~Operation Beautiful~

What do you love the most about yourself?

My body	3.8%	[ 64 ]
My brain	16.3%	[ 274 ]
My personality	27.5%	[ 463 ]
Everything!	21.1%	[ 356 ]
Nothing	21.6%	[ 364 ]
Other	9.7%	[ 163 ]
Total Votes:			[ 1684 ]

[Starlurk]

NittleGrasper`

Interesting and cool idea! It kind of reminds me of all the quotes people post around my school... usually quotes from poems or what famous people said.

Oh cool! I wish people did that around my school. whee

[NREXM]

I don't think telling someone they are beautiful regardless of shape is appropriate for most people. If you have things you dislike about yourself then you should make an effort to change it rather than listen to all this positive reinforcement and do nothing for your body. If you have a pudgy stomach, do crunches, if you have love handles, go running. There is no reason to sugar coat something because there will always been those negative criticizing people to tear you down. The best solution is to eliminate the problem in a positive manner.

I feel EXCELLENT about my body, why? because I work out every single day and take care of myself so that I'm in the shape I'm in. I worked hard and it's something I'm proud of. I think more people should do the same besides accept the fact that they are beautiful and they no longer need to work harder. It's like telling an employee that they work hard when they really don't just to give them self esteem. Nothing gets accomplished.

[Rain Eris]

I only saw this today, while I'm taking a day off school, and now I've got five peices of paper infront of me that have things like 'You're beautiful! Don't change a thing!' and 'Don't worry, you look gorgeous!'. I'm intending on putting them up in every bathroom in our school, plus I'm takine two more peices of paper, cutting them up smaller and I intend on leaving little notes everywhere.

=3 Hooray for making others smile.

[Starlurk]

Shiori Miko

LadyEladrin

Quote:

To bring this back to the topic at hand, if the whole point of this project is to promote self-esteem through making people recognize their inner beauty, why do the notes (mentioned on this thread, I haven't been to the website and I want you to answer questions here for the rest of the people who will read this thread) all seem to deal with physical beauty? How about a note that says something like "Take care of yourself, you're worth it."
I think that's pretty freaking encouraging, and it doesn't give anyone the idea that it's okay to be unhealthy, or that they need to be something that they're not.

This too is sacred

An excellent point. 3nodding However, I have to point out that in many cases, a person's health is out of their direct control. Stigmatizing those who are unhealthy, ostracizing them, guilting or shaming them, is absolutely not helpful. Someone who suffers from chronic pain thanks to fibromayalgia doesn't have any choice in whether or not they're in pain that day; it happens, all day, and it dramatically affects their ability to work, play, excersize, be with thier family and friends, sleep, everything. Saying "Boo! You're unhealthy! Do something about it!" doesn't help. Saying "Hey, I think you rock just the way you are" is much better.

As for the comment about obese people and anorexics, two very different issues. Obese people can be fat for many varied reasons; genetics, medication, injury or disability, a sedentary lifestyle, poor diet, low self-esteem, previous attempts at dieting and yo-yo-dieting. An obese person is not obese by choice; there are a wide variety of sizes and shapes in this world, and heavy people are one of them. The average person in North America is fat, but fat doesnt' automatically mean unhealthy. Please visit my thread: Fat Acceptance and Health at EVERY size for more info on being fat and healthy, and liking you for who you are and not for what the scale might say someday.

An anorexic is anorexic because they are mentally ill and literally incapable of seeing the reality of their size. Anorexics DIE because they are too thin. Anorexics, maybe more than anyone, need their confidence and self-esteem aided by positive comments, but not about their size or looks. That just feeds their problem (no pun intended). If you suspect someone is anorexic or bulemic, please get them help.

love as thou wilt

Hi, I have a chronic incurable autoimmune disease. I would rather see "Take care of yourself! You're worth it!" than "You're beautiful!" You really need to stop with the "People can't help being unhealthy" thing because they're talking about a seperate issue. True, some can't help being unhealthy but that doesn't mean we shouldn't take care of ourselves.

They're talking about health issues that people that people have done to themself. Not things out of their control. I have a disease that it out of anyone's control, but I still take care of my body.

And some skinny people are not skinny by choice either. So stop using the double standard.

This project is for inner and outer beauty. If you don't want to see sticky notes that say "You're beautiful!" (which is really supposed to be for the inside and outside) then you could take your own initiative and post sticky notes that DO say "You're worth it!"

Most of the sticky notes I post say "Smile, you're beautiful!" and "You deserve to love yourself!"

[Starlurk]

Jade_Butterfly13

I only saw this today, while I'm taking a day off school, and now I've got five peices of paper infront of me that have things like 'You're beautiful! Don't change a thing!' and 'Don't worry, you look gorgeous!'. I'm intending on putting them up in every bathroom in our school, plus I'm takine two more peices of paper, cutting them up smaller and I intend on leaving little notes everywhere.

=3 Hooray for making others smile.

That's awesome! I hope you have a lot of fun doing that! Please come back and tell us all about your adventures. whee

[Starlurk]

NREXM

I don't think telling someone they are beautiful regardless of shape is appropriate for most people. If you have things you dislike about yourself then you should make an effort to change it rather than listen to all this positive reinforcement and do nothing for your body. If you have a pudgy stomach, do crunches, if you have love handles, go running. There is no reason to sugar coat something because there will always been those negative criticizing people to tear you down. The best solution is to eliminate the problem in a positive manner.

I feel EXCELLENT about my body, why? because I work out every single day and take care of myself so that I'm in the shape I'm in. I worked hard and it's something I'm proud of. I think more people should do the same besides accept the fact that they are beautiful and they no longer need to work harder. It's like telling an employee that they work hard when they really don't just to give them self esteem. Nothing gets accomplished.

There are more important things out there than looking good physically. Especially since everyone has different tastes. Some people might not find you as attractive as you find yourself, and frankly, you shouldn't care if they do. It's great that you feel great about your physical appearance, but you deserve to feel good about your inner-self too.

Everyone deserves to feel good about their outer and inner beauty.

[Rain Eris]

AAAND, hey.

I'm not one for saying we should sit here, telling people they are beautiful all the time.

BUT every now and then? It is just a sweet little reminder. A day-lifterer-upperer. ...I'm an idiot. xD


They'll eventually realise it themselves, or they won't. Some people will remain the way they are and become confident, some will not change and just be unconfident, and some will make the effort to change.

[Starlurk]

Jade_Butterfly13

AAAND, hey.

I'm not one for saying we should sit here, telling people they are beautiful all the time.

BUT every now and then? It is just a sweet little reminder. A day-lifterer-upperer. ...I'm an idiot. xD


They'll eventually realise it themselves, or they won't. Some people will remain the way they are and become confident, some will not change and just be unconfident, and some will make the effort to change.

Exactly. heart

[Rain Eris]

It's funny because I'm covering my mother's mirror in them as well.
>W>; Nurrhurr, she'll NEVER know it was me.
>DDD

[Starlurk]

Jade_Butterfly13

It's funny because I'm covering my mother's mirror in them as well.
>W>; Nurrhurr, she'll NEVER know it was me.
>DDD

They'll probably make her feel good to see! heart

[percocet princess]

Starlurk

percocet princess

seriously. just as whites want to be tan, it only makes sense that dark skinned people would want to be lighter. one, because of the stigma, and two, because people want what they don't have.

The stigma is what we want to fight. wink

why aren't you fighting the stigma of tanning as well? or are you? you should post a link, if you are.

[GogglesGirl]

So I got a bunch of people at my school to help out with Operation Beautiful. biggrin We're starting tomorrow.

[Starlurk]

percocet princess

Starlurk

percocet princess

seriously. just as whites want to be tan, it only makes sense that dark skinned people would want to be lighter. one, because of the stigma, and two, because people want what they don't have.

The stigma is what we want to fight. wink

why aren't you fighting the stigma of tanning as well? or are you? you should post a link, if you are.

I would like to but so far I have no link. Would you like to provide one?

[pigeonsoup]

oh hi i dont think i've posted here before.

one time i hand wrote a bunch of sticky notes that said "i'm awesome" or something like that on them and went around sticking them on random people i knew, saying "hey you know i think you're awesome so here ya go."
and it made a lot of people smile. i found a few of them on the ground later but for the most part everybody i gave them to seemed to appreciate it.
i don't know how much that counts for operation beautiful but i'm sure it counts when it comes down to people feeling good about themselves.

i used to hate myself. blah. but over the last year or so i managed to learn to accept the things i don't like about myself and stop hating myself. i think the change happened because i started trying to help other people feel good about themselves. i guess i find love for myself in my love for helping others, if that makes sense.

...anyways hi. whee

[Starlurk]

GogglesGirl

So I got a bunch of people at my school to help out with Operation Beautiful. biggrin We're starting tomorrow.

Wow that's so cool! Please come back and tell us all about it! heart