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 Posted: Sat Oct 17, 2009 11:08 pm
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I agree with Exxos. We seem to be missing something vital.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 7:56 am
He wants us to participate in sexual things with them... that is what I ment by sharing... that is a no go... aka Lamb's no sharing thing...
If it was us 4 going out a on 2 way date yeah no problem, but when he wants to bring sexual stuff up, Sorry but I would rather smash his face in the concrete then do that... Anyone that does allow that in a relationship needs serious help.. I find it to be very wrong.
No need to worry... I asked about it and she told him I would not put up with that!!! That Darik does not do that and he needs to respect that or the friendship is over.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 8:25 am
Yay I put together a new avi... Also folks.. I believe Erin said it is ok for me to do a contest.. but I am going to wait and have Kiara approve also.... Since I dont want to get in trouble for starting one with out the Ok's...
But so you know what my idea is... It will be a dress Lamb up Contest, Either you can dress me up in my style, Dark and Evil, or go Cute and Cuddly or Cosplay me as what you like... It will be a 200k gold limit on the avi. After all entries are in, I would put them up for voting.. votes would last for 1 week. The Avi with the most votes would of course win and I would go buy the items to creat that avi.
Its a idea and just waiting for the Ok from both Kiara and Erin. I will start it after the guild avi contest ends.. That way we don't got more then one going at once...
But just let me know if yall think that would be fun for the guild... I know I sure think it would be.. just to see how yall all dress me up and the fact I would actually be dressed like that at the end lol...
Anyways.... I am gonna go and watch Apollo 13 with the GF...
So Lamb out!!!! xd
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 10:39 am
Lamb of God27 He wants us to participate in sexual things with them... that is what I ment by sharing... that is a no go... aka Lamb's no sharing thing... If it was us 4 going out a on 2 way date yeah no problem, but when he wants to bring sexual stuff up, Sorry but I would rather smash his face in the concrete then do that... Anyone that does allow that in a relationship needs serious help.. I find it to be very wrong. No need to worry... I asked about it and she told him I would not put up with that!!! That Darik does not do that and he needs to respect that or the friendship is over. That kind of thing does not interest me at all either. But I wouldn't go so far to say that *anyone* that does it needs help. I feel that as long as all people involved are consenting adults and are completely comfortable with the arrangement then what's the harm? The thing is though that if someone says in no uncertain terms that they are not interested then that should be the end of it. Any type of persuasion afterward is harassment.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 11:35 am
Lamb.. I have to agree with Camwen on this one.. Although I know I could never maintain that type of a "multi-partner" relationship that doesn't necessarily mean others can't.. In fact I know one our members posted on the subject to some length and every-one involved in her relationship is quite happy.. All that aside, I can't fault you at all for not wanting to participate in that type of thing. It is your life, your relationship, and only you can know what you're comfortable with.
As for your contest idea.. we talked about it before I gave you the go-ahead.. we discuss everything we do hun, there is no need to wait for a second approval.. If one of the Vice/Captains approves something you can rest assured that it was discussed and agreed upon.
And with that I'm off to help the eldest child finish up the rest of her school-work that she missed this past week.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 1:56 pm
Whatever floats peoples boat.. if they want that, then fine... but they need help in my view... a partner is suppose to be one person in my view, not another involved.. but as I said... If someone does that, so be it. I just never will..
GF and I are very happy together and that person knows this. They know we want a life together and to ask that just angered me... but she told him it will not happen and he keeps asking... So if it keeps up, I am gonna file harassment on the dude. I wonder if I could get Comcast to block his IP or hell I could do that and he could never msg us again to bug us.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 2:25 pm
Okay, now that I know the story and euphemisms and avoidance aside. It seems that your girlfriend telling him to knock it off is a good starting point. Not sure what makes him feel that she would be interested enough to even broach the subject unless she's been involved with him that way in the past, but I digress. From the sound of it, he's pushy for a group thing past what would be considered allowable.
Allowable = He asks, you tell him no, there is an awkward moment, and then it is let go.
Not allowable = Anything past that.
My suggestion is to take a deep breath and approach it as civilly as possible. It is not really worth beating the tar out of him, it is just creepy and unwelcome. If his only contact is via messenger and you want him gone, you block him in the messenger, unless you do not trust your girlfriend to keep him blocked and you want to go to comcast to circumvent something so as to control the situation...
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 2:33 pm
Yeah the civil approach first is best. This may be a stupid question but have you and your GF just told him straight out "look, we're not into that and we never will be. Please don't ask again"
Some people just don't get it unless it's spelled out for them.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 2:47 pm
Along time ago she had met him in person.. but nothing went on. This was before I was with her btw... He was like hey, my girl is looking for a girl and I would like to be apart of it.. She told him its not going to happen, I think he keeps pushing it cause he know's she is bi and if he keeps trying, she will give in, but little does he know.. she will never give in. So if it keeps up then we will do what is needed.
Its people like that, that I wish I could send off to a island twisted
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 2:58 pm
Okay, so yeah, it is definitely a tell him flat out to drop it and if her keeps it up, cut ties. He does not, from the way you put it, seem inordinately important a facet of her life and if he causes her grief, he should be ditched.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 3:08 pm
It's sad when people equate bisexuality with nymphomania. Just because someone can potentially like either male or female doesn't mean they are somehow supersexed and can't control themselves.
A friend I used to know (but sadly have lost touch with) told me once that telling people she was bi was always trouble - not because she was ashamed of it but because so many people only saw her in sexual terms after that. It was like when she said "I'm bi" it was heard as "I want to have sex with everyone I meet." People can be so dumb.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 4:03 pm
Both me and sis are bi - and faced an array of misunderstandings and mistreatments for it.
Besides assumption of hypersexual behavior, a lot of people assume bisexuals cannot be monogamous in some way. Like if a bisexual person finds themselves with a member of one sex, they have to have relations with the other on the side. Well, no, it does not work that way. It just means you are attracted to both and have a wider selection, not that you need one of each.
There are of course exceptions to the rule, but those people are not monogamous to begin with. If you're monogamous and bi and sleep with someone else, regardless of gender, it is equivalently cheating. Though in the middle there are the moderate versions. I once knew a "binogamous" group of two bisexual men and a straight woman, they were completely dedicated to each other and functioned quite well as an exclusive group (I use past tense not because it went afoul but because one of the men, George, got in a car accident and passed – Gwen and Edwin are still together).
If anything, I have found that a lot bisexuals are undersexual and more prone to wanting human contact instead of sexual contact. I think it comes from the differences in the brain, like a bisexual is not as much attracted to both sexes as a single sex preference setting was not turned on. So you do not have as strong a drive to mate as a drive to just be with other humans – a de-emphasis on mating drive I guess.
But that might just be my subconscious playing my sexuality off my inability to have kids, thus removing more emphasis on breeding than is typical of such a person. sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 4:18 pm
@ Erin: Well, I tried to type your name down but I got this message instead:
Oops !!!
Sorry, but we couldn‘t find anything matching your search terms.
I even add your arena avi (before the disqualification) under my favourites but gaia removed the poor thing out from my list of favourite avis. That was one of the funniest avis which got me choked from chuckling.
sad cry crying
Edit: Calamity Shortcake is back. This time with freckles. xd
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 6:32 pm
That is true about how people see Bisexual people.. They are like oh I can take advantage of this and use them for when I want some... I don't think that will ever change.. I just see it as that person likes both male and female and nothing is wrong with that. My GF has said many times to people that she is with me and when she is with someone, she is only with that person.. some people just don't care and keep trying and that is pissing her off.. She is going to blow up on them one day... she is my little ball of fury I say.. she may be small.. but big things come in little packages smile
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 9:11 pm
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I'm asexual, so I've never really had to deal with anything more unwanted than advances that won't go anywhere. I think by the time I get over my fear of sex and start considering finding a partner, I don't particularly care if it's male or female. I've been attracted to both for different reasons.
...It's surprisingly difficult to type replies with gift boxes bouncing around the screen >.> Go away, brown trunk! I clicked you already!
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