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N 0.26666666666667 26.7% [ 8 ]
T 0.33333333333333 33.3% [ 10 ]
Neither 0.26666666666667 26.7% [ 8 ]
Both! >:3 0.13333333333333 13.3% [ 4 ]
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I know this is a really pathetic life issue but... it might affect me for... y'know... LIFE and stuff. sweatdrop All names have been abbreviated and/or pseudonyms are used.

Anyways, my two best friends in the world are both somewhat insane (they wouldn't be my best friends otherwise). One has not been able to stick with a boyfriend for a month (Skye). The other has never had a boyfriend and believes down to the deepest depths of her soul that all guys are stupid (Acacia). No, she's not a lesbian. We're just in grade 10, that's all. So Skye and Acacia are now intent on setting me up with Skye's most recent ex. Let's just call him N.

Now, N is a very smart guy when it comes to trivia and science and that, but he has all the emotional intelligence of the average alarm clock. Yes, he has been bashed. By Skye. But he is a serious science junkie (as am I) and is sweet and nice and cute in his own way, but again, not too emotional. Then again, most boys are at this stage. He always eats lunch with us whenever he can and I actually did have a crush on him for a long time in grade 8 and part of grade 9. Skye and Acacia are hellbent on setting us up because they say he's been showing some interest in me. I said no he hasn't. They said that's because you're the object of affection and they can never tell.

Alas, my heart weeps, for there is another I love. T. I have basically liked him since I stopped liking N. He's sarcastic, capitalist, politically oriented and has a very low threshold for pain, but I like him nonetheless. My sister being intent on being the first elected female Prime Minister, I must say his political mind interests me a great deal. Despite his attempts, there's still shining evidence of a nice guy under a stoic shell: he always forgives his friends for trying to beat him to death with his own hat.

Anyways, they're pretty much on level ground right now. Which one do you think I should go with? C'mon, I already tried to decide for myself, so I came to Gaia. Please help!
It's hard to get really good romantic advice online. OR from anyone really.

From what I get, your problem is like (pardon the reference) Kagome from Inuyasha (Terrible show, but it's a good example). LEt's hope things turn out better for you than her though.

The trick is to step back and decide "Well, who do I feel more comfortable around? Who, if we broke up, would still be my friend? Who, if I asked him out, would reject me nicely if he did?"
I like T... Well, i don't know him, but as far as i can tell, you like him, he's nice and whatnot and N is a stick that used to date your friend who your friends are trying to set you up with... either way, i think you should make the choice, not your friends, because only you know....
Sorry if this makes like no sense... it's kind of early...

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Well... hmm... I dunno. Sounds rather tricky to me. o_O If I were you, I'd talk to your friends and tell them that you'd rather see if things with T would work out. If they didn't, you'd give it a shot with N. Follow your heart before doing anything else. ;]
be with the guy who makes you happy. Don't go out w/ a guy b/c your friends tell you to. Also, try to avoid dating a best buds ex. It can get messy.

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I like T... Well, i don't know him, but as far as i can tell, you like him, he's nice and whatnot and N is a stick that used to date your friend who your friends are trying to set you up with... either way, i think you should make the choice, not your friends, because only you know....
Sorry if this makes like no sense... it's kind of early...

It makes lots of sense. XD A much better post than the one I made... it's early, and there are lawn mowers outside making way too much noise. @_@
Holy crap. eek Someone gives a damn!

Thank you all so much. I'm just really indecisive when it comes to this stuff.

@James: Actually, I tried that. N won out over T by a long shot... did I make a mistake or what?
@Giggles: According to my journal, T is more of a stick than N. xd But anyways! Thank you. I'm just trying to make the choice now... T seems to be winning the vote... but it's my choice, right?
@Gemini: Good advice if I ever heard it. Thank you.
@Calumaritzu: I'll try that. Thanks.

Oh, one thing I forgot: N and I have known each other since we were 8, and I've known T since last year. And they're good friends with each other. Don't know if any of that makes a difference, but...

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Never try to date a guy you're not interested in being with. It's not worth it, because while you might feel ambivalent, if he falls for you like a ton of bricks, it's just not fair. Wait until you have resolution on your other crush, and remember that while you are with any guy for a long period of time, you will meet other guys you will be attracted to. At your age, people can change and amazing new guys can come along easily. At least wait and get in a relationship that's worth being taken for. Kissing someone you're not attracted to is so un-fun. Save it for someone you dream about. There's no hurry for anything, and you NEVER have to get with a guy just because he likes you, or your friends think he is good. Plus, ex issues with friends can really suck, and he might still have something for your friend. Even if he doesn't, there's a vibe that people who once dated have that can be uncomfortable to deal with.
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