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Anorexic 0.19718309859155 19.7% [ 42 ]
Bulimic 0.089201877934272 8.9% [ 19 ]
ED-NOS 0.12676056338028 12.7% [ 27 ]
Binge Eater 0.11737089201878 11.7% [ 25 ]
Orthorexic 0.018779342723005 1.9% [ 4 ]
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Other 0.11737089201878 11.7% [ 25 ]
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I am in recovery from anorexia, and I live in an area without a lot of support resources, so I thought I'd try to start a support thread for recovery from eating disorders on Gaia. Anyone is free to post here, but please don't be mean or deliberately triggering. Also, you can talk about numbers, specific foods, etc, but please make the text white so they aren't visible without highlighting them, as that kind of thing can be very triggering for some people. I'd like to keep this a positive environment.

About Eating Disorders


Anorexia: This is what most people think of when they think "eating disorder". Anorexia (also called Anorexia Nervosa) is characterized by an inability or unwillingness to maintain a healthy weight for ones height and age, and an extreme fear of eating or of becoming fat. Anorexics will often over-exercise, hide food, or lie about what they've eaten in order to avoid taking in any "extra" calories (or any at all!). If allowed to continue unchecked, anorexia has a range of physical side effects from brittle hair and dry skin to heart arrhythmia and death. Anorexics may also sometimes binge and purge, although these are not the defining traits of the disorder.

Bulimia: Bulimics eat large amounts of food and then attempt to "purge" it from their bodies by vomiting, taking large quantities of laxatives, or over-exercising. After binging, they experience intense guilt and self-hatred, as well as physical discomfort, which creates the desire to purge. They are often secretive about binging, and may steal money or shoplift food in order to keep doing it. Bulimics may be average or overweight, but they have just as many, if not more, physical complications, including tooth damage and potentially fatal electrolyte imbalances.

ED-NOS: Eating Disorder - Not Otherwise Specified. This is any eating disorder which not not fit neatly into the accepted categories of diagnosis, and can encompass a wide variety of behaviors. Someone who restricts what they can eat, or how they can eat it, but eats a normal amount might fall into this category. It also covers anorexics who have a BMI of over 17.5 or who still menstruate, since they do not meet the official criteria for anorexia.

Orthorexia: This is technically a specific version of ED-NOS, but psychologists are starting to think of it as a separate disorder. Orthorexia is an unhealthy preoccupation with healthy eating. It is unhealthy because it consumes much of the persons time and energy, and because if their nutritional knowledge is incomplete (which everyone's is because the nuances of nutrition are not yet fully understood by science) then they can put themselves at some of the same risks that an anorexic does by cutting out entire food groups or macro-nutrients (i.e. fat or carbs), or eating too narrow a range of foods.

Binge Eating Disorder: Almost everyone overeats sometimes, but people with binge eating disorder eat very large amounts of food frequently, especially in response to certain kinds of stress. People with binge eating disorder often feel, or are told, that they just need to get some self control, and don't understand that they have a real eating disorder that can be treated. If their disorder causes them to be overweight or obese, they are at the same health risks as anyone else who is.

Disclaimer: Nothing on this page is intended to replace the advice or diagnosis of a doctor. Also, these descriptions are general, your mileage may vary.

Useful Formulas (may be triggering, use with caution):

Weight in lbs to weight in kg: divide weight by 2.2
Height in inches to height in cm: multiply by 2.54
Height in inches to height in meters: multiply by 2.54 and then divide by 100

BMI:
(weight in kg)/(height in meters)^2

Anorexia includes BMI of lower than 17.5, underweight is lower than 18.5, healthy BMI is 18.5 - 25, overweight is 25-30, obese is anything over 30.
Studies show a longer life expectancy for BMIs between 20 and 24. These numbers are only going to be an accurate representation of your health if you are between 15 and 65 (give or take), and not an athlete or otherwise very muscular. If these things are the case you will want to look at your body fat percentage or see a doctor and get their opinion based on your height, weight, age, and lifestyle.

Formula for how many calories you need to maintain weight:

Resting metabolic rate for women:
655.1+(weight in kg x 9.6)+(height in cm x 1. cool -(age in years x 4.7)
Resting metabolic rate for men: Coming soon!

This is how many calories your body uses just maintaining continued existence, organ function, etc.
Multiply by your activity factor (below) for how many calories you actually use in a given day.
Sedentary (desk job, no intentional exercise): RMR x 1.2
Light (exercise 1-3 days a week): 1.375
Moderate (exercise 3-5 days a week): 1.55
Very (6-7 days a week): 1.725
Extremely: (6-7 days per week plus a very physical job): 1.9

Personally I find activity factors confusing, because they are intended to take into account both the amount of time you spend exercising and how strenuous that exercise is. What I do is guess, track calories for a week including calorie surplus or deficit based on the assumption I made about activity level, and then adjust it up or down as needed if I get unexpected results. If your results are far off from what you expected you should see a doctor because that could mean there's something weird going on with your metabolism.

Resources


12 Step
Eating Disorders Anonymous
Anorexics and Bulimics Anonymous
Overeaters Anonymous
Self Mutilators Anonymous

Informational
National Eating Disorders Association
Something Fishy
USDA Nutrient Lists
Beat Appears to be mostly UK specific. They have a chat room and message boards.

Meal Planning/Food Tracking
My Pyramid (USDA website with meal planning, tracking and nutrition information)

Forums/Social
We Bite Back
Depression Forums (They have a section for eating disorders)

If you have a recommendation for a resource not listed here, PM me.
My Story: I started wanting to be lighter and thinner when I was six years old. But my weight was already low for my age and height, and as long as it stayed that way, I just focused on trying to slow my weight gain, which I did pretty well at until puberty started. Then I gained 22 lbs in a couple months, which shattered my self esteem and messed up my right knee. After that I avoided eating as much as possible, although I wasn't very "good" at it, and continued to gain weight for another 2 years. By the time I was 14, I started to learn about calories and exercise, and I managed to lose a little weight, and keep from gaining any more. I was depressed and couldn't sleep most of the time, but I didn't make the connection to my eating disorder until much later. When I was 16, I got really into martial arts, and started taking better care of my body. I was happier then, and I gained enough weight to be healthy for my age. But then at 17 I got pregnant. I took care of my body during the pregnancy, and gained almost 50 lbs, but after I had the baby, I was hit with crippling postpartum depression, and I turned back to my eating disorder as the best source of comfort I had. I lost the baby weight in a matter of weeks, and by the time my son was 8 months old I was 10 lbs lighter than my pre-pregnancy weight, making me solidly underweight. That summer was intensely stressful, and I only tried a little bit before giving into it completely. The following fall I started trying to recover again, approaching it with more intentionality this time. I gained back the weight I had lost, bringing my BMI up from 16.9 to 18.6. And now, after thinking I was gonna be done with this, I'm slipping again. I wish I had an inspiring message to draw from all this, but the best I've got is that things are generally at least a little better when your body has the fuel it needs. I'm working on it.
didn't you make this exact thread yesterday?
opto
didn't you make this exact thread yesterday?

Yes, but people kept posting spam in it, so I made a new one.
Kage_no_Taren
opto
didn't you make this exact thread yesterday?

Yes, but people kept posting spam in it, so I made a new one.

fair enough, i didn't see that.
unfortunately, this will probably be deleted as a repeat thread, and there is an eating disorder support thread kicking around somewhere (but i think it is pretty much dead). threads like this always get a bad response here, it's sad sad
I looked for an existing eating disorder support thread, and if I'd found one I would have joined that instead...guess it must have died quite a while ago. I'm hoping that if I persist I'll be able to get a successful thread going.
Okay, there are two things I want to say here. First of all, if you were intentionally throwing up everything you ate, then you had an eating disorder, just not necessarily a particularly severe one. Second...we don't do it to have the bodies we want. I mean, it starts out that way in most cases, but what it comes down to is that there's something in your head that says that eating is bad (scary, impure, going to make you fat, wrong, you don't deserve to eat, the specifics vary), and that punishes you so severely for doing it that it becomes impossible after a while. And that thing in your head gets stronger if you don't eat...or your ability to make it shut up gets weaker, I'm not sure which. It tells you that you're fat, that you're stupid, that you're a failure and no one likes you. It keeps telling you you're fat even when you're getting close to starving to death. Additionally, there is a high that comes from not eating, if you do it right, and that high is very addictive, more like the rush you get from cutting than anything drug related (don't know if that tells you anything). And there's a sense of superiority in being good at not eating when you live in a world where so many people are overweight. The obesity epidemic is presented by the media as a failure of self control, so it follows that if you can pare your body down to nothing, you have exceptional self-control, which is something that is greatly valued in American culture. And then there's the fact that many anorexics are extremely driven and perfectionistic, and after a certain point of starvation (i.e. the one where people notice), they can sometimes cut themselves a little slack because they're sick that they otherwise wouldn't be able to. At least, that's how anorexia works. Of course there are easier ways if you are trying to be healthy or attractive, but that's not what it's about, even if the anorexic says it is...even if they think it is.
I don't understand bulimia as well, except the cases where they start out as (or trying to be) anorexic, and restrict throughout most of the day but then once they're home alone after work or school, they lose control and binge, and then throw everything up to avoid losing weight and to punish themselves for the failure.
Orthorexia has to do, I think, with not understanding how we're "supposed" to eat, and latching onto the (still very limited) science on the subject, because in the US most people do not learn how and what to eat from their culture anymore, which is scary, and with our collective obsession with diet and exercise, it's easy to get the impression that nutrition is something terribly complicated that needs obsessive attention to get right. It also gives recovering anorexics an (apparently) safer and healthier way to keep rigid control of their food intake.
Does that answer your question?
I am a binge eater, but I am not bulimic or anorexic. Does that mean I am the best fatty ever? heart heart heart
Loaf Obred
I am a binge eater, but I am not bulimic or anorexic. Does that mean I am the best fatty ever? heart heart heart

I'm not sure what you mean by "best fatty ever"...there's nothing good about having a severe eating disorder, whatever the media may tell you, and that's not different just because your eating disorder makes you gain weight rather than lose it.
lmao look at all the chunks in here

1 2 4 3 none of these bitches look better than me
Please don't make triggering comments like that.
I'm sorry, I'm french and I apologize for my bad english.
Actually, I don't have any food disorder, but my sister is anorexic for a year. She makes herself ..throw up, is that the real world ? on purpose. She's not sick enough to be helped in an hospital, and she hides herself behind sentences like "it's a problem that I couldn't really solve, I will be anorexic during all my life, even if I go in an hospital". I don't know what to do to help her and it's making me really sad. Can you give me some advices, because you know more than me what is this problem ?

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I was a binge eater for almost 10years and a accident scared me out of it.I slipped and fell right before my 20th birthday. I shattered my kneecap and tore the tendon right off the femur. I could'nt walk for 2 months and my knee had to be fully rebuilt. Doctor told me he wouldn't do it if I didn't lose weight. That scared me into taking care of myself.

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I may not have an eating disorder, but I think this is a great idea! It's good to have support.

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