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Do you agree to the new rules of this thread and promise to uphold them if we are moved back? (Read first post, first page)

I agree.	67.0%	[ 260 ]
I disagree.	6.2%	[ 24 ]
I don't want to read them.	8.0%	[ 31 ]
Who cares?	2.6%	[ 10 ]
Gold.	16.2%	[ 63 ]
Total Votes:			[ 388 ]

[Breayue]

The Viscount

I assure you, I have just as much of a need to remove my chesticles as the next transguy.

I don't see my fiance as controlling my body, to be honest. He's never said that I couldn't get a mastectomy. He's never gotten angry or aggressive or said anything about him not wanting me to transition. He genuinely wants me to be happy. He may have a lot of reservations, and be may not truly want me to transition, but that's not going to stop me from continuing to love him and want to be with him as long as he wants to stay. He's never made a move to stop me, and he's actually helped me with my transition. (Driving me to doctors, listening to me when I need to talk. He's not *always* helpful, but still.) I think it works differently in our situation because of how I feel about my body.

While I absolutely do want my chest fixed, they're small and sensitive, and mentally I don't think of them as boobs. (as long as I don't look at them too much) I play with my fiance's chest region all the time, and he's not bothered by it. It's not as if I could get them removed right now - so I've decided to just enjoy them for what they do provide - a bit of pleasure. I would definitely trade that pleasure in for them to be flat - but like I said, at the moment there's nothing I can do.

It's rather the same with my lower parts. I've stopped thinking about them as gendered parts. I have the phantom p***s sensation like yourself Dan, and even in dreams I have male parts. Maybe it's a bit of delusion on my part but I live with it. Maybe if the surgery was cheap and the outcome was realistic, I might think about bottom surgery. But not like it is now! I'm as content with my lower regions as a transmale can be, basically. And I pay attention to the sensations and the feelings when those parts are touched, and not to what they look like.

Of course, I never said that he was going to stay with me throughout this journey. I really don't know if he will or not. But who can say what relationship will last and what wont? However, I personally have put my entire life and soul into this relationship, and so there are very few things that would be a "deal-breaker" for us. I'm not going anywhere. I've told him - it's up to him if he wants to stay with me. And so far he has. We go through bad periods, but we always seem to get through it. And I believe I could live and move on if he did decide to leave, because I've prepared myself for it.

I think this is what I meant by compromise.

Also sorry I haven't been posting or on Gaia much. T__T Soooo much drama lately, trying to get my lease renewed, having toothache, cleaning the house, looking for work, ectect

<3 you've done it again Viscount, lol.

Transistioning is still a new discussion between my fiance and I. All month we've been scatterbrained on other things, and have yet to get everything out on the table about the subject. He's fine with my masculine personality, and enjoys it during some...-cough- certain festivities. Haha

He's been extremly supportive with everything else. We've gone through hell and high water since we started going out so there's not many things that could break what we have. Perhaps someday we will part ways for this reason or another, that doesn't stop us for putting as much effort as we can into our relatioship. I always leave the door open for him if he wants to leave.

For now, I would like to try binding methods and start doing some workouts that will help sculpt my body to look more masculine. I'm looking at different binding methods and wondering which would be more effective for someone who is as busty as me.

It's rare, but I experience a phantom p***s. I have a few other phantom limbs going on so I hardly notice whats going on down there (ears, tail, muzzle, paws, even hackles)

[Breayue]

It took a long time to pick a guy name to use if I were to change my name...When I created this account I took two different names and combined them together, thus Breayue. Some people on here call me Brea or Bre. When I seen Bre, the name Brennan popped in my head and I love the shortened version Brenn. I later looked up the name's meaning which is Tear/Sorrow. A long time ago I made a email address called deludedryu (deludedDRAGON). I chose Ryu for a middle name.

Brennan Ryu

It has such a nice ring to it. My folks wanted to name me Jacob Raymond if I were a boy. Infact, up until my birth, the doctors and my folks believed I was a boy. They bought a bunch little boy cloths and painted my room blue. My mother had get cut open because I breeched and when the doctor brought me out my Dad told him to put me back because I wasn't done yet, lol. Personally I don't like the name Jacob. I used to love the name Allan but it never felt like it could be my name...

I strongly dislike my birthname[Chelsea].

Welcome to the thread Beermetoo :]
Interesting standpoint, I have yet to put much thought into that.

[Untamed Heart Beat]

Beermetoo

hey everyone first time posting in here
not trans
2 of my exes are MtF

i voted and said id explain my views so here ya go
i do not think it should be part of GLB
when i was with my exes i never thought of them as anything except the ladies they were
i never thought she was bi or that i was bi/gay for liking her
its just who she is
i think trans people are just normal straight people that more of us need to accept

that is a reassuring view. a few of my exes were MtF, and one of my exes was FtM. My ultimate lover, my fiance, he was an FtM, and i nver thought of him as a girl, he was always a man to me. I think its awesome you were willing to explain this to us. Welcome to the thread, feel free to stay and chat, if you have any insight, feel free to give it

[Beermetoo]

Mosaic of Broken Hearts

Beermetoo

hey everyone first time posting in here
not trans
2 of my exes are MtF

i voted and said id explain my views so here ya go
i do not think it should be part of GLB
when i was with my exes i never thought of them as anything except the ladies they were
i never thought she was bi or that i was bi/gay for liking her
its just who she is
i think trans people are just normal straight people that more of us need to accept

that is a reassuring view. a few of my exes were MtF, and one of my exes was FtM. My ultimate lover, my fiance, he was an FtM, and i nver thought of him as a girl, he was always a man to me. I think its awesome you were willing to explain this to us. Welcome to the thread, feel free to stay and chat, if you have any insight, feel free to give it

thats how it was with my ex i was living with
best relationship i had best sex i had was with her
ive had girlfriends since but none of them measured up sexually to that haha

[Untamed Heart Beat]

Beermetoo

Mosaic of Broken Hearts

Beermetoo

hey everyone first time posting in here
not trans
2 of my exes are MtF

i voted and said id explain my views so here ya go
i do not think it should be part of GLB
when i was with my exes i never thought of them as anything except the ladies they were
i never thought she was bi or that i was bi/gay for liking her
its just who she is
i think trans people are just normal straight people that more of us need to accept

that is a reassuring view. a few of my exes were MtF, and one of my exes was FtM. My ultimate lover, my fiance, he was an FtM, and i nver thought of him as a girl, he was always a man to me. I think its awesome you were willing to explain this to us. Welcome to the thread, feel free to stay and chat, if you have any insight, feel free to give it

thats how it was with my ex i was living with
best relationship i had best sex i had was with her
ive had girlfriends since but none of them measured up sexually to that haha

I am not a very sexual person, but i also believe that your dedication and love for that person influenced the sex. When i was with James, before he killed himself, i use to let him wear his packer, and when sex came, we went and picked out things that could help him feel more masculine, and i remember the first night i decided to have sex, first time ever, it was amazing. Since he died, the thought of sex now, just kinda grosses me out, with a man or a woman.

[Beermetoo]

what the hell is a packer?
my ex was mTf so im not familiar with much fTm stuff

[Untamed Heart Beat]

Orjix

Beermetoo

what the hell is a packer?
my ex was mTf so im not familiar with much fTm stuff

I know this isn't enough
I still don't measure up

Here ya go.

And I'm not prepared
Sorry is never there when you need it

And now I do want you to know I hold you up above everyone
And I do want you to know I think you'd be good to me
And I'd be so good to you...

Thank you Q i wasnt sure how to explain it, and i was online looking for the best explanation.

[The Viscount]

Orjix

I know this isn't enough
I still don't measure up

*flails*
So the packer I ordered came in the mail on friday (And just in time, we moved out yesterday XD ) and I have been wearing it pretty much non-stop. For the Sim fans in here, it was like, lifetime want achieved, +25,000 points. Keh.
Hmm, so I am staying at my boyfriend's house for the week until my flight out to my new house, and I was really nervous about wearing it around him. >.< I was afraid he was going to get weirded out or something. He knew I had it and he knows my feelings on wanting a "r33l p3n1s" and he is supportive of me, but I still get scared whenever I take the next step in trasitioning.
He always suprises me on just how supportive he is. I feel so lucky to have a boyfriend like him...<3

And I'm not prepared
Sorry is never there when you need it

And now I do want you to know I hold you up above everyone
And I do want you to know I think you'd be good to me
And I'd be so good to you...

xD Lawls! I can just imagine a little 'plus bar' appearing above your head, and a moodlet floating around. xD Darn the Sims, that game is really bad about getting into your head!

I'm glad your boy is supportive. There should be a holiday devoted entirely to transpeoples partners, because they can be so awesome. It is kind of nerve-wracking wearing a packer around your guy at first .. I tend to wear mine whenever I have a strong bit of dysphoria, but I think my fiance is getting better at not getting weirded out. I think my favorite thing is cuddling up in bed with him, while wearing it. (It feels so natural and comfortable. :B )

Breayue

<3 you've done it again Viscount, lol.

Transistioning is still a new discussion between my fiance and I. All month we've been scatterbrained on other things, and have yet to get everything out on the table about the subject. He's fine with my masculine personality, and enjoys it during some...-cough- certain festivities. Haha

He's been extremely supportive with everything else. We've gone through hell and high water since we started going out so there's not many things that could break what we have. Perhaps someday we will part ways for this reason or another, that doesn't stop us for putting as much effort as we can into our relationship. I always leave the door open for him if he wants to leave.

For now, I would like to try binding methods and start doing some workouts that will help sculpt my body to look more masculine. I'm looking at different binding methods and wondering which would be more effective for someone who is as busty as me.

It's rare, but I experience a phantom p***s. I have a few other phantom limbs going on so I hardly notice whats going on down there (ears, tail, muzzle, paws, even hackles)

Ah thanks xD!

It was like that when I first started to try and talk to my fiance about it .. lots and lots of things going on (I guess this is still the case!) and it's hard to find the right time to really sit down and talk about it.

Yeah, this is definitely similar to how we handle our situation .. I mean, I know most of the time that relationships don't last through a transition. However, I don't feel like I should have to resign myself to a statistic. (nor should anyone, I think.) It's difficult, but I want to be able to look back and say 'I gave it my all, and I gave him a chance.' I mean a chance for him to try and adjust. It's a huge, huge change. It's difficult for everyone. If my mother wanted to transition tomorrow, I would have a hard time suddenly seeing her as "dad." (It would be flat out bizarre at first!) So I have to give my fiance a chance to adjust. It might be a long process, and it might not work out in the end, but at least we tried. :B

(I think I have phantom paws, too. But no tail .. I must be one of those bob-tailed cats! ) xD

[grasscutter]

Sorry I haven't really been online XP I went home from college for fall break and had limited computer access, and was just having an amazing time being home again. But I'm back at college with my laptop so hiya!

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The Viscount

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@ The Viscount: I saw someone in the forums today who's having a baby soon. She's naming him Aiden Gavin. You go by Gavin, right? Just thought it was cool since it's a pretty unique name. Sorry if it's not you, lol, I'm pretty sure someone on here goes by Gavin.

My name's boring, I picked Daniel and I go by Dan. Some of my good friends call me Danny Boy. heart But that's about as interesting as it gets. Still haven't decided on my middle name... :/ I've been tossing around

Daniel Gregory
Daniel James
Daniel Edward
Daniel Lee

I think those are the top middle names... It's tough, really. D:< I've also considered changing my last name, but I'm not sure what I want yet if I decide to do that.

Whoa, that's kind of weird, because Aidan was my other choice for a name! xD (I've loved that name since forever, I don't know why.) The main reason I decided on Gavin instead of Aidan was that it seemed like half the transguys I know are named that. XD!

I like the sound of "Daniel James", it definitely has a nice flow to it. (Lee is also good!)

I like Aidan, too. But it's way too ******** common. Every third transguy and his puppy is named Aidan/Ayden/Aiden. gonk I am the only transguy I know personally named Dan. I have met one other FtM Dan online.

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Sephroe Zion

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Sephroe Zion

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@ The Viscount: I saw someone in the forums today who's having a baby soon. She's naming him Aiden Gavin. You go by Gavin, right? Just thought it was cool since it's a pretty unique name. Sorry if it's not you, lol, I'm pretty sure someone on here goes by Gavin.

My name's boring, I picked Daniel and I go by Dan. Some of my good friends call me Danny Boy. heart But that's about as interesting as it gets. Still haven't decided on my middle name... :/ I've been tossing around

Daniel Gregory
Daniel James
Daniel Edward
Daniel Lee

I think those are the top middle names... It's tough, really. D:< I've also considered changing my last name, but I'm not sure what I want yet if I decide to do that.

Name change took me 2 years to figure out and probably 3 total to finalize if not more. Middle name was the hardest for me too!

Danny Boy is great though, and the affirmation is rather nice to have too! Would you like for me to call you that?

Yeah, the middle is just hard...
I was set on Daniel Gregory for a long time, then one time when my mom was mad she told me to stop naming myself after actors/fictional characters. When I came out, I was obsessed with Dan Aykroyd's older films (Ghostbusters, The Blues Brothers, etc). So when I wanted to be called Dan she assumed I was transitioning so I could be "just like my hero." That was not it at all, I just really like the name Daniel. It's totally a coincidence that Dan Aykroyd has that name.

I'm also a big fan of House M.D., and anyone who watches that show knows the main character is Dr. Gregory House. He DEFINITELY was an inspiration for my middle name. But I know parents name their kids after actors/characters all the time, I honestly didn't see the big deal.

I also liked Daniel Edward. Edward is my uncle's name, I also have a friend named Edward who goes by Adam (his middle name). Well, upon a little research I found out that Dan Aykroyd's full name is Daniel Edward Aykroyd. So I've been really hesistant.

I like the name James a lot. I have a friend named James who's FtM. Also my other uncle's name is James, but he goes by Jim. It's a nice strong, masculine name. It sounds good.

Daniel Lee just sounds nice... It's safe to say Lee was inspired by Lee Adama from Battlestar Galactica, his character changed my views on the name Lee. Before I had always seen Lee as an Asian American name, that it would be stupid for a white kid to be named Lee. That was totally ignorant and stupid of me. I've grown to like it.

My original first name I chose was Jason. But I didn't keep it because Jason was a boy I made up and I'd pretend to be him before I knew I was trans. He was like, a whole different person. I felt like becoming Jason would not be true to myself. Jason was who I wanted to be, not who I actually was. We also have a close family friend named Jason, I've known him my whole life and I don't want anyone to think I named myself after him, that would be extremely awkward for my parents. I'd like to avoid that problem. I've been going by Dan for over a year, so I really don't think I want to change it at this point.

Hahaha, honestly, I love being called Danny Boy, it's very affirming. Plus, with the people who were calling me that it was playful/flirty, which I also liked (not that they were into me, they weren't, but it was nice anyway).

How bias, everyone is always naming themselves and children after famouse people or well known people. In fact if you named your kid anyone famous who really exisited by default they'd all assume you named them after that person. Einstein, Hitler, Jesus, Joseph etc...

I named myself after Rem Saverem from Trigun, a Japanaese cartoon, it's not 'who' or 'what' that is important when inspiring a name. It's the why. The reason why I named myself after Rem was very important to me.

Yeah. I mean, it's hard to say, really. Part of me used Dan Aykroyd as my inspirtation but I also genuinely like the name. At a spiritual gathering I went to a couple nights ago a man called me "God's Judge," that's one of the meanings of the name. It also is "Judged by God," or "God's Judgement." Now, I am not religious. In my own interpretation "God" is the universe, is reality, is everything. I don't consider it some hocus-pocus.

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Breayue

The Viscount

I assure you, I have just as much of a need to remove my chesticles as the next transguy.

I don't see my fiance as controlling my body, to be honest. He's never said that I couldn't get a mastectomy. He's never gotten angry or aggressive or said anything about him not wanting me to transition. He genuinely wants me to be happy. He may have a lot of reservations, and be may not truly want me to transition, but that's not going to stop me from continuing to love him and want to be with him as long as he wants to stay. He's never made a move to stop me, and he's actually helped me with my transition. (Driving me to doctors, listening to me when I need to talk. He's not *always* helpful, but still.) I think it works differently in our situation because of how I feel about my body.

While I absolutely do want my chest fixed, they're small and sensitive, and mentally I don't think of them as boobs. (as long as I don't look at them too much) I play with my fiance's chest region all the time, and he's not bothered by it. It's not as if I could get them removed right now - so I've decided to just enjoy them for what they do provide - a bit of pleasure. I would definitely trade that pleasure in for them to be flat - but like I said, at the moment there's nothing I can do.

It's rather the same with my lower parts. I've stopped thinking about them as gendered parts. I have the phantom p***s sensation like yourself Dan, and even in dreams I have male parts. Maybe it's a bit of delusion on my part but I live with it. Maybe if the surgery was cheap and the outcome was realistic, I might think about bottom surgery. But not like it is now! I'm as content with my lower regions as a transmale can be, basically. And I pay attention to the sensations and the feelings when those parts are touched, and not to what they look like.

Of course, I never said that he was going to stay with me throughout this journey. I really don't know if he will or not. But who can say what relationship will last and what wont? However, I personally have put my entire life and soul into this relationship, and so there are very few things that would be a "deal-breaker" for us. I'm not going anywhere. I've told him - it's up to him if he wants to stay with me. And so far he has. We go through bad periods, but we always seem to get through it. And I believe I could live and move on if he did decide to leave, because I've prepared myself for it.

I think this is what I meant by compromise.

Also sorry I haven't been posting or on Gaia much. T__T Soooo much drama lately, trying to get my lease renewed, having toothache, cleaning the house, looking for work, ectect

<3 you've done it again Viscount, lol.

Transistioning is still a new discussion between my fiance and I. All month we've been scatterbrained on other things, and have yet to get everything out on the table about the subject. He's fine with my masculine personality, and enjoys it during some...-cough- certain festivities. Haha

He's been extremly supportive with everything else. We've gone through hell and high water since we started going out so there's not many things that could break what we have. Perhaps someday we will part ways for this reason or another, that doesn't stop us for putting as much effort as we can into our relatioship. I always leave the door open for him if he wants to leave.

For now, I would like to try binding methods and start doing some workouts that will help sculpt my body to look more masculine. I'm looking at different binding methods and wondering which would be more effective for someone who is as busty as me.

It's rare, but I experience a phantom p***s. I have a few other phantom limbs going on so I hardly notice whats going on down there (ears, tail, muzzle, paws, even hackles)

That doesn't explain why either of you would put it off.

Viscount actually seems to be moving forward, though, and giving attention to his own needs. That's all I was really going on about. If you feel "pressured" not to do anything because your boyfriend "likes your boobs," there's a conflict of interest, and a part of him still sees you as a woman.

Just to add, if you have big breasts working out will build muscle underneath them and sometimes make them appear even larger. People who "burn off" their boobs like Olympic swimmers did not have large breasts to begin with.

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Beermetoo

Mosaic of Broken Hearts

Beermetoo

hey everyone first time posting in here
not trans
2 of my exes are MtF

i voted and said id explain my views so here ya go
i do not think it should be part of GLB
when i was with my exes i never thought of them as anything except the ladies they were
i never thought she was bi or that i was bi/gay for liking her
its just who she is
i think trans people are just normal straight people that more of us need to accept

that is a reassuring view. a few of my exes were MtF, and one of my exes was FtM. My ultimate lover, my fiance, he was an FtM, and i nver thought of him as a girl, he was always a man to me. I think its awesome you were willing to explain this to us. Welcome to the thread, feel free to stay and chat, if you have any insight, feel free to give it

thats how it was with my ex i was living with
best relationship i had best sex i had was with her
ive had girlfriends since but none of them measured up sexually to that haha

My ex is MtF. When I first started dating her, she presented herself as a boy, dressed like a boy, had a boy's name, but there was something always soft about her that I really liked. Then she up and changed her gender presentation in the middle of the relationship and became my girlfriend. It did not hurt the relationship at all, and in some ways brought us closer. But we had jealously issues over each other's bodies, it was extraordinarily difficult for both of us. We eventually had a mutual break up for reasons unrelated to the transition.