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 Posted: Mon Oct 25, 2010 3:04 am
*pets* if it gets really bad though you'll end up in A&E. Just look out for yourself and try not to stress too much ok Tas? Your health is important!
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Posted: Mon Oct 25, 2010 6:48 am
Tasn Zheng I don't want to find a doctor when I have other things on my mind. I do things in a very specific order or else it makes things worse. =/ If I gave you a number of a doctor might it help?
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Posted: Mon Oct 25, 2010 6:50 am
Kamilucis Tasn Zheng I don't want to find a doctor when I have other things on my mind. I do things in a very specific order or else it makes things worse. =/ If I gave you a number of a doctor might it help? Don't worry about it, I know that several doctors are within walking distance. I'll deal with it soon. I'm waiting on a few records to come through from the States.
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Posted: Mon Oct 25, 2010 11:55 am
I want things to be like they were. I want to be friends again but I'm afraid to get close to you once more... because I don't want you to abandon me again. (I can't take it anymore, Please...why won't they stop leaving me alone with my demons?)
I thought you were the only one who could save me from this hell and keep my heart safe... and then you left my it in the gutter and dissapeared for 4 months. (I waited and I waited...I thought it was some kind of test to prove how long I would wait for you.) I want to love you like a brother again so badly.
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Posted: Mon Oct 25, 2010 4:39 pm
Hi, guys.
This is the email I plan to send to the Housing and Residence department. Please let me know what you think - especially where I might be able to shorten some parts (it's a very long email) or where I should elaborate.
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Hello. My name is Cleo I’m a junior here at Barton University and I live in Sleepy Kitty Hall. I am sending this email because I’m having a difficult time coping with my current residency conditions.
I have a disorder called misophonia, which means the intense dislike (low tolerance) for certain sounds. Hearing certain sounds causes a great amount of distress and anxiety for me and when I cannot escape a situation that is upsetting me, I frequently have a panic attack. I have had this disorder since I was a child – my family, doctor, psychiatrist, and therapist are all aware of it.
There are a variety of sounds that upset me, many of which are eating related (people eating food, chewing gum, using silverware on plates, etc). Other disturbances are people talking, the television, doors banging, shouting, the water in the pipes, fans, air conditioners . . . there’s very little that doesn’t cause me significant distress. In order to cope with my disorder, I spend a lot of time by myself, in quiet places. I also wear earplugs for about 20 hours a day (including sleep). The earplugs are strong enough that they block out (most) eating noises and gum chewing, but I can still hear teachers very well (earplugs block around 32 decibels – a typical conversation between two people is 60-70 dB).
The problem with this disorder is that I’m unable to “tune out” unpleasant sounds. In fact, it’s the exact opposite – I fixate on them. For example, the moment I hear someone crunch on a chip, my heart begins to pound, my body tenses up, and I sit and wait for the next inevitable crunch. Loudness is not a factor; if I can hear an unpleasant noise even slightly, I lose all concentration on everything around me and focus only on that noise and anticipation for when it will occur again.
When I was a freshman, I lived in a quad in Meow Hall. It wasn’t long before I lost the ability to cope with the situation and requested a single room, which I desperately needed. Last year, I was in Sleepy Kitty Hall, and this year, I’m in the same room.
The problem is my neighbor. The issue is that this person has friends over or watches television in her room every single night of the week, generally between the hours of 8:30 PM -12 AM (Sleepy Kitty Hall has 24 hour visitation). Every single day. This has caused me a tremendous amount of stress, not just in my room but in daily life.
A lot of the noises that upset me are noises that I have to deal with every day in classes – people chewing gum, eating, whispering to each other. In order to cope with these daily issues, I need to have a “safe” environment that I can go to. I need a place that I can go to, at any time of the day, and feel assured that I won’t have any intrusive noises. With my current situation, I don’t have that. I don’t have a safe place anymore. When I am in my room and it is quiet, I am constantly alert and stressed out for when my neighbor will return to her room. Twice in the past few weeks, simply seeing her in the hallway, going to her room, caused me to cry because I knew what was going to happen – she was going to have friends over or watch television. This stress of simply being in my room means I have nowhere to relax – seeing people eating or chewing gum in classes, now, is more distracting than it ever was. In the past two weeks, I have cried four times while sitting in class because of what was going on around me.
I’m also incredibly sleep-deprived. I can’t handle noise, loud or soft, and there’s no way I can lie in bed while she’s next door watching TV or has a friend over. After the noise stops, I generally have to wait half an hour or so to calm down before I can go to bed. This, compounded with insomnia that I experience every night (unrelated to the situation at hand – I’ve had it for years, both at home and on campus), I get less than six hours of sleep a night and am exhausted all day.
I’m really struggling with my current living situation. There is nothing I can do to improve the situation with the person living next to me. I already wear earplugs in my room. Because the walls are so thin, the only way she could possibly meet my needs would be to never have friends over and never watch television in her room. That’s really not a fair request of me to ask her.
I am sending this (incredibly long) email in an effort to find a solution to this problem or at least see what my options are.
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Posted: Mon Oct 25, 2010 5:07 pm
CleoSombra Hello. My name is Cleo I’m a junior here at Barton University and I live in Sleepy Kitty Hall. I am sending this email because I’m having a difficult time coping with my current residency conditions.
I have a disorder called misophonia, which means the intense dislike (low tolerance) for certain sounds. Hearing certain sounds causes a great amount of distress and anxiety for me and when I cannot escape a situation that is upsetting me, I frequently have a panic attack. I have had this disorder since I was a child – my family, doctor, psychiatrist, and therapist are all aware of it.
There are a variety of sounds that upset me, many of which are eating related (people eating food, chewing gum, using silverware on plates, etc). Other disturbances are people talking, the television, doors banging, shouting, the water in the pipes, fans, air conditioners . . . there’s very little that doesn’t cause me significant distress. In order to cope with my disorder, I spend a lot of time by myself, in quiet places. I also wear earplugs for about 20 hours a day (including sleep). The earplugs are strong enough that they block out (most) eating noises and gum chewing, but I can still hear teachers very well (earplugs block around 32 decibels – a typical conversation between two people is 60-70 dB).
The problem with this disorder is that I’m unable to “tune out” unpleasant sounds. In fact, it’s the exact opposite – I fixate on them. For example, the moment I hear someone crunch on a chip, my heart begins to pound, my body tenses up, and I sit and wait for the next inevitable crunch. Loudness is not a factor; if I can hear an unpleasant noise even slightly, I lose all concentration on everything around me and focus only on that noise and anticipation for when it will occur again.
When I was a freshman, I lived in a quad in Meow Hall. It wasn’t long before I lost the ability to cope with the situation and requested a single room, which I desperately needed. Last year, I was in Sleepy Kitty Hall, and this year, I’m in the same room.
The problem is my neighbor. The issue is that this person has friends over or watches television in her room every single night of the week, generally between the hours of 8:30 PM -12 AM (Sleepy Kitty Hall has 24 hour visitation). Every single day. This has caused me a tremendous amount of stress, not just in my room but in daily life.
A lot of the noises that upset me are noises that I have to deal with every day in classes – people chewing gum, eating, whispering to each other. In order to cope with these daily issues, I need to have a “safe” environment that I can go to. I need a place that I can go to, at any time of the day, and feel assured that I won’t have any intrusive noises. With my current situation, I don’t have that. I don’t have a safe place anymore. When I am in my room and it is quiet, I am constantly alert and stressed out for when my neighbor will return to her room. Twice in the past few weeks, simply seeing her in the hallway, going to her room, caused me to cry because I knew what was going to happen – she was going to have friends over or watch television. This stress of simply being in my room means I have nowhere to relax – seeing people eating or chewing gum in classes, now, is more distracting than it ever was. In the past two weeks, I have cried four times while sitting in class because of what was going on around me.
I’m also incredibly sleep-deprived. I can’t handle noise, loud or soft, and there’s no way I can lie in bed while she’s next door watching TV or has a friend over. After the noise stops, I generally have to wait half an hour or so to calm down before I can go to bed. This, compounded with insomnia that I experience every night (unrelated to the situation at hand – I’ve had it for years, both at home and on campus), I get less than six hours of sleep a night and am exhausted all day.
I’m really struggling with my current living situation. There is nothing I can do to improve the situation with the person living next to me. I already wear earplugs in my room. Because the walls are so thin, the only way she could possibly meet my needs would be to never have friends over and never watch television in her room. That’s really not a fair request of me to ask her.
I am sending this (incredibly long) email in an effort to find a solution to this problem or at least see what my options are.  
Striked out bits are parts I think you can remove or shorten.
Other than that I think it's fine.
Though, if you have actually talked with your neighbor and RA about the issue you may want to include that you have already tried discussing the problem with them and that it did not result in any improvement of the situation.
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Posted: Mon Oct 25, 2010 5:31 pm
Thanks, Aneyana. (would love to hear opinions from others)
I haven't talked to my RA yet because she didn't get back till this morning and had to leave again. She won't be back until Wednesday because of a death in her boyfriend's family. So I wouldn't feel comfortable talking to her until at least a day or so after that. And I can't wait that long. x-x
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Posted: Mon Oct 25, 2010 5:44 pm
CleoSombra Thanks, Aneyana. (would love to hear opinions from others) I haven't talked to my RA yet because she didn't get back till this morning and had to leave again. She won't be back until Wednesday because of a death in her boyfriend's family. So I wouldn't feel comfortable talking to her until at least a day or so after that. And I can't wait that long. x-x
Yeah, maybe it's better to just go ahead with emailing the house department then, since she's probably dealing with a lot right now.
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Posted: Tue Oct 26, 2010 12:37 am
There are very few things I HATE more than having people interested in me... especially when the people in question include the brand new security guy that I'll be working with two days a week, completely alone. He seems like a nice enough guy, but I hatehatehatehatehate it. What the ******** am I supposed to do, gain 300 pounds, shave my head, and take a razor to my face for scarring purposes? Okay, so what if he thinks I'm hot? Whatever happened to keeping your damned feelings to yourself? Last time I checked, people get a job to get a paycheck - not to look for dating opportunities. I'd appreciate if this guy would treat this like a job. I'm not going out of the way to look hot. My hair is a mess, I'm not wearing much makeup (just foundation, and that because I'm having stress-related acne right now), I'm not wearing any jewelry... I could understand bothering me with your stupidity if I looked like I was making an effort to look nice, but seriously, if I'm just doing the bare minimum necessary to be socially acceptable, it's because I DON'T WANT TO ATTRACT ATTENTION. I swear, most security guards I have worked with (4 of them so far) have confessed undying lust or something like it for me at one point or another, and I am SO ******** SICK OF IT! I just want to be left alone... shouldn't that be obvious from the fact that I say, repeatedly, that I enjoy working third shift because it means I don't have to interact with people very often, and that it gives me free time alone? Or, how about the fact that instead of coming out to the desk if I hear someone, I check the security cameras to see if they're walking to the desk or just passing through, so I don't have to be engaged in unnecessary conversation if they don't actually need help? I personally think these are dead giveaways that I don't want to be bothered with other people or their feelings - why the hell is this guy so stupid?
...I really need to find a night audit job somewhere that doesn't have security, that just locks the doors at night, so I can be alone. I'm so tired of having to work with people. Even one other person in this hellhole other than the guests is one person too many.
Also, just because you're lusting for me or whatever doesn't give you the right to talk to me while I'm trying to study. What parts of 'I'm really busy right now' and 'My test is in four and a half hours' are too damned difficult to understand? I want to throw this guy into a closet somewhere, padlock it, and hide the key until the end of my shift.
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Posted: Tue Oct 26, 2010 2:29 am
CleoSombra Hello. My name is Cleo I’m a junior here at Barton University and I live in Sleepy Kitty Hall. I am sending this email because I’m having a difficult time coping with my current residency conditions.
I have a disorder called misophonia, which means the intense dislike (low tolerance) for certain sounds. Hearing certain sounds causes a great amount of distress and anxiety for me and when I cannot escape a situation that is upsetting me, I frequently have a panic attack panic attacks. I have had this disorder since I was a child – my family, doctor, psychiatrist, and therapist are all aware of it.
There are a variety of sounds that upset me, many of which are eating related (people eating food, chewing gum, using silverware on plates, etc). Other disturbances are people talking, the television, doors banging, shouting, the water in the pipes, fans, air conditioners . . . there’s very little that doesn’t cause me significant distress. In order to cope with my disorder, I spend a lot of time by myself, in quiet places. I also wear earplugs for about 20 hours a day (including sleep). The earplugs are strong enough that they block out (most) eating noises and gum chewing, but I can still hear teachers very well (earplugs block around 32 decibels – a typical conversation between two people is 60-70 dB).
The problem with this disorder is that I’m unable to “tune out” unpleasant sounds. In fact, it’s the exact opposite – I fixate on them. For example, the moment I hear someone crunch on a chip, my heart begins to pound, my body tenses up, and I sit and wait for the next inevitable crunch. Loudness is not a factor; if I can hear an unpleasant noise even slightly, I lose all concentration on everything around me and focus only on that noise and anticipation for when it will occur again.
When I was a freshman, I lived in a quad in Meow Hall. It wasn’t long before I lost the ability to cope with the situation and requested a single room, which I desperately needed. Last year, I was in Sleepy Kitty Hall, and this year, I’m in the same room.
The problem is my neighbor; The issue is that this person has friends over or watches television in her room every single night of the week, generally between the hours of 8:30 PM -12 AM (Sleepy Kitty Hall has 24 hour visitation) every single day. This has caused me a tremendous amount of stress, not just in my room but in daily life.
A lot of the noises that upset me are noises that I have to deal with every day in classes – people chewing gum, eating, whispering to each other. In order to cope with these daily issues, I need to have a “safe” environment that I can go to. I need a place that I can go to, at any time of the day, and feel assured that I won’t have any intrusive noises. With my current situation, I don’t have that. I don’t have a safe place anymore. When I am in my room and it is quiet, I am constantly alert and stressed out for when my neighbor will return to her room. Twice in the past few weeks, simply seeing her in the hallway, going to her room, caused me to cry because I knew what was going to happen – she was going to have friends over or watch television. This stress of simply being in my room means I have nowhere to relax – seeing people eating or chewing gum in classes, now, is more distracting than it ever was. In the past two weeks, I have cried four times while sitting in class because of what was going on around me.
I’m also incredibly sleep-deprived. I can’t handle noise, loud or soft, and there’s no way I can lie in bed while she’s next door watching TV or has a friend over. After the noise stops, I generally have to wait half an hour or so to calm down before I can go to bed. This, compounded with insomnia that I experience every night (unrelated to the situation at hand – I’ve had it for years, both at home and on campus), I get less than six hours of sleep a night and am exhausted all day.
I’m really struggling with my current living situation. There is nothing I can do to improve the situation with the person living next to me. I already wear earplugs in my room. Because the walls are so thin, the only way she could possibly meet my needs would be to never have friends over and never watch television in her room. That’s really not a fair request of me to ask her.
I am sending this (incredibly long) email in an effort to find a solution to this problem or at least see what my options are. Also, I don't think you need to keep reiterating that she's watching TV and having friends over. I'm just not sure what else to put (otherwise I'm just fixing what I see as grammatical errors and unnecessary bits). Hope that helps!
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Posted: Tue Oct 26, 2010 5:54 am
Hmm.... nagging suspicion is nagging... ¬///¬
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Posted: Tue Oct 26, 2010 10:32 am
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Posted: Tue Oct 26, 2010 11:11 am
I'm sick of all these tests. A new doctor, a test for my lung function, an echocardiogram, a barium swallow, and now a MRI and soon I'm gonna need an eye exam every six months. If they were helping, I'd be okay with it but they're always negative. My heart is fine, my lungs are fine, my throat is fine. The MRI I'm getting in an hour is to see if I have arthritis...I know I have arthritis, I don't need a test to show me that.
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Posted: Tue Oct 26, 2010 11:23 am
Shiori Miko I'm sick of all these tests. A new doctor, a test for my lung function, an echocardiogram, a barium swallow, and now a MRI and soon I'm gonna need an eye exam every six months. If they were helping, I'd be okay with it but they're always negative. My heart is fine, my lungs are fine, my throat is fine. The MRI I'm getting in an hour is to see if I have arthritis...I know I have arthritis, I don't need a test to show me that. Ewwy D: I remember when my mom had to have several tests and she knew she had the cancer she had xD and now she has to have tests for things she knows she doesn't/or does have.
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