~Operation Beautiful~

What do you love the most about yourself?

My body	3.8%	[ 64 ]
My brain	16.3%	[ 274 ]
My personality	27.5%	[ 463 ]
Everything!	21.1%	[ 356 ]
Nothing	21.6%	[ 364 ]
Other	9.7%	[ 163 ]
Total Votes:			[ 1684 ]

[AriaStarSong]

Combination of the two I think. There's the conditioned emotional response ("WHY ARE YOU EATING THAT YOU STUPID COW???" wink (sorry, I know, no fat talk. I'll be good from now on, I promise) but also, when your body adjusts to not getting much food, it's really unpleasant when you try to feed it normally again. Ever felt really sick after a huge thanksgiving dinner or something? It's like that, only... worse. 'cause you felt sick before. Now you feel sicker. It makes it really hard to "get better" since nothing makes you feel good. emo

[Starlurk]

AriaStarSong

Combination of the two I think. There's the conditioned emotional response ("WHY ARE YOU EATING THAT YOU STUPID COW???" wink (sorry, I know, no fat talk. I'll be good from now on, I promise) but also, when your body adjusts to not getting much food, it's really unpleasant when you try to feed it normally again. Ever felt really sick after a huge thanksgiving dinner or something? It's like that, only... worse. 'cause you felt sick before. Now you feel sicker. It makes it really hard to "get better" since nothing makes you feel good. emo

Don't worry, I deleted the no fat talk rule. Lisa made a good point so I got rid of it smile

I understand what you mean. Ever since I got over being sick my body can't handle the regular amount of food I normally eat. So I'll ask for a regular portion and then I'm like ...well crap!

I'm happy to hear that you're trying to feed yourself normally though. I hope it starts getting easier for you soon.

[AriaStarSong]

oh, and it was http://www.flylady.net/index.asp

It's worth checking out. Might not work for everyone, but her message is certainly very positive.

[Starlurk]

AriaStarSong

oh, and it was http://www.flylady.net/index.asp

It's worth checking out. Might not work for everyone, but her message is certainly very positive.

Thanks! I started checking it out but things got really busy.

[Starlurk]

We have a new resource courtesy of Lisa!

Leave Out ViolencE

[AriaStarSong]

Well, I think I"m off to bed guys. Family tomorrow, I need to be up at a decent hour. And I've still got a few gifts that I haven't gotten around to wrapping... whoops.

heart for all.

[The zOMG Cutie]

Sweet dreams Aria! Hope everything goes well.

[The Happy Cactuar]

[Miichiyo]

//huggles// I love them, Indal!!

You're awesome!!! heart

[The Happy Cactuar]

*huggles Miichi back, and then ninjavanishes into hiding again*

[Silver-Mask]

One doesn't care about the size of the arms that hug you,
The color of the lips that kiss you,
The look in the eyes that adore you,
The tone of the voice when said, 'I love you',

All that matters is that the love is there.

Inches and miles can't separate the bond of hearts.
Conflict can bring others closer, no matter how it starts.

Physique and looks are only the covers on books.
The heart and soul are the pages hooks.

No matter what you look like, or who you are
No matter where you live; near or far
If you come to us bearing pain or charms
Operation Beautiful welcomes you with open arms.

[Nokturnal Evisceration]

Starlurk

Nokturnal Evisceration

Starlurk

Nokturnal Evisceration

Yea, but when I was 16 I thought I defeated any negative self-image by finally being happy with the way I look even though im a bit fat. And the only reason that happened was because a girl was hitting on me (or so it seemed?) which gave me tangible evidence and said "u no what, maybe ur not so ugly after all?". But of course she rejected me and it was back to square 1 where Im still stuck to this very day, and wish I was more compotent like those popular socially accepted guys who get all this stuff Im fighting for handed to them on a silver platter.

*hugs* Sure, some people have some things easier than others, but don't fool yourself into thinking that everything is easy for some people, it's not. I'm sorry if I'm coming off as lecturing, I just personally feel that it's harder to feel good about yourself when you put others on an unrealistic pedestal.

What do you feel you're good at? What do you like about yourself?

Fair, I might say that I do have it easier than them in some areas.

What am I good at? umm lets see...
Im really good with Politics and Social sciences
Im good with music (just like my avi and siggy suggest)
Im nice but Im not a nice guy
I got dark blue/green eyes
Im really nice to people I care about, but cold and brutal towards people I hate
I have a huge and overactive imagination filled with what I think is cooled stuff

It sounds like you have a lot going for you smile

Maybe I do, but does it mean anything if no one knows that I exist?
Im just paranoid about acting like an overgrown kid who has had no experience at age 20+
Theres some bad things about me which I keep secret.

Would this be relevant?
Another problem I had was that the mainstream keeps saying that I have to be a dumbass who does nothing but drugs sex and partying. This made me feel very abnormal (still does, but I got over it mostly).

[Nokturnal Evisceration]

AriaStarSong

Nokturnal Evisceration

Hi nice 2 meet u biggrin

just a general discomfort of meeting and socializing with people you're unfamiliar with.
This is what i mean. While normal ppl have learned everything by kindergarten and have been succesful extraverts, I was not.

Its complicated but I can just take an excert from my old thread

Quote:

Heres how it connects to my life. To start Im 17 and never had a girlfriend, I don't know what luv feels like and Hell I haven't even had my first kiss yet (why is another story). Now there are ppl out there and even right here who get all this done and even jump into sex as early as preteens. This makes me feel really infeior because even if I do start Ill never be as good at it as them because their little brains got a head start and will always be ahead of me.
But Im not done yet. Earlier in my life I didnt have any extracurricular activities. Now I had a sort of 'Great Awakening' and I play the guitar and do Boxing. But Im starting to feel that it is all pointless because Ill never be as good as the ppl who started earlier than me.
I really don't want to be 2nd rate and I refuse to live like this, but theres no way I can fix it anymore.

My theorey is that is a new kind of negative self-image, something never seen before and not related to psycical appearance.

Just a note: From my personal experience, starting earlier DOES NOT mean that they'll be better than you. At all. Sometimes it's quite the opposite, actually.

At 17, you've still got plenty of time to live and experience things. Don't be in a hurry. I understand the panic. I'm turning 23 in a few months and I feel like I'm a complete failure because I don't have everything worked out yet, I'm not working in my dream career, I don't have a dog, and I'm really not even 100% sure what it is that I want. I have to keep reminding myself that, that's okay. I've still got time to figure all of that out.
Welcome to the thread. smile

Its not only that I wont be as good. But that the experiences themselves are better if you have them as a kid than as an adult.

[Master Orenis]

Silver-Mask

One doesn't care about the size of the arms that hug you,
The color of the lips that kiss you,
The look in the eyes that adore you,
The tone of the voice when said, 'I love you',

All that matters is that the love is there.

Inches and miles can't separate the bond of hearts.
Conflict can bring others closer, no matter how it starts.

Physique and looks are only the covers on books.
The heart and soul are the pages hooks.

No matter what you look like, or who you are
No matter where you live; near or far
If you come to us bearing pain or charms
Operation Beautiful welcomes you with open arms.

That is beautiful. Merry Christmas, y'all!