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I even have bullies on Gaia.

Go Tabi!

biggrin We went to his Ross Volunteer social. It was ice skating. Went much better than dancing did; us northerners can skate, even if we can't two step worth anything.

...i need a friend

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So I was thinking today about how lucky I am. About how many events that were utterly beyond my control had to happen for me to be in the relationship that I am now.

At the start of the semester, I was living triple status in a room in a different dorm (dorm 4, I'm now in dorm 2). My old lady (cadet-speak for roommate) was living with another girl, since she's on Corps staff and had to live in the staff hallway. They lived at the other end of the hallway though. However, the two of them didn't get along, and so my old lady moved to an empty room farther down the hall. Since a certain number of freshmen had left the Corps, everyone was moved from triple to double status, and so my old lady got special permission for me to live in the staff hallway. At that point, I didn't know who my new next-door neighbor was, just that he was a junior on staff.

In fact, I would never have known anything beyond that if he hadn't had a poster for a lecture series on the Arab Spring on the outside of his door, and I stopped by to ask when it was. It was at that point that we started talking fairly regularly, mostly about politics.

It probably would have stayed there, just being friendly neighbors who occasionally talked about politics, if we hadn't both been in the dorm one Friday night, and ended up going to the Commons for dinner because everyone else had already eaten. Nobody goes to the Commons unless all other options are gone. And so from there we started talking about more than just politics, and hanging out more often.

However, if we hadn't both ended up at the same party one night, I don't think I ever would've considered the possibility of him being more than just a friend. Or maybe I would have; of this it's difficult to be certain. But when the police show up and you're both designated drivers (and yes, they checked to make sure we hadn't had any alcohol), it sort of gives you something to bond over.

From there, I believe that things would eventually have progressed in some manner. According to his buddies, he already had feelings for me at that point; the problem is, we're both quite shy, and he's not certain he ever would've said anything. The way it happened though, was still mostly due to events beyond my control.

So there it is. I have a lot of circumstances to be extremely grateful for, none of which would've happened if my old lady weren't on Corps staff. Funny how these things work out.