Transtastic! ||The Chat Thread||

Do you agree to the new rules of this thread and promise to uphold them if we are moved back? (Read first post, first page)

I agree.	67.0%	[ 260 ]
I disagree.	6.2%	[ 24 ]
I don't want to read them.	8.0%	[ 31 ]
Who cares?	2.6%	[ 10 ]
Gold.	16.2%	[ 63 ]
Total Votes:			[ 388 ]

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SuperElliot

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Oh, so, I'm kinda curious. I don't mean to be offensive at all; goodness knows I have nothing against transexuals/transgenders/whateverthetermsareIdon'tknow, having been in love with two in just 17 short years, but I've noticed that there are a /very/ large number of FTM trans on gaia. Like...about half of the guys on here. Can I ask why this is?

LOL!!

That's funny. I really don't know why that is. I know that Gaia attracts a lot of girls, it's a hella gay (gay as in rainbows and s**t, not gay as in stupid) website. Dollies? WTF? Seriously? Pssh...

Anyway, I can't really tell you why it attracts FtMs. I sometimes think Gaia TURNS people in to wanna-be FtMs, to be honest. I've met so many people who started out as "normal girls" here who got obsessed with yaoi and "became" boys because of the sexual thrill they get out of gay anime boys. It's usually a phase for them and doesn't really last...

My mom actually argued that Gaia turned me into an FtM, but I've had the feelings since long before Gaia and yaoi... >_____>;

-shudders- Oh, god, yaoi...it's...not the greatest subject with me. As a 5'2" gay male...I'm not too happy with the whole thing, especially the whole 'uke' nonsese. And the yaoi fangirls that scream it at me in the halls and don't seem to understand my completely loathing of it.

Omfg! I'm a 5'2" transman! Be my boyfriend lolz!

Naw, just kidding. Yeah, that whole stereotype bothers me, too... but I am kind of a bottom anyways. But seriously, they portray small guys as girly. Yeah, so I like it in the butt. That doesn't mean I'm a girl, and have uber huge anime eyes, and pink hair and s**t.

I like my yaoi couples to have a fairly equal power dynamic. I'm actually planning on starting a comic of my own, it will have a lot of elements, a little yaoi here and there, and the main couple is between two guys of fairly similar size and body type.

[Edana_Kellen]

SuperElliot

Oh, so, I'm kinda curious. I don't mean to be offensive at all; goodness knows I have nothing against transexuals/transgenders/whateverthetermsareIdon'tknow, having been in love with two in just 17 short years, but I've noticed that there are a /very/ large number of FTM trans on gaia. Like...about half of the guys on here. Can I ask why this is?

I don't think it's that, I've hardly met that many MtFs in my life, I met one on another site and he was kinda of a jerk to me and never returned my messages, but other than that I really haven't gotten to know any. It does seem like there's more FtMs than MtFs.

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DamenAJ

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Tuah

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What started this all?

He said he could never see me as a man, that I am androgynous.

He based that on my genitals. But "man" and "androgyne" are gendered terms. So pretty much he was forcing his perception of my gender on me. And that made me feel like s**t. So I disagreed, and I let everyone know how shitty it made me feel. He insists on proving to everybody that I'm not a man... >_>; That you are not a woman. I don't understand it.

I meant more in relation to Damen and his dysphoria.

Oh, geez.

I did explain it to Lupin (he also asked this question) but I deleted the PM and it's no longer in my outbox... *sigh* Well, I suppose I can try again. Damen was complaining about how he can never be happy with his current set, how he can never have sex without full surgery, etc. etc. And I interjected and tried to explain to him that he should stop wallowing in his pain and fighting it so much, but instead should accept his pain and address the cause. This led to a lot of emotinal responses from him, he never really did actually get my point, but he brought up a lot of stuff out of nowhere and I lost track of my original point so it just sort of escalated into an argument about other things entirely.

.... You never did tell me your definition of acceptance.... I don't understand what "accepting pain" is. I'm not going to get into it, but I'd just like to note, regardless of what your goal might have been, you were pretty offensive. Though the stuff you've been saying to Q, I agree with for the most part.

I told you several times, in several different ways. You're fighting the pain. You're bathing in it and letting it control your life. Accepting the pain gives you the chance to put it aside and address the real issue. Acceptance means you are no longer letting that pain control your life. You have told yourself, "I am not going to let this pain control me anymore" and meant it. You have told yourself, "I know I am in pain, but struggling and expressing my woes changes nothing."

Welp... Here's how I think about it, and this isn't getting all heated like last time. It's just me talking it out.

I'm doing everything I can to better my life, yeah, maybe I am fighting my pain, maybe I am. But I don't know how not to. I don't know how to cope very well either, I'm very repressed. If I'm trying and if I don't know how to stop fighting my pain, why can't I do both?

I repress a lot of my feelings. Lately I've been trying to be more expressive, so if I have to vent, have to sulk, have to hide sometimes... why can't I? What can I really do to change it, besides trying therapy and drugs?

Note: I'm more logical today, not overly likely to become a debate, I'm legit asking this time. Though I'm not inviting you to talk about my junk, or debate my sex/gender.

Also, the issue came up twice, and you were a jerk about it both times. It came up slightly different, but if it ended badly the first time, why'd you press it the second? I'm just trying to let you know, it's not an immature grudge. It's an issue where I don't think you're owning up to having been a jerk, and that just makes me like you that much less.

Well, that's the first step. Opening up. And yeah, it hurts. And yeah, it's hard. But it makes things better overall. Opening up, and looking at your true self, does not require therapy or drugs. It requires a lot of courage, courage that MOST people (trans or cis) don't have. Most people never really look at themselves. They never really go, "Wow, I'm a biological machine, a bag or organs, and living breathing creature" etc. etc. They just go on about their lives blindly thinking they are nothing but a soul in a vessel... They forget that vessel is part of them.

[Adassai]

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SuperElliot

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SuperElliot

Oh, so, I'm kinda curious. I don't mean to be offensive at all; goodness knows I have nothing against transexuals/transgenders/whateverthetermsareIdon'tknow, having been in love with two in just 17 short years, but I've noticed that there are a /very/ large number of FTM trans on gaia. Like...about half of the guys on here. Can I ask why this is?

LOL!!

That's funny. I really don't know why that is. I know that Gaia attracts a lot of girls, it's a hella gay (gay as in rainbows and s**t, not gay as in stupid) website. Dollies? WTF? Seriously? Pssh...

Anyway, I can't really tell you why it attracts FtMs. I sometimes think Gaia TURNS people in to wanna-be FtMs, to be honest. I've met so many people who started out as "normal girls" here who got obsessed with yaoi and "became" boys because of the sexual thrill they get out of gay anime boys. It's usually a phase for them and doesn't really last...

My mom actually argued that Gaia turned me into an FtM, but I've had the feelings since long before Gaia and yaoi... >_____>;

-shudders- Oh, god, yaoi...it's...not the greatest subject with me. As a 5'2" gay male...I'm not too happy with the whole thing, especially the whole 'uke' nonsese. And the yaoi fangirls that scream it at me in the halls and don't seem to understand my completely loathing of it.

Omfg! I'm a 5'2" transman! Be my boyfriend lolz!

Naw, just kidding. Yeah, that whole stereotype bothers me, too... but I am kind of a bottom anyways. But seriously, they portray small guys as girly. Yeah, so I like it in the butt. That doesn't mean I'm a girl, and have uber huge anime eyes, and pink hair and s**t.

I like my yaoi couples to have a fairly equal power dynamic. I'm actually planning on starting a comic of my own, it will have a lot of elements, a little yaoi here and there, and the main couple is between two guys of fairly similar size and body type.

XD See! it's easier for you if you like to bottom! I prefer to top, but try telling that to guys well over a foot your height. >.>

And if you start on that comic, do tell me; I'd love to read!

And, out of pure curiosity, do you have a boyfriend?

[Jeannette Willow]

Yes, there's a dearth of tea drinkers in the States. You can't even find Irish breakfast tea, and if you're seen putting cream in your tea, they'll think you're daft. Oh, and they do have rudimentary biscuits here, but they call them graham crackers, and they're not dipped in chocolate.

Yes, I worked in London, ages ago, in Bishopsgate. Pub grub is fantastic! And I grew fond of (I think) Ruttles Country Ale, quite nice with shepherd's pie.

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SuperElliot

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SuperElliot

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SuperElliot

Oh, so, I'm kinda curious. I don't mean to be offensive at all; goodness knows I have nothing against transexuals/transgenders/whateverthetermsareIdon'tknow, having been in love with two in just 17 short years, but I've noticed that there are a /very/ large number of FTM trans on gaia. Like...about half of the guys on here. Can I ask why this is?

LOL!!

That's funny. I really don't know why that is. I know that Gaia attracts a lot of girls, it's a hella gay (gay as in rainbows and s**t, not gay as in stupid) website. Dollies? WTF? Seriously? Pssh...

Anyway, I can't really tell you why it attracts FtMs. I sometimes think Gaia TURNS people in to wanna-be FtMs, to be honest. I've met so many people who started out as "normal girls" here who got obsessed with yaoi and "became" boys because of the sexual thrill they get out of gay anime boys. It's usually a phase for them and doesn't really last...

My mom actually argued that Gaia turned me into an FtM, but I've had the feelings since long before Gaia and yaoi... >_____>;

-shudders- Oh, god, yaoi...it's...not the greatest subject with me. As a 5'2" gay male...I'm not too happy with the whole thing, especially the whole 'uke' nonsese. And the yaoi fangirls that scream it at me in the halls and don't seem to understand my completely loathing of it.

Omfg! I'm a 5'2" transman! Be my boyfriend lolz!

Naw, just kidding. Yeah, that whole stereotype bothers me, too... but I am kind of a bottom anyways. But seriously, they portray small guys as girly. Yeah, so I like it in the butt. That doesn't mean I'm a girl, and have uber huge anime eyes, and pink hair and s**t.

I like my yaoi couples to have a fairly equal power dynamic. I'm actually planning on starting a comic of my own, it will have a lot of elements, a little yaoi here and there, and the main couple is between two guys of fairly similar size and body type.

XD See! it's easier for you if you like to bottom! I prefer to top, but try telling that to guys well over a foot your height. >.>

And if you start on that comic, do tell me; I'd love to read!

And, out of pure curiosity, do you have a boyfriend?

I'd probably a switch if I had a real p***s... but strap ons are kind of gross. They're cold and rubber. They don't feel real at all... and I don't get any real sensation out of ******** someone with one.

OH BOY OH BOY! It would be fun to have a reader! 4laugh I'm still working on character designs... I've had the main character designed for many years... I've just never done anything with him. He was my first male identity, actually... I'd use his name on the internet and stuff and tell people I was a boy long before I knew was trans was, lol.

HAHA! No boyfriend. I THOUGHT I had a boyfriend... then she came out to me as trans. We broke up a few months ago, unrelated to her gender identity... She was awfully cute either way, and has a big heart. Still love her a lot, just not in love with her anymore... you know?

I'd love to have a boyfriend. I don't care if he's cis or trans. It's just, I've had a girlfriend, and now I want to know what it's like to be with a boy.

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Jeannette Willow

Yes, there's a dearth of tea drinkers in the States. You can't even find Irish breakfast tea, and if you're seen putting cream in your tea, they'll think you're daft. Oh, and they do have rudimentary biscuits here, but they call them graham crackers, and they're not dipped in chocolate.

Yes, I worked in London, ages ago, in Bishopsgate. Pub grub is fantastic! And I grew fond of (I think) Ruttles Country Ale, quite nice with shepherd's pie.

I usually like my tea straight. But lately I've been a sugar addict. xd

[Adassai]

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SuperElliot

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SuperElliot

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SuperElliot

Oh, so, I'm kinda curious. I don't mean to be offensive at all; goodness knows I have nothing against transexuals/transgenders/whateverthetermsareIdon'tknow, having been in love with two in just 17 short years, but I've noticed that there are a /very/ large number of FTM trans on gaia. Like...about half of the guys on here. Can I ask why this is?

LOL!!

That's funny. I really don't know why that is. I know that Gaia attracts a lot of girls, it's a hella gay (gay as in rainbows and s**t, not gay as in stupid) website. Dollies? WTF? Seriously? Pssh...

Anyway, I can't really tell you why it attracts FtMs. I sometimes think Gaia TURNS people in to wanna-be FtMs, to be honest. I've met so many people who started out as "normal girls" here who got obsessed with yaoi and "became" boys because of the sexual thrill they get out of gay anime boys. It's usually a phase for them and doesn't really last...

My mom actually argued that Gaia turned me into an FtM, but I've had the feelings since long before Gaia and yaoi... >_____>;

-shudders- Oh, god, yaoi...it's...not the greatest subject with me. As a 5'2" gay male...I'm not too happy with the whole thing, especially the whole 'uke' nonsese. And the yaoi fangirls that scream it at me in the halls and don't seem to understand my completely loathing of it.

Omfg! I'm a 5'2" transman! Be my boyfriend lolz!

Naw, just kidding. Yeah, that whole stereotype bothers me, too... but I am kind of a bottom anyways. But seriously, they portray small guys as girly. Yeah, so I like it in the butt. That doesn't mean I'm a girl, and have uber huge anime eyes, and pink hair and s**t.

I like my yaoi couples to have a fairly equal power dynamic. I'm actually planning on starting a comic of my own, it will have a lot of elements, a little yaoi here and there, and the main couple is between two guys of fairly similar size and body type.

XD See! it's easier for you if you like to bottom! I prefer to top, but try telling that to guys well over a foot your height. >.>

And if you start on that comic, do tell me; I'd love to read!

And, out of pure curiosity, do you have a boyfriend?

I'd probably a switch if I had a real p***s... but strap ons are kind of gross. They're cold and rubber. They don't feel real at all... and I don't get any real sensation out of ******** someone with one.

OH BOY OH BOY! It would be fun to have a reader! 4laugh I'm still working on character designs... I've had the main character designed for many years... I've just never done anything with him. He was my first male identity, actually... I'd use his name on the internet and stuff and tell people I was a boy long before I knew was trans was, lol.

HAHA! No boyfriend. I THOUGHT I had a boyfriend... then she came out to me as trans. We broke up a few months ago, unrelated to her gender identity... She was awfully cute either way, and has a big heart. Still love her a lot, just not in love with her anymore... you know?

I'd love to have a boyfriend. I don't care if he's cis or trans. It's just, I've had a girlfriend, and now I want to know what it's like to be with a boy.

ffffffff. You don't want a boyfriend. They suck a** and not even in the fun way. Then again...I'm a little bit bitter after having my heart broken several times over. Like...five hundred billion times. And then run over by a truck. And then chewed on by a dog. Then crapped on by that same dog. And then set on fire. Um...I'm not bitter!

And relating to tea...whenever I go back to England, my relatives hide the sugar from me, otherwise I'll put, like, five teaspoons of it in my cup. And....I'm so happy because my brother found out I wasn't feeling well and brought me wafer cooooooooooooooooookies <33333

[Edana_Kellen]

Jeannette Willow

Yes, there's a dearth of tea drinkers in the States. You can't even find Irish breakfast tea, and if you're seen putting cream in your tea, they'll think you're daft. Oh, and they do have rudimentary biscuits here, but they call them graham crackers, and they're not dipped in chocolate.

Yes, I worked in London, ages ago, in Bishopsgate. Pub grub is fantastic! And I grew fond of (I think) Ruttles Country Ale, quite nice with shepherd's pie.

I drink some vietnamese tea and herbal tea(recommended by one of my close friends for sleep). Otherwise I brew up some regular tea, add three packets of sugar, and warm up with it 4laugh

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SuperElliot

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SuperElliot

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SuperElliot

-shudders- Oh, god, yaoi...it's...not the greatest subject with me. As a 5'2" gay male...I'm not too happy with the whole thing, especially the whole 'uke' nonsese. And the yaoi fangirls that scream it at me in the halls and don't seem to understand my completely loathing of it.

Omfg! I'm a 5'2" transman! Be my boyfriend lolz!

Naw, just kidding. Yeah, that whole stereotype bothers me, too... but I am kind of a bottom anyways. But seriously, they portray small guys as girly. Yeah, so I like it in the butt. That doesn't mean I'm a girl, and have uber huge anime eyes, and pink hair and s**t.

I like my yaoi couples to have a fairly equal power dynamic. I'm actually planning on starting a comic of my own, it will have a lot of elements, a little yaoi here and there, and the main couple is between two guys of fairly similar size and body type.

XD See! it's easier for you if you like to bottom! I prefer to top, but try telling that to guys well over a foot your height. >.>

And if you start on that comic, do tell me; I'd love to read!

And, out of pure curiosity, do you have a boyfriend?

I'd probably a switch if I had a real p***s... but strap ons are kind of gross. They're cold and rubber. They don't feel real at all... and I don't get any real sensation out of ******** someone with one.

OH BOY OH BOY! It would be fun to have a reader! 4laugh I'm still working on character designs... I've had the main character designed for many years... I've just never done anything with him. He was my first male identity, actually... I'd use his name on the internet and stuff and tell people I was a boy long before I knew was trans was, lol.

HAHA! No boyfriend. I THOUGHT I had a boyfriend... then she came out to me as trans. We broke up a few months ago, unrelated to her gender identity... She was awfully cute either way, and has a big heart. Still love her a lot, just not in love with her anymore... you know?

I'd love to have a boyfriend. I don't care if he's cis or trans. It's just, I've had a girlfriend, and now I want to know what it's like to be with a boy.

ffffffff. You don't want a boyfriend. They suck a** and not even in the fun way. Then again...I'm a little bit bitter after having my heart broken several times over. Like...five hundred billion times. And then run over by a truck. And then chewed on by a dog. Then crapped on by that same dog. And then set on fire. Um...I'm not bitter!

And relating to tea...whenever I go back to England, my relatives hide the sugar from me, otherwise I'll put, like, five teaspoons of it in my cup. And....I'm so happy because my brother found out I wasn't feeling well and brought me wafer cooooooooooooooooookies <33333

Don't think women are any better! They'll make your life a living hell after the break up! Most of the time they don't know when to quit and just let go!

Lol! Yeah, people hide the sugar from me because I like to eat the sugar cubes. xd

[Tuah]

I'm really in the mood for some hot chocolate.

If only I could find my Kingdom Hearts games, I would have a good reason to drink the last of it.... if my PS2 wants to start working again.


Stupid PS2...

[Adassai]

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Don't think women are any better! They'll make your life a living hell after the break up! Most of the time they don't know when to quit and just let go!

Lol! Yeah, people hide the sugar from me because I like to eat the sugar cubes. xd

No, I don't imagine women would be either -has a slight grudge against women-. I think I'm just going to become the ultimate narcissist and date myself. That way, I can make love to myself every night, and never fear one of us being too tired with the other still wanting. It'll be perfect.

And I eat sugar cubes toooooo! I'd, like, sit at the stables, and feed one sugar cube to a horse and one to me until I ran out.

[DamenAJ]

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I'm just trying to let you know, it's not an immature grudge. It's an issue where I don't think you're owning up to having been a jerk, and that just makes me like you that much less.

Just saying.

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Anyway. As a response to what actually WAS in your post.

I think about who I am internally. Who I am in personality, who I am in gender, my faults, my strengths, things that bug me, the rare things that make me happy....

I'll admit I don't like to look at who I am physically. It affects who I am mentally. But it causes me more pain to think about it, and there's nothing I can do about it until I get surgery.

regardless of knowing how I am internally, most of my internal issues are externally based. poor self-esteem and anxiety from people bullying me from age 6+, my body, worries about money, etc. I can't make people stop bullying me, but I report it now, I can't change my body yet, but I'm working on it, and I don't have any money, but also, working on it.

Anyway, considering I'm repressed and don't know how to cope, I'ma stick with trying to get some advice from my shrink, rather than some random on the internet.

[Edana_Kellen]

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Don't think women are any better! They'll make your life a living hell after the break up! Most of the time they don't know when to quit and just let go!

/agree
I've been through two failed relationships this year, my first ended because I was too clingy and she was a b***h and my second ended because she couldn't stand the distance. Both are the ones that broke up with me :B I'm still friends with my second ex, although me and my first one hate each other now...

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@ Damen: It's the defeatest attitude that will always make you lose. Just saying.