~Operation Beautiful~

What do you love the most about yourself?

My body	3.8%	[ 64 ]
My brain	16.3%	[ 274 ]
My personality	27.5%	[ 463 ]
Everything!	21.1%	[ 356 ]
Nothing	21.6%	[ 364 ]
Other	9.7%	[ 163 ]
Total Votes:			[ 1684 ]

[pigeonsoup]

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Beauty to me boils down to the person as a whole, inside and out. A "hot" person with a rotten personality is not beautiful to me. And a fat ugly person with a great personality is beautiful on the inside, but not necessarily on the outside. For me, a person has to be at least "okay" looking for me to consider them beautiful "as a whole."

Beauty CAN be found in ugly people, but a lot of ugly people are so insecure that they wash away the beauty that could have existed within them.

I'm relatively "average" looking, so when I lack in confidence I am unattractive to people, and when I am confident they see me as more attractive, maybe even "hot" on a good day.

Average was an understatement. I'm weird. I'm 5'3" and 100 lbs. Short men don't make it far in terms of visual appeal. My looks really don't do a lot for me:



If anyone calls me hot it's only because my personality enhances a very average plain appearance.

you have some great points. we don't WANT people to be insecure. that's what we're trying to change here.
And hey, plenty of girls prefer short guys. I'm 5'1" so I kind of prefer not to have a guy tower over me.
Btw, I like your nose. Is that weird? Nahhh. I do like your nose.

[pigeonsoup]

No 44 Lucifer Morningstar

laurenwithoutsound

Well then, our goal is self-acceptance for people who find it hard to love appreciate themselves.

Which is all well and good, I just found mixing beauty into the subject made the topic unclear. Especially since more than half of the OP was about fat talk.

thank you, yes, appreciate. words, i have them.
I guess beautiful is just how every girl wants to feel, and that feeling will make them appreciate themselves more. Unfortunately guys don't really want to feel "beautiful" per se. I didn't name the operation, I just support it.

[Syndactyly]

laurenwithoutsound

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Beauty to me boils down to the person as a whole, inside and out. A "hot" person with a rotten personality is not beautiful to me. And a fat ugly person with a great personality is beautiful on the inside, but not necessarily on the outside. For me, a person has to be at least "okay" looking for me to consider them beautiful "as a whole."

Beauty CAN be found in ugly people, but a lot of ugly people are so insecure that they wash away the beauty that could have existed within them.

I'm relatively "average" looking, so when I lack in confidence I am unattractive to people, and when I am confident they see me as more attractive, maybe even "hot" on a good day.

Average was an understatement. I'm weird. I'm 5'3" and 100 lbs. Short men don't make it far in terms of visual appeal. My looks really don't do a lot for me:



If anyone calls me hot it's only because my personality enhances a very average plain appearance.

you have some great points. we don't WANT people to be insecure. that's what we're trying to change here.
And hey, plenty of girls prefer short guys. I'm 5'1" so I kind of prefer not to have a guy tower over me.
Btw, I like your nose. Is that weird? Nahhh. I do like your nose.

That's certainly a good idea. I think this is a great movement but I just don't know how effective it really is. You know? It's so anonymous and indirect.
I wish more girls were shorter than me (or that I was taller). I haven't met ONE girl who's comfortable dating a guy shorter than her. My ex was 5'8", she obviously dated me and stuff but it made her uncomfortable, so much that she didn't really want us to "look like a couple" in public. That was a real kick in the stomach, but I understand why she was uncomfortable.
My nose is okay. That's a rather flattering angle for my nose, lol.

[Syndactyly]

laurenwithoutsound

No 44 Lucifer Morningstar

laurenwithoutsound

Well then, our goal is self-acceptance for people who find it hard to love appreciate themselves.

Which is all well and good, I just found mixing beauty into the subject made the topic unclear. Especially since more than half of the OP was about fat talk.

thank you, yes, appreciate. words, i have them.
I guess beautiful is just how every girl wants to feel, and that feeling will make them appreciate themselves more. Unfortunately guys don't really want to feel "beautiful" per se. I didn't name the operation, I just support it.

Yeah. Actually, I'm tired of being "cute" and "adorable." The complements I like to hear the most are handsome, hot, and sexy. Beautiful is also nice though. It shows that a person can see my sensitive side.

[Kiss Me Im English]

laurenwithoutsound

thank you, yes, appreciate. words, i have them.
I guess beautiful is just how every girl wants to feel, and that feeling will make them appreciate themselves more. Unfortunately guys don't really want to feel "beautiful" per se. I didn't name the operation, I just support it.

I never really understood why people need positive attention on their appearance to achieve happiness (Which in practice, is what this operation supports). It doesn't really help overcome natural human prejudices, which are the real problem when it comes to aesthetics. That's something humanity won't overcome for a good few centuries, and it won't be natural. I'm fine with being average looking, I would even be if I were ugly.

[pigeonsoup]

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laurenwithoutsound

Syndactyly

Beauty to me boils down to the person as a whole, inside and out. A "hot" person with a rotten personality is not beautiful to me. And a fat ugly person with a great personality is beautiful on the inside, but not necessarily on the outside. For me, a person has to be at least "okay" looking for me to consider them beautiful "as a whole."

Beauty CAN be found in ugly people, but a lot of ugly people are so insecure that they wash away the beauty that could have existed within them.

I'm relatively "average" looking, so when I lack in confidence I am unattractive to people, and when I am confident they see me as more attractive, maybe even "hot" on a good day.

Average was an understatement. I'm weird. I'm 5'3" and 100 lbs. Short men don't make it far in terms of visual appeal. My looks really don't do a lot for me:



If anyone calls me hot it's only because my personality enhances a very average plain appearance.

you have some great points. we don't WANT people to be insecure. that's what we're trying to change here.
And hey, plenty of girls prefer short guys. I'm 5'1" so I kind of prefer not to have a guy tower over me.
Btw, I like your nose. Is that weird? Nahhh. I do like your nose.

That's certainly a good idea. I think this is a great movement but I just don't know how effective it really is. You know? It's so anonymous and indirect.
I wish more girls were shorter than me (or that I was taller). I haven't met ONE girl who's comfortable dating a guy shorter than her. My ex was 5'8", she obviously dated me and stuff but it made her uncomfortable, so much that she didn't really want us to "look like a couple" in public. That was a real kick in the stomach, but I understand why she was uncomfortable.
My nose is okay. That's a rather flattering angle for my nose, lol.

aww. well we must be doing something right if we're getting such awful trolls whee
and how rude of her. i think that any time someone thinks you should try not to look like a couple in public, something is definitely not right with the relationship. no offense.

[Syndactyly]

laurenwithoutsound

and how rude of her. i think that any time someone thinks you should try not to look like a couple in public, something is definitely not right with the relationship. no offense.

Well, yeah. That's one of the reasons we broke up. She said she didn't want to "make a big deal" out of us dating. I was like, "You don't want to make any deal. Why does it have to be a secret?" She'd get weird if I tried to hold hands with her in public or something. She was totally okay with it on the car ride home from San Francisco though. She held my hand for like an hour.

[pigeonsoup]

No 44 Lucifer Morningstar

laurenwithoutsound

thank you, yes, appreciate. words, i have them.
I guess beautiful is just how every girl wants to feel, and that feeling will make them appreciate themselves more. Unfortunately guys don't really want to feel "beautiful" per se. I didn't name the operation, I just support it.

I never really understood why people need positive attention on their appearance to achieve happiness (Which in practice, is what this operation supports). It doesn't really help overcome natural human prejudices, which are the real problem when it comes to aesthetics. That's something humanity won't overcome for a good few centuries, and it won't be natural. I'm fine with being average looking, I would even be if I were ugly.

I don't really know why people need to feel that they look good to achieve happiness, but I guess that's just how it tends to work.
If we can make people happy with themselves, no matter what they look like, then maybe it can be baby steps towards helping people appreciate other people the way they are, just the same way they appreciate themselves. If that makes sense.
It's all a bunch of hope and maybe if won't work at all, but we'd like to at least say we tried.

[pigeonsoup]

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laurenwithoutsound

and how rude of her. i think that any time someone thinks you should try not to look like a couple in public, something is definitely not right with the relationship. no offense.

Well, yeah. That's one of the reasons we broke up. She said she didn't want to "make a big deal" out of us dating. I was like, "You don't want to make any deal. Why does it have to be a secret?" She'd get weird if I tried to hold hands with her in public or something. She was totally okay with it on the car ride home from San Francisco though. She held my hand for like an hour.

messed up. Why would she even care what people think in a place where she'll never even see those people again? and in san fran, of all the accepting, diverse places in california. stare

[Kiss Me Im English]

laurenwithoutsound

I don't really know why people need to feel that they look good to achieve happiness, but I guess that's just how it tends to work.
If we can make people happy with themselves, no matter what they look like, then maybe it can be baby steps towards helping people appreciate other people the way they are, just the same way they appreciate themselves. If that makes sense.
It's all a bunch of hope and maybe if won't work at all, but we'd like to at least say we tried.

Being happy with yourself usually doesn't lead to being nice to other people. There's too many genetic and environmental variables to take into account. I'd rather live my life making myself happy, not other people. Atleast then I can die knowing I didn't waste a second on false dreams.

[Syndactyly]

Usually the people who don't know why people want to be beautiful... are hot. They're like, "Oh, I get called hot all the time, it's overrated." Oh hellz not it ain't. Getting called ugly is the worst. Being single for years at a time, only getting asked out by creepy fat chicks who like Edward Cullen... or 14 year old girls who think you're their night in shining armor or something... Or like, you get rejected by the depressed gay kid who says no one wants to date him, and you stand right in front of him and say you would, and he's still like, "BAWWW NOBODY LEIKS ME," and s**t... Dude, seriously, I'd rather be BEAUTIFUL.

[pigeonsoup]

No 44 Lucifer Morningstar

laurenwithoutsound

I don't really know why people need to feel that they look good to achieve happiness, but I guess that's just how it tends to work.
If we can make people happy with themselves, no matter what they look like, then maybe it can be baby steps towards helping people appreciate other people the way they are, just the same way they appreciate themselves. If that makes sense.
It's all a bunch of hope and maybe if won't work at all, but we'd like to at least say we tried.

Being happy with yourself usually doesn't lead to being nice to other people. There's too many genetic and environmental variables to take into account. I'd rather live my life making myself happy, not other people. Atleast then I can die knowing I didn't waste a second on false dreams.

Well, learning to accept yourself can be a step to learning to accept others. That's just my opinion on the matter though.
And I'd like to die knowing I tried to help others as much as I can. Personally I enjoy making people happy.

[Syndactyly]

laurenwithoutsound

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laurenwithoutsound

and how rude of her. i think that any time someone thinks you should try not to look like a couple in public, something is definitely not right with the relationship. no offense.

Well, yeah. That's one of the reasons we broke up. She said she didn't want to "make a big deal" out of us dating. I was like, "You don't want to make any deal. Why does it have to be a secret?" She'd get weird if I tried to hold hands with her in public or something. She was totally okay with it on the car ride home from San Francisco though. She held my hand for like an hour.

messed up. Why would she even care what people think in a place where she'll never even see those people again? and in san fran, of all the accepting, diverse places in california. stare

Yeah. I shared a p***s cookie with my friend Lindsey (he's a guy, his name's misleading) and people thought he was my boyfriend. Ironically enough I really wanted to be with HIM but he had a girlfriend at the time.

[Starlurk]

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Starlurk

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You want people to appreciate themselves by littering? Sticky notes are just a mess.

I understand the intent of this movement. It's really a good goal, I think you're headed in a good direction here, but a different technique should be used, in my opinion.

Most sticky notes are posted in a small closed in area, like a bathroom, where they can easily be plucked off the mirror and thrown away.

Sure there are probably better techniques, I like to spread "sticky-note" like pictures on Gaia. And we're always open to more ideas on how to do it. Some people like to just plain tape a paper onto a bulletin board. We don't advocate actual graffiti (which some people have done, OB doesn't advocate it either.) Sticky notes are easy to put up and easy to take down.

If you have other suggestions though we'll be happy to hear about them. 3nodding

The idea is interesting. For instance, I was part of an LGBT support group. I would carry the business cards, and stick them to every board in the city (a lot of stores had boards where you could stick business cards). So I can kind of get the mentality of spreading a positive message (or in my case, resource).

I think that more direct methods might be better. Like holding events, panels, or writing material. Maybe inspirational YouTube videos.

Well this is just a board based off of the blog. None of us actually work on the blog or anything. I do know that the blog has made videos and will probably start hosting events and things like that. 3nodding

[pigeonsoup]

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Usually the people who don't know why people want to be beautiful... are hot. They're like, "Oh, I get called hot all the time, it's overrated." Oh hellz not it ain't. Getting called ugly is the worst. Being single for years at a time, only getting asked out by creepy fat chicks who like Edward Cullen... or 14 year old girls who think you're their night in shining armor or something... Or like, you get rejected by the depressed gay kid who says no one wants to date him, and you stand right in front of him and say you would, and he's still like, "BAWWW NOBODY LEIKS ME," and s**t... Dude, seriously, I'd rather be BEAUTIFUL.

Oh man. I know how that is. Most of my life, all I seemed to attract were complete weirdos, this one guy even tried to stab his mom, and bragged to me about it. Like, what? Really? stare
And yes, getting called ugly hurts a lot. I get called ugly a lot. I don't even know why, I mean, I know I'm not SMOKIN HOT or anything, but I'm not horrid.