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 Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 12:26 pm
Hey i'm 12 years old, an im bi/gay. How do I tell my parents/sisters/friends? Will they not accept me?
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Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 5:04 pm
Wow, either you're young or I'm just old [18] sweatdrop . I think talking to your friends first might be a good idea, for some reason, coming out to friends seems to work out okay, they're your friends, I'm sure they'll understand. As for family, it depends on your family. Depending how they are, they'll either respond with loving arms (hoping for), or...a slightly less desireable way. I've moved out from my family and am starting college, and I still haven't some out. But for me, my family was very conservative, so not coming out was for the best.
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Posted: Fri Aug 29, 2008 8:51 am
BanditDare Wow, either you're young or I'm just old [18] sweatdrop . I think talking to your friends first might be a good idea, for some reason, coming out to friends seems to work out okay, they're your friends, I'm sure they'll understand. As for family, it depends on your family. Depending how they are, they'll either respond with loving arms (hoping for), or...a slightly less desireable way. I've moved out from my family and am starting college, and I still haven't some out. But for me, my family was very conservative, so not coming out was for the best. Well ok thanks and yea it seems young but there was this one kid that knew he was gay at 8 and another that had gay sex at 11 o_O
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Posted: Sun Aug 31, 2008 12:13 pm
While that is interesting, it is pretty cool to know your own orientation at an early age. I struggled with mine for a few years.
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Posted: Sat Sep 13, 2008 12:49 pm
you should wait a couple years friend are ok, but parent might freak
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Posted: Wed Nov 05, 2008 8:47 pm
I deffinitely agree that you shoukd tell your friends first. They trully do take it better then parents, but then again it all depends on how your parents feel about gay or bisexual people. My parents took it pretty well, but other parents wont.
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Posted: Mon Jan 19, 2009 10:14 pm
The Dark Demonic Vampire Hey i'm 12 years old, an im bi/gay. How do I tell my parents/sisters/friends? Will they not accept me? first your way young. i mean to young to really know for sure if your gay or bi grow up a bit so as for how to tell, first if your friends wont accept you for it then get better friends as for parents if they wont accept it then DONT TELL THEM. i dont see what the big deal is about coming out of the closet to one's family i mean seriously i would never tell my family that im gay cus one i know they wouldnt accept it and two i know they would be hurt and angry and so much other negitive emotions and quite frankly my family has been good to me and i dont need to make them go through that The Dark Demonic Vampire BanditDare Wow, either you're young or I'm just old [18] sweatdrop . I think talking to your friends first might be a good idea, for some reason, coming out to friends seems to work out okay, they're your friends, I'm sure they'll understand. As for family, it depends on your family. Depending how they are, they'll either respond with loving arms (hoping for), or...a slightly less desireable way. I've moved out from my family and am starting college, and I still haven't some out. But for me, my family was very conservative, so not coming out was for the best. Well ok thanks and yea it seems young but there was this one kid that knew he was gay at 8 and another that had gay sex at 11 o_O having sex before the age of 16 WILL SCREW UP YOUR HEAD LATER IN LIFE DONT DO IT kids dont even hit puberty yet at age 8 so i really doubt he KNEW he was gay at that age and just because you found some guys attractive doesnt mean your gay. i say take a few years and make 100% sure before you go announcing it im 20 i told my friends when i was 100% sure i was gay and that was when i was 16
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Posted: Sat Apr 11, 2009 1:34 am
I didnt know I was gay until I was 16. I just turned 20 and still havent told my parents but they dont care. Best way is to just come out and say it. btw my parents found out thats why I didnt have to tell them
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Posted: Thu Aug 20, 2009 6:17 pm
im bi and 12 i told my aprent
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Posted: Wed Nov 11, 2009 8:43 pm
Its or parents they will be shocked at first, but if they dont except u for u thats there fault take my advice i have a over controlling dad i pushed him so far he doesnt bother me any more do what feels right for u slowly drop the ball like say mom dad how would u feel if i was bi or gay and then after there opinion u say u are
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Posted: Sat Jun 05, 2010 6:25 pm
master aura user first your way young. i mean to young to really know for sure if your gay or bi grow up a bit Yes, 12 is young, but hey, some people mature quickly. I wasn't much older when I had my first crush. master aura user so as for how to tell, first if your friends wont accept you for it then get better friends *toasts* Sound advice indeed. master aura user as for parents if they wont accept it then DONT TELL THEM. He should probably do it when he's older though. master aura user i dont see what the big deal is about coming out of the closet to one's family i mean seriously i would never tell my family that im gay cus one i know they wouldnt accept it and two i know they would be hurt and angry and so much other negitive emotions and quite frankly my family has been good to me and i dont need to make them go through that. I'd refer you to what you said about friends. If your own family wouldn't accept who you are, I'd say bear with it for a while and leave immediately on your 18th birthday. master aura user having sex before the age of 16 WILL SCREW UP YOUR HEAD LATER IN LIFE DONT DO IT Yeah, this is where I have a problem. There is no evidence of that whatsoever. Unless in the case of rape, the human act of sex is purely beneficial (except STDs really). master aura user kids dont even hit puberty yet at age 8 so i really doubt he KNEW he was gay at that age and just because you found some guys attractive doesnt mean your gay. i say take a few years and make 100% sure before you go announcing it im 20 i told my friends when i was 100% sure i was gay and that was when i was 16 Kids can hit puberty as early as 7 without a medical condition. It's possible. I agree though on waiting to be sure. I came out as gay, and then discovered I was actually pansexual, so now I have to come out all over again.
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Posted: Fri Sep 10, 2010 3:47 pm
you should wait until ur abit older to tell them. It could be just a phase (no offense or anything). im bi and there were times when i thought i was les but i really wasn't. u should take time to process ur hormones & things like that. yet people do mature at an early age but just for the sake of others u should wait at least untill ur 13 AT LEAST! i told my parents when i was 12 that i was les and they were in a shock. they r better now that im bi but people re people and it depends if they r ok with gay/les poeple overall. & the sex issue u should wait until 16 AT LEAST because ur just too young to have it b4 then.
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Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2014 7:03 pm
Honestly I'd wait until you're 18. I discovered my true feelings when I was in middle school. During that time my friends were all aware because I had "girly friends" now I'm 22 when I discuss that I'm bi with friends I like to do it one on one with them it's less stressful (for me) to come out to one person at a time. I told my mom this year as well I said, " Mom I like girls and I'm 'seeing' a girl." I was putting on makeup before a date and she had asked why? (it's very very rare for me to wear makeup) She was very cool about it, she has always had gay friends & actually has also been with a lady herself.
I am very proud of my gay side and sometimes tell people who really maybe shouldn't know but I've never had a bad reaction.
I doubt I'll ever tell my dad or brother though. sweatdrop They can just figure it out on their own.
Good luck to everyone coming out to loved ones.
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