thing i can think of that'd make bikes not very usable. or if it was all gravel-y. or sandy. or something-y. and yeah it's common sense to only have things in a place where it's impossible to fall out from while on a bike. especially out of pants. because legs moving up and down while partially horizontal doesn't help with keeping things in them. why am i saying it as though i'm agreeing with what you said in your agreement of what i said? i'm confusing myself now. ANYWAYS. hopefully whenever you pry due to it only being done when it's a need-to-know basis and you need to know he won't keep it locked up, if/when he discovers that that'd be the only kind of time you'd do that. and good luck with learning how to keep confusion from yelling its existence across your face so you can keep him from teasing you which you /clearly/ don't like at all, just like cats clearly don't like attention
(really though. tell a kid their art is crap, but it's good crap and getting better. not in those words obviously. but nobody should ever be told their art or their work or they themselves are SUPER INCREDIBLY AWESOME AMAZING as a kid, because they grow up and suddenly they're not SUPER INCREDIBLY AWESOME AMAZING anymore, just average. and then their self esteem goes down the drain because they feel like their whole life has been a lie. or something. social graces are really dumb most of the time and only sometimes required. like in the instance you noted of not telling coworkers how to do their jobs when it's the job of higher management to do that)
i know the feeling. lots and lots of acquaintances, just a few actual friend friends, except in my case i have what i consider at least to be a true best friend. only one though. and i have no idea why anyone would even want to do that kind of thing just because their wife or equivalent status relationship partner isn't in the same condition as they used to. i never have been able to and never will be able to understand why people intentionally cheat in relationships. it just doesn't make any sense to me. drunken flings, maybe. MAYBE. but that's only because impaired judgement and stuff. other than that, no idea ever
from my experience, that tends to be a fairly common thing among friends, even those of opposite sex and even when one or both involved parties are in relationships with other people. jokes are jokes, and the only time those become not okay are if you're serious about them. except the perverted thing if you're either in a relationship with the person or neither of you are in a relationship. then it's okay. though i can't blame you for not really doing that anymore
i would've paid money to be able to see someone's reaction to that. just. someone imagining something they think is really sexy and then getting told how the other person does it and then it goes from sexy to horror story in a second. [THE FOLLOWING TEXT IS NOT TO BE READ IN A SERIOUS LIGHT] and if he himself is as much of a d**k as the one he has, then the lack of the latter would indeed balance things out. after all, a d**k can't have a d**k of its own because that's what it is
only time i'd accept someone's conclusion of a similar degree at face value is if i knew the person in question, or had heard similar stories from other people about the person. after all, one should never let one person's negative opinion color your own without knowing the context of a story they tell about the person. and i'd have to agree with your sister on this one, and on your conclusion as to that happening anyways. people like that tend to do thatYep.
Thanks....hopefully I'll obtain a car somehow...
I sure hope you do, because you definitely need a non-jerk to stay with.
Well that explains why they rub their faces on things...yesterday I had a cat rub its face in my boobs...and chin and rest its paws there....which was rather odd...(will explain how this happened later on)
True..... and as for the problem, you actually don't know what it was and don't need to. It's not that important. I just figured you would want to know you had caused one at one time.
It's more a case of there being no sidewalks, everything I'd be attempting to bike to is at least a 30 minute DRIVE away.....and yes, some hills, but I can walk a bike up a hill. It's mostly the lack of sidewalks making biking dangerous and the distance. I have no idea why you agreed with my agreement.
If I'm asking because I need to know, I say I need to know...and so far he's always given me an answer. As far as I can tell, he perfectly understands why I ask things at times because I either need to know or I'm just making sure I've understood something correctly. There have definitely been times when I wanted to make sure I was correctly understanding something to prevent me from making possibly wrong conclusions...and I know he understands that one. (because I did that twice yesterday)
....obviously I don't like him teasing me. Who would like that kind of thing anyway......definitely not me. Nope. >///////>
(exactly)
Yeah...I want to have more actual friends...but a small part of that is actually contingent on me being able to get places...since basically everything I do and everyone I know lives (for them) far away from me (for me, 30-45 minutes isn't what I'd consider 'far' when it comes to seeing friends or my boyfriend, but that's in general and not taking into account what is happening on any given day) And I do understand why someone would cheat in a relationship....I still think it is stupid and whatever...but I understand that sometimes a person doesn't feel like some need is being filled by their partner...so they look elsewhere. I think it's smarter to try and talk about stuff first...try and fix the problem, rather than cheat. But those who just cheat to cheat or because they want to see what they can get away with...I don't understand that. Because why would they want to jeopardize their relationship. They could get their thrill seeking or adrenaline or whatever through something else...like rock climbing or something. One of the many nice things about my boyfriend is that I don't worry about things like that....because I don't feel like I'll ever have a reason to worry. And he feels the same about me. Which is also really nice. I still sometimes say things about how I'm not interested in x person...because my brain goes 'you need to tell him this even though you know he does not remotely think you being interested in them romantically is a possibility.' Silly brain.
See, but here's the thing. Most of the time I have issues with a guy, they're either a quasi-friend-thing....or an acquaintance who I've bantered with and they seemed to get the wrong idea...rather than them understanding it was 100% a joke....even at times when I'd explain that I wasn't flirting because I didn't know how and it was just me having fun with banter and words....still ran into the same problem. If the guy is the stereotypical angry 'nice guys finish last/I'm friendzoned!' type...or the guy is super hopeful because I'm pretty or whatever, or the guy just thinks 'of course she'd be interested, all women are' (and I haven't noticed that they're one of these types, because that has happened before)....or before I learned that most guys either figure you're not saying it because you mean it or they hope you'll become interested anyway....that's where I run into the problem. So it's much easier to only do that kind of thing anymore with people I am positive will understand. Saves me a lot of trouble.
Mhm. It's always funny...well for me. XD You didn't really need the disclaimer, but thank you for doing that.
Yup. But I'd still rather they know, since the possibility exists the other stories were wrong...or the person in question is very good at making people think they're wonderful.
I still feel like it's partially my fault for not telling him to ******** off sooner....had I listened to my mother and sister and not tried to be quite so nice...or initially tried to be his friend....regardless of his likely trying to keep pestering me...I still might have been able to get him to leave me alone a little sooner.
Now, to explain the cat on my boobs thing. I got to see le bf yesterday, and while at his house, we were on the couch and one of the cats climbed onto him and then semi-onto me where the cat proceeded to sorta mush-rub its face in my chest....according to him (right then) and his mother (on multiple occasions), the cat really likes me. His mother actually once remarked about how surprised she was at how the cat was behaving around me, a new person, because the cat was never like that with new people. It's not a bad thing when your boyfriend's/one of his family's cats likes you a whole lot. Getting approval from a pet usually helps you get approval from the family...which I'm fairly certain they'd approve regardless of the cat super liking me or not.
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Posted: Wed Jul 15, 2015 5:55 pm
KeatonIshTak05 Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Yeah....
So far, I haven't had that...just doctors who are unwilling to do little things to find out if more checking is needed...
Because I've an inkling I've got some big problems....but this one idiot doesn't want to check.
( That's good. Yay! )
It doesn't work like that at my house....
Because my father is a huge aspeger-y guy....and very problematic...
I have no car so people have to drive me places....
And even though I've explained time and again that I'm an introvert, but trying to make me function to what society expects tires the ever living ******** out of me...
People still want me to do things around the house...which I understand.
But honestly, it is my mother's own fault for not telling the people outside our house no more often.
People tend to kind of take advantage of her and assume she's got nothing else to do.
Jerks.
He's mostly okay...and he makes a great talisman when a dream weirder than all the rest and scary for reasons you cannot explain because something possibly paranormal occurred...
Ewwwwww...that would definitely ruin it.
Especially because cat.
And he's mostly trained.
It's actually getting the people to understand what he's telling them that's the issue.
Well that's good. Though, overdosing would probably force them to take a closer look, but is it really worth it? And that's why, even though I'm sure I have problems that should be looked at, I'll avoid doctors. Health is simply the slowest possible rate at which one can die. Personally, I just want to get it over with. Today might have been a really bad day. =IAh. My dad's a royal mess like I am, and my mom only cares if my personal spaces are kept in order. Not having a vehicle can really suck. Until I was actually stranded without my car for a couple days, I didn't realize how weird being forced to stay home would be since I didn't even get my license until I was 18. Wait, am I misinterpreting, or are you doing housework at other peoples' houses? At your own house, it makes sense, but other peoples' houses? ******** that noise. The ability to say "no" to people is getting harder to find. I'm pretty bad at it too. It's always "We're friends! I really need your help!" and I cave, but then I start doing the things and thinking how much of an idiot I am. They usually don't need me at all. And then I've stressed myself out for nothing. That's why I still have stuffed animals. My one is like a trauma sponge. If I have a nightmare, I latch onto that stuffed tiger for the rest of the night, and I'm fine. Plus, you can't crush a stuffed animal to death, and I'm one to squeeze things. Mhm. Very bad cat. I almost let another one in. He slept with me one night, but when I woke up in the morning, he was investigating my aquarium where I kept my pet mouse. So, that ended right there. Yeah. Teaching people to understand Dog is quite an undertaking. ?
I don't think I mentioned overdosing tied to me...
I might badger someone until they do something....go to someone else...or have another doctor check out a different issue in the same area...
(which I did and they wanted to look back around about now, but I keep forgetting to schedule the second CAT scan thing)
(that's not good. hopefully the past few other days have been better)
Ah.
Yes, it does.
Especially when you live nowhere near public transit or any of the things you do or near your job.
No, I don't do housework at other people's houses.
Though I did help my boyfriend with cleaning out his old apartment and have helped relatives with fixing their houses.
But those are different things than just cleaning other people's houses...which I won't do.
Yeah....but it's usually the case that either she's the only one who can really do it...or what she's doing is because she's trying to get other people to understand and do something that will make the organization's life better and improve their relations with their members.
Plus most people know that she usually knows someone who can do x thing and if she doesn't she can usually find them or ask someone she knows if they know someone.
I can say no...it just depends on the situation and other contextual things.
Usually I go 'Tell me what it is first before I agree.'
Though I don't think I've ever had anyone go 'But I is your friend' or 'you're the only one who can do x!'
I rarely have nightmares....but at least I have my dog if I do have one.
Usually they're just super confusing and mildly perturbing, but out-right nightmares are rare for me.
I don't tend to crush things to death.
Usually I just squeeze them a bit.
Cat + mouse + aquarium = no
Yup, very hard to teach them, especially when the person tends to just call the dog and want the dog to always come to them, instead of going and getting the dog or chasing the dog because he wants to play.
Even when you've point blank told them 'Calling won't work, the dog wants you to chase him' or whatever.
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Posted: Thu Jul 16, 2015 3:27 pm
Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Yep.
Thanks....hopefully I'll obtain a car somehow...
I sure hope you do, because you definitely need a non-jerk to stay with.
Well that explains why they rub their faces on things...yesterday I had a cat rub its face in my boobs...and chin and rest its paws there....which was rather odd...(will explain how this happened later on)
True..... and as for the problem, you actually don't know what it was and don't need to. It's not that important. I just figured you would want to know you had caused one at one time.
It's more a case of there being no sidewalks, everything I'd be attempting to bike to is at least a 30 minute DRIVE away.....and yes, some hills, but I can walk a bike up a hill. It's mostly the lack of sidewalks making biking dangerous and the distance. I have no idea why you agreed with my agreement.
If I'm asking because I need to know, I say I need to know...and so far he's always given me an answer. As far as I can tell, he perfectly understands why I ask things at times because I either need to know or I'm just making sure I've understood something correctly. There have definitely been times when I wanted to make sure I was correctly understanding something to prevent me from making possibly wrong conclusions...and I know he understands that one. (because I did that twice yesterday)
....obviously I don't like him teasing me. Who would like that kind of thing anyway......definitely not me. Nope. >///////>
(exactly)
Yeah...I want to have more actual friends...but a small part of that is actually contingent on me being able to get places...since basically everything I do and everyone I know lives (for them) far away from me (for me, 30-45 minutes isn't what I'd consider 'far' when it comes to seeing friends or my boyfriend, but that's in general and not taking into account what is happening on any given day) And I do understand why someone would cheat in a relationship....I still think it is stupid and whatever...but I understand that sometimes a person doesn't feel like some need is being filled by their partner...so they look elsewhere. I think it's smarter to try and talk about stuff first...try and fix the problem, rather than cheat. But those who just cheat to cheat or because they want to see what they can get away with...I don't understand that. Because why would they want to jeopardize their relationship. They could get their thrill seeking or adrenaline or whatever through something else...like rock climbing or something. One of the many nice things about my boyfriend is that I don't worry about things like that....because I don't feel like I'll ever have a reason to worry. And he feels the same about me. Which is also really nice. I still sometimes say things about how I'm not interested in x person...because my brain goes 'you need to tell him this even though you know he does not remotely think you being interested in them romantically is a possibility.' Silly brain.
See, but here's the thing. Most of the time I have issues with a guy, they're either a quasi-friend-thing....or an acquaintance who I've bantered with and they seemed to get the wrong idea...rather than them understanding it was 100% a joke....even at times when I'd explain that I wasn't flirting because I didn't know how and it was just me having fun with banter and words....still ran into the same problem. If the guy is the stereotypical angry 'nice guys finish last/I'm friendzoned!' type...or the guy is super hopeful because I'm pretty or whatever, or the guy just thinks 'of course she'd be interested, all women are' (and I haven't noticed that they're one of these types, because that has happened before)....or before I learned that most guys either figure you're not saying it because you mean it or they hope you'll become interested anyway....that's where I run into the problem. So it's much easier to only do that kind of thing anymore with people I am positive will understand. Saves me a lot of trouble.
Mhm. It's always funny...well for me. XD You didn't really need the disclaimer, but thank you for doing that.
Yup. But I'd still rather they know, since the possibility exists the other stories were wrong...or the person in question is very good at making people think they're wonderful.
I still feel like it's partially my fault for not telling him to ******** off sooner....had I listened to my mother and sister and not tried to be quite so nice...or initially tried to be his friend....regardless of his likely trying to keep pestering me...I still might have been able to get him to leave me alone a little sooner.
Now, to explain the cat on my boobs thing. I got to see le bf yesterday, and while at his house, we were on the couch and one of the cats climbed onto him and then semi-onto me where the cat proceeded to sorta mush-rub its face in my chest....according to him (right then) and his mother (on multiple occasions), the cat really likes me. His mother actually once remarked about how surprised she was at how the cat was behaving around me, a new person, because the cat was never like that with new people. It's not a bad thing when your boyfriend's/one of his family's cats likes you a whole lot. Getting approval from a pet usually helps you get approval from the family...which I'm fairly certain they'd approve regardless of the cat super liking me or not.
having a car of your own would probably help with being able to visit the boyfriend, as well as get around in general, so i'm hoping for you to have good luck in finding a car that you can obtain especially since the last two people we've stayed with were jerks and the last guy we rented a house from was a jerk landlord who didn't follow through on what he said he was gonna do and never responded to our attempts to communicate with him cats are very weird creatures. that definitely sounds like normal behavior for one
then i shall refrain from asking further about it, and apologize for having caused it to begin with
roads that don't have sidewalks are really annoying to me. like, what's the point? if it's in the city, there's literally no reason for a non-highway/freeway road to have no sidewalk. if it's a road in the middle of nowhere, i can understand there not being a sidewalk. but not in the city. it's almost like people don't think that pedestrians need to walk places! though the distance thing... that definitely makes one not want to ride a bike there. sure, it'd be good exercise, but it'd be a long time to make repetitive leg motions
well, it's a good thing that he understands and doesn't try to refuse answers when it's a clarifying question or a need-to-know question. people who do refuse to answer those questions are jerks unless they have a very good reason not to
because as you've said yourself, you're a tsundere when it comes to affection. and the face you type out makes it fairly obvious as well. as does your wording
i'm fine with the amount of friends i have, but not with how often i hang out with them. most of my friends live within 7 miles of where i am currently, and where i lived before i could literally walk to any of their houses. 20 minutes of walking is fine, but 2 hours of walking isn't. and i don't like bothering mother to drive me places because the only vehicles we have are a gas-guzzling truck and a motor scooter that's basically a quiet motorcycle
that's why i added in the part about things being agreed upon so that it isn't technically cheating due to being a known thing and allowed by the relationship partner, because sometimes even if you talk about the thing to try and fix it, it's something that can't be done by the other partner and so a third party is needed for times like those. though yeah i have to agree with your examples and reasoning for why those who cheat just to cheat aren't understandable. just. why would they do that. and yeah, brains are ridiculous at times
yeahhhh i can see why you'd want to stick with the people who absolutely understand them as 100% jokes, then. it saves you a lot of trouble and potential broken semi-friendships
gotta agree with you, there. and always better to have a disclaimer than to not on things that can be taken horribly wrong like that
i've ran into a lot of the latter type of person and i really dislike those people. my mother's mother, the current guy we're staying with, the guy we were staying with before... a lot of people. far too many
that's pretty much the only fault i can see that lies with you in that. took a little too long and it turned into a much bigger problem. other than that, it's pretty much all on him
clarification on that hadn't been needed, but is appreciated anyways. and even more than pets in general, getting the approval of a cat is a huge step forward; dogs are much more affectionate with strangers when they're invited into their territory than cats tend to be. unless the dog is a complete a*****e who terrifies young children. but that's a less common occurrence when raised properly
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Posted: Thu Jul 16, 2015 3:54 pm
Nikakaeo Amu Tsukiyomi-sama Yep.
Thanks....hopefully I'll obtain a car somehow...
I sure hope you do, because you definitely need a non-jerk to stay with.
Well that explains why they rub their faces on things...yesterday I had a cat rub its face in my boobs...and chin and rest its paws there....which was rather odd...(will explain how this happened later on)
True..... and as for the problem, you actually don't know what it was and don't need to. It's not that important. I just figured you would want to know you had caused one at one time.
It's more a case of there being no sidewalks, everything I'd be attempting to bike to is at least a 30 minute DRIVE away.....and yes, some hills, but I can walk a bike up a hill. It's mostly the lack of sidewalks making biking dangerous and the distance. I have no idea why you agreed with my agreement.
If I'm asking because I need to know, I say I need to know...and so far he's always given me an answer. As far as I can tell, he perfectly understands why I ask things at times because I either need to know or I'm just making sure I've understood something correctly. There have definitely been times when I wanted to make sure I was correctly understanding something to prevent me from making possibly wrong conclusions...and I know he understands that one. (because I did that twice yesterday)
....obviously I don't like him teasing me. Who would like that kind of thing anyway......definitely not me. Nope. >///////>
(exactly)
Yeah...I want to have more actual friends...but a small part of that is actually contingent on me being able to get places...since basically everything I do and everyone I know lives (for them) far away from me (for me, 30-45 minutes isn't what I'd consider 'far' when it comes to seeing friends or my boyfriend, but that's in general and not taking into account what is happening on any given day) And I do understand why someone would cheat in a relationship....I still think it is stupid and whatever...but I understand that sometimes a person doesn't feel like some need is being filled by their partner...so they look elsewhere. I think it's smarter to try and talk about stuff first...try and fix the problem, rather than cheat. But those who just cheat to cheat or because they want to see what they can get away with...I don't understand that. Because why would they want to jeopardize their relationship. They could get their thrill seeking or adrenaline or whatever through something else...like rock climbing or something. One of the many nice things about my boyfriend is that I don't worry about things like that....because I don't feel like I'll ever have a reason to worry. And he feels the same about me. Which is also really nice. I still sometimes say things about how I'm not interested in x person...because my brain goes 'you need to tell him this even though you know he does not remotely think you being interested in them romantically is a possibility.' Silly brain.
See, but here's the thing. Most of the time I have issues with a guy, they're either a quasi-friend-thing....or an acquaintance who I've bantered with and they seemed to get the wrong idea...rather than them understanding it was 100% a joke....even at times when I'd explain that I wasn't flirting because I didn't know how and it was just me having fun with banter and words....still ran into the same problem. If the guy is the stereotypical angry 'nice guys finish last/I'm friendzoned!' type...or the guy is super hopeful because I'm pretty or whatever, or the guy just thinks 'of course she'd be interested, all women are' (and I haven't noticed that they're one of these types, because that has happened before)....or before I learned that most guys either figure you're not saying it because you mean it or they hope you'll become interested anyway....that's where I run into the problem. So it's much easier to only do that kind of thing anymore with people I am positive will understand. Saves me a lot of trouble.
Mhm. It's always funny...well for me. XD You didn't really need the disclaimer, but thank you for doing that.
Yup. But I'd still rather they know, since the possibility exists the other stories were wrong...or the person in question is very good at making people think they're wonderful.
I still feel like it's partially my fault for not telling him to ******** off sooner....had I listened to my mother and sister and not tried to be quite so nice...or initially tried to be his friend....regardless of his likely trying to keep pestering me...I still might have been able to get him to leave me alone a little sooner.
Now, to explain the cat on my boobs thing. I got to see le bf yesterday, and while at his house, we were on the couch and one of the cats climbed onto him and then semi-onto me where the cat proceeded to sorta mush-rub its face in my chest....according to him (right then) and his mother (on multiple occasions), the cat really likes me. His mother actually once remarked about how surprised she was at how the cat was behaving around me, a new person, because the cat was never like that with new people. It's not a bad thing when your boyfriend's/one of his family's cats likes you a whole lot. Getting approval from a pet usually helps you get approval from the family...which I'm fairly certain they'd approve regardless of the cat super liking me or not.
having a car of your own would probably help with being able to visit the boyfriend, as well as get around in general, so i'm hoping for you to have good luck in finding a car that you can obtain especially since the last two people we've stayed with were jerks and the last guy we rented a house from was a jerk landlord who didn't follow through on what he said he was gonna do and never responded to our attempts to communicate with him cats are very weird creatures. that definitely sounds like normal behavior for one
then i shall refrain from asking further about it, and apologize for having caused it to begin with
roads that don't have sidewalks are really annoying to me. like, what's the point? if it's in the city, there's literally no reason for a non-highway/freeway road to have no sidewalk. if it's a road in the middle of nowhere, i can understand there not being a sidewalk. but not in the city. it's almost like people don't think that pedestrians need to walk places! though the distance thing... that definitely makes one not want to ride a bike there. sure, it'd be good exercise, but it'd be a long time to make repetitive leg motions
well, it's a good thing that he understands and doesn't try to refuse answers when it's a clarifying question or a need-to-know question. people who do refuse to answer those questions are jerks unless they have a very good reason not to
because as you've said yourself, you're a tsundere when it comes to affection. and the face you type out makes it fairly obvious as well. as does your wording
i'm fine with the amount of friends i have, but not with how often i hang out with them. most of my friends live within 7 miles of where i am currently, and where i lived before i could literally walk to any of their houses. 20 minutes of walking is fine, but 2 hours of walking isn't. and i don't like bothering mother to drive me places because the only vehicles we have are a gas-guzzling truck and a motor scooter that's basically a quiet motorcycle
that's why i added in the part about things being agreed upon so that it isn't technically cheating due to being a known thing and allowed by the relationship partner, because sometimes even if you talk about the thing to try and fix it, it's something that can't be done by the other partner and so a third party is needed for times like those. though yeah i have to agree with your examples and reasoning for why those who cheat just to cheat aren't understandable. just. why would they do that. and yeah, brains are ridiculous at times
yeahhhh i can see why you'd want to stick with the people who absolutely understand them as 100% jokes, then. it saves you a lot of trouble and potential broken semi-friendships
gotta agree with you, there. and always better to have a disclaimer than to not on things that can be taken horribly wrong like that
i've ran into a lot of the latter type of person and i really dislike those people. my mother's mother, the current guy we're staying with, the guy we were staying with before... a lot of people. far too many
that's pretty much the only fault i can see that lies with you in that. took a little too long and it turned into a much bigger problem. other than that, it's pretty much all on him
clarification on that hadn't been needed, but is appreciated anyways. and even more than pets in general, getting the approval of a cat is a huge step forward; dogs are much more affectionate with strangers when they're invited into their territory than cats tend to be. unless the dog is a complete a*****e who terrifies young children. but that's a less common occurrence when raised properlyMhm.
Plus it would mean I could take the boyfriend to places I know and not have to worry about him becoming any bit panicked.
Jerkbags are jerkbags.
Having never owned a cat because we weren't allowed them, I didn't actually know. I've only ever had a dog. But I like cats too. THEY'RE ALL SO SOFT, FUZZY, AND CUDDLY (unless you piss off the cat and it claws you)
...okay. Not-needed apology accepted.
I live in a community that's definitely not anything more than a small town (the main shopping area is a couple small, small strip malls (three-5 store fronts max each) and a walgreens. that's it) and even though the street is completely lined with houses...the bits that have sidewalk.....are the bits with fewer houses! It's so stupid! Took about 17 years for someone to finally get hit on this road and it happened on the one bridge that needs a sidewalk because it doesn't even have a tiny but of grass on either side. You have to walk in the road to cross it. (I auditorily witnessed the person get hit)
Yep.
......yep. I know it does, but I see no reason to lie about the reaction I have....
I just want more reasons to be able to leave my house than work and a boyfriend who my people think live too far away for them to be really willing to drive me there. And motor scooters are pretty cool, you know. Very useful and gas-friendly
But sometimes you can't actually talk to the other person for many reasons, be they 'they won't listen' to 'I'm afraid of what they'll do to me' to 'I'm a wuss but can't admit that to myself'. But anyway. My brain is ridiculous quite often. It's really annoying when you can't tell it to shut up because 'I HAS ALL THIS LOGIC AND PROOF OTHERWISE, SHUT YOUR PIEHOLE' and it goes "******** YOUR LOGIC AND PROOF, I DON'T CARE. SEE THIS .5% CHANCE? LATCHING ONTO THAT b***h SO HARD."
Yupyup. So much simpler.
Exactly.
They're the worst kind. But it also makes it fun to subtly set them up to reveal their true nature to people they've maintained a specific face around.
....but pretty much no situation is ever 100% one person's fault...and I refuse to place all the blame on that guy like he kept trying to do to me. I know it was at least a little my fault, even if that fault is .5% because I didn't say '******** off' faster.
Well, even the cat they have who doesn't really like people and will come to you if she wants affection likes me....or at least I think she does....she's apparently a bit stupid and slightly neurotic...but so far,even when the cat is upset and being a bit fighty...hasn't scratched me or anything. could be partly because since I know the cat is a bit neurotic, I don't try to pester/annoy the cat.
Or if it's the inverse which is far more common; a dog terrified of children. I knew a dog like that, but he loved my sister and I because we were nice, quiet children who didn't do the 'playing' thing many children do that's more like beating on the poor animal.
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Posted: Sun Aug 30, 2015 9:59 am
"pops in, leaves a note that says hi" ninja
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Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2015 5:35 pm
well then... apparently it just got REALLY dead in here when i lost proper internet access and couldn't really do much of anything online
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Posted: Fri Sep 25, 2015 10:19 pm
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Posted: Fri Oct 23, 2015 6:15 pm
wow. no one has posted anything since my last post in September, well gaiaonline is dead. bye! *teleports back to tumblr* 
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